This dad who’s always carrying his reception aged DD

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It is really cute, however gives my DD ideas of being carried too and I just can’t !

there is quite a walk from the car park to the classroom at my DDs school and this one dad ALWAYS carries his DD the whole way there and the whole way back.

wherever my DD sees this, she wants to be carried too ! But she’s absolutely huge. She’s only 5 but already bigger than the average 6 year old. The little girl being carried is much, much smaller than my DD.

I can barely carry her anymore.

when do people generally stop carrying their kids ?

I occasionally carry my 3 year old, but not a lot. I enjoy it, I must admit. So I do get why this dad does it. Super cute.

how long did you carry your kid around ?

If all the other children are walking surely she must feel a little odd being carried .I do wonder how much exercise kids get when out of School now.I think maybe after School, if tired or something occasionally.Every morning on the way in seems like overkill to me .Just say to your LO .Look Susie ,all the other DC are walking in ,Mummies might hurt our backs, and we need to be strong for cooking tea and playing with you!

At 4yo, DD caught the school bus, like the rest of their class. They had to carry their stuff onto and off the bus, find thee way across the playground themselves, remember to bring everything home... and they all managed fine. (In Reception the teaching assistant mace sure they got on the right bus home, but the numbers were very clear!)

They definitely don't need carried to class.

However, picking up your child occasionally is fine. Because one day they are too big and then you miss it.

. I think I stopped carrying at school age. I think parents carrying over sized kids looks ridiculous - my nephew (who’s a bit of a Dudley Dursley type, and is well built) insisted on my BIL carrying him on his shoulders last year - he was 9! Poor BIL looked like he was in agony. I thought FFS tell him no

Both my children are big, I stopped carrying my now 7 year old at about 2.5 but that’s because I kept getting pregnant (and miscarrying) and so I was trying not to lift anything heavy. I do regret telling a 2.5 year old I couldn’t carry her. I am still carrying my three year old but it won’t be much longer as she is genuinely very heavy

I couldn't carry my DS for very long at all once he was 2. I remember my DF carrying me sometimes up until about 6.

If you cannot safely carry or lift your DC that's it.

Mine are older now and well past primary school. But I’ve never seen a child be carried into primary school with the exception being kids having meltdowns.

It’s not cute at all: it’s odd. It takes them out of their peer group so they can’t run around and aren’t on the same level as their friends. It’s very princessy (either sex) and for the benefit of the parent rather than the child.

Cuddle on the couch, do what you want at home but in public, I would never carry mine unless they were upset, hurt or having a meltdown.

Carrying a 5 year old to school is wrong on many levels

I have a friend who always seems to be carrying her 5 y/o boy

stop babying him

Or just possibly the child hss some mobility issus
But yea lets all bitch a bloke no one knows 🙄

I can still carry my (v tall) 11 year old. Usually just for fun, but has been helpful a couple of times when they’ve hurt themself when we’ve been out.

As an aside, strength is really important and the average adult woman should be able to carry an average sized 5 year old.

I’d find something else to worry about

Crazy how many people on here have just invented a narrative about a situation they know nothing about! It must be exhausting being so judgemental.

School drop off is traumatic for me and I'd carry my 10 year old if it made the morning any easier (it wouldn't).

Unless there are good reasons for him carrying her it’s not cute, it’s cringe. He’s trying to keep his child a baby. It won’t do her any good. Holding her hand while she walks would show just as much affection and be better physically and mentally for the child.

DGS is five, the size of an average three year old and often gets tired. He gets carried a lot.

Its because its a man, thats all.

Its not cute, he's selfish, doing it to meet his own needs to be in a hurry (what like 99.9% of parents doing the school drop off).

None or very little of this would apply if OP had talked about a mum doing this.

How do you know there isnt a reson?
Its not occured to any of you there might be mobility issues .

Who cares if someone carries their daughter- as a PP says maybe it’s their thing? I dont get all the criticism over it.

I carried my 7 year old across a car park last night. Not a regular thing but doable and she was really tired.

When we do long car journeys at bedtime and get home with DC asleep ee carry both of them from car to bed. I can jist about manage the 9 year old still but easier for DH.

Did you miss the bit where I said "unless there are good reasons"?

DD was probably about three, I am a short arse and DD inherited DH height, and DH had a dodgy back, so neither of us had the stamina to carry her past toddler years.

We went on holiday just before she turned four, and she had a meltdown because of unusual surroundings, I ended up carrying her a considerable distance around a strange city and I swore never again, she nearly did my back in!

Don’t make people actually use logic and reasoning for goodness sake! A few years ago I had to push my then 4 year old in a pram for the school run. He’s always been at the top centile for height so obviously looked huge, has ASD with global delays and I was pregnant. Still had people/other parents tell me that he was ‘obviously too big for that’. Well better to be in a pram than having a deadweight moment or worse, running into the road when I could barely walk myself. I’d add I’m one of these women who hardly shows when pregnant, so I’m sure the judgement was very much ‘lazy parenting’…

It encourages the child to think she’s still a baby. As an ex-infant teacher I can say confidently that children whose parents carried them around unnecessarily were nearly always girls and often lacked independence in other areas (and surprisingly often were referred to by their fathers as "my little princess").

Just assume there’s good reasons, why do people have to fall over themselves to explain to avoid people like you instantly jumping to a negative?

A lot of children love being carried by their dads. I did.