I feel very angry about the situation that women face worldwide — and here in the UK, where we claim to be a “developed” and “progressive” nation, yet women continue to suffer under the weight of misogyny in both insidious and overt ways.
If my DH and I split, I would never be with another man. DH tries to understand but he never will truly. You can't, unless you have experienced girl and womanhood within the patriarchy.
The comments of certain PP are exactly why I am extremely selective about my friendships with other women. I simply cannot — will not — associate with those who think feminism equals misogyny. That kind of thinking doesn’t just lack understanding; it contributes to the ongoing harm against women.
We’re told that women have “won” now, that there’s no need for feminism anymore. But feminism is the reason I can vote, hold a job, get an education, have a bank account, or own property. It’s the reason I have any rights at all. And yet we’re told to stop complaining? To be “grateful”?
While women are still dying?
There is a violence epidemic against women. In the UK, a woman is killed by a man every three days. Two women a week are murdered by a current or former partner. This is not rare, not random, and certainly not “just a few bad apples.” It is systemic.
Women are harassed, stalked, assaulted, and murdered — often by men they knew and once trusted. And that doesn’t even touch on the countless women who live under coercive control, with 1.6 million women experiencing domestic abuse in a single year.
Sexual violence is rampant. One in four women are sexually assaulted or raped — and experts say this is a conservative estimate. Rape convictions sit around 1%. Why? Because women lie all the time? No. Because the system is built — rigged — to protect men.
And the lie that gets recycled again and again is that men are the real victims — citing suicide, false accusations, war, and so on.
Let’s break that down.
Yes, more men die by suicide, but women attempt it just as often — sometimes more, depending on the age group.
The difference is that men choose more violent methods, which is itself a reflection of broader male violence patterns. So mental health-wise, we are all suffering. But somehow, only one narrative gets prioritised.
Also men are 230 times more likely to be raped by another man than to be falsely accused by a woman — but it’s our integrity that’s constantly questioned.
Meanwhile, 97% of women aged 18–24 in the UK have experienced sexual harassment, and yet less than 4% reported it. And even within our justice system, women are unsafe — over 1,500 police officers were accused of violence against women and girls between 2017–2020, and only 8% faced any kind of disciplinary action.
Sarah Everard’s murder by a serving officer should have been a turning point. It wasn’t.
We are told to “go into the trades” or “join the military” to prove equality — as though the only barrier is our willingness. There would be more women in those fields if the misogyny and sexual assault weren’t so rampant. Women don’t just fear “the enemy” — they fear every man they come into contact with.
Let’s also talk about the economic side of this. Women still earn 85p for every £1 a man earns in the UK. Women of colour earn even less. Mothers are penalised severely in the workplace — the so-called “motherhood penalty” can cut a woman’s lifetime earnings by up to £100,000. And women are still overrepresented in low-paid, insecure, and unpaid caregiving roles.
Even our bodies are ignored. Women’s medical issues are under-researched, under-diagnosed, and routinely dismissed. It takes 7 to 10 years to be diagnosed with endometriosis. ADHD and autism are often missed entirely in women because the research was done almost exclusively on men.
So yes, I am angry. I am exhausted. And I am done entertaining this backlash against feminism as if it's coming from a place of logic or compassion.
Men are scared women will laugh at them.
Women are scared men will rape and kill them.
Anti-feminism is not a difference of opinion — it’s complicity in violence. We have come so far because of feminism. And we still have so, so far to go.