Wanting to look good and be a 10/10 girl? Men specifically?

[ThisChic]

People always criticise others for caring about their looks, but let's face it, we all appreciate beauty and strive to look our best.

I feel as though most women can be seen as '10/10' if they have good hygiene and skin/make up, i.e the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts.

I feel like I have a few obvious flaws; small boobs is the main one, but also teeth and hair that could be 'glowed up'.

I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs. All different facial features, but heavily made up, thin and big boobs.

Am I being unreasonable to want to make myself look hotter by fixing my flaws?

I would make any decision for surgery for myself anyway, but I just wonder what peoples' thoughts are!

We've come a long way, haven't we.

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Chinny reckon

I've read all your replies and I think you need therapy not surgery. From 18-30 ISH I was naturally slim, perky boobs, even though I had 3 children during that time frame and yes I caught mens attention. I'm now 40, size 16, natural boobs and still get men looking - not that I'm remotely interested, I'm very happily married. I think it's lack of confidence and the way you carry yourself that makes a difference. It's posts like these that make me worry for my beautiful teenage daughters

I don't know anyone who finds the look you're describing attractive. Thankfully most of the people I know (male and female) aren't as vacuous as you.

the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts.

This is not a good look.

I have big boobs. When I was younger I had a bf who was all about legs - not really concerned about the size of boobs. I felt they were wasted on him although that wasn’t why we broke up. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I remember one woman telling me she hated that her husband looked at women with bigger boobs than hers. She had a breast enlargement. She then felt he was looking at women with smaller breasts.
It wasn't the size of her breasts that was a problem. It was that she didn't feel enough ( probably.coupled with the fact her husband wasn't focused on her).
But by all means, make the most of what you have. Draw the line at risking health and a fortune to chase after some perceived ideal of what men want. It won't make you more secure. You'll never feel they want you for you. Use the time and money to get skilled, financially secure and independent, well travelled, well rounded, confident and interesting.
Attracting a man is a side quest in life, living your own life fully is the main one.

Also - 60% of men are overweight or obese. They’ll have their own boobs right?

I think if you want to look a particular way then you can. Your body, your money, your life!

Just don’t be too surprised when it doesn’t make you happy!

Big tits does not equal beauty...

Men are not scoring beauty they are scoring the tits, and the kind of men who score tits are not the kind of men you want.

m so glad I don't care about that sort of thing anymore (never did that much but more than now).
6 months ago I bought 3 jumpers online that turned out to suit me and I've worn them in rotation since. I'm just sad they've stopped making them otherwise I'd happily wear those for years...
The thing I don't get is that people who follow these trends don't really seem to see that they are just trends. It's so short sighted if nothing else to do something irreversible like breast implants.

I’m not a man, but am a lesbian. I’m not into butch women - I prefer feminine. However, I find the look you describe pretty repellent and a total turn off. It wouldn’t cross my mind that someone who looked the way you described as sexy or attractive to me as on someone I’d want a relationship with. The ‘flaws’ are what make people beautiful. I fancy women who look like themselves, not fake or trying to emulate this look. The thought of running my fingers through hair extensions is a total turn off to me, as are fake nails and eyelashes. Your ‘flaws’ are not flaws. They are what make you you.

Depends on your definition of looking good I suppose.

But these clones with the Turkey teeth, the eyebrows, the enhanced boobs, the botox, the filler, the enlarged lips and the pout don't look in the least 'good' imo.

They look plastic - especially as they all have the exact same expression in photos selfies

It's such a shame

Many men want to sleep with anyone who has a vagina.

I am a size 18, I've suffered with adult acne and I don't dress fashionably. I do however come accross as someone who has confidence and believes she is beautiful (because all I truly think all women are).

I have had everyone from body builders with 8 packs to bankers to a plastic surgeon, to a minor British celeb wanting to sleep with me....and the list goes on.

It isn't about whether they will sleep with you, it is about whether they value you. Whether they would introduce you to their friends proudly. Whether they would invest their time, effort and finances in building a life with you.

If literally all you care about is sex, then you could easily have multiple men a night, every night for the rest of your life. Men you find super attractive too!

But if you care about more than sex, then fake boobs and teeth aren't going to help you attract someone who will cherish you for who you are.

I feel as though most women can be seen as '10/10' if they have good hygiene and skin/make up, i.e the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts.

I feel as though none of those women would be more than 5/10 as far as I'm concerned, as that fake look instantly makes you look a chav, however pretty they were to start with.

I was never particularly attractive.
I didn't frighten the horses but I was the slightly reasonable side of plain

I didn't want for boyfriends or men who would like to sleep with me

But I'm assuming they have to be male 10/10s to be acceptable to you?

A lot of the 'men' commenting on ticktock are probably still at school, lots of them are still teenagers.

Book that test. Then you can be a 20/20 woman!

I find that fake Only Fans look utterly revolting and I feel very sad that so many young women aspire to it. It shows no imagination at all. You really don't sound very bright OP.

I think anyone even mildly familiar with the mindset of your average man knows that the women they like to look at photos of are very different to the women they actually go for in real life.

Besides the obvious reasons, I really can’t help but point out that certain aesthetic choices do look ok in photographs but definitely do not come off well in real life.

I do understand, OP, that it’s nice to feel desired by men. But I am not sure you are thinking about this the right way.

You can have both though. No man looks at woman who he doesn't find appealing and thinks, "I'd like to sleep with her". Men have physical attraction, it's impossible to deny it.

No....I'm a a 30 year old woman.

Around Christmas I bumped into a girl whom DD went to school with. She’s 20 and has gone for this look-hair extensions, lip fillers fake tan, and fake eyelashes. It made me sad because I know that she’s pretty and all the fakeness overshadowed her natural good looks. She looked less attractive than she used to, imho.

I know that she has poor self esteem and I think that’s why she’s gone for this look. . I don’t know anyone else in DD”s (19) age group who has, it’s considered trashy.

Remember the hair scene in Fleabag? ‘If you want to change your life, change your life. It’s not gonna happen in here.’