Wanting to look good and be a 10/10 girl? Men specifically?

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People always criticise others for caring about their looks, but let's face it, we all appreciate beauty and strive to look our best.

I feel as though most women can be seen as '10/10' if they have good hygiene and skin/make up, i.e the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts.

I feel like I have a few obvious flaws; small boobs is the main one, but also teeth and hair that could be 'glowed up'.

I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs. All different facial features, but heavily made up, thin and big boobs.

Am I being unreasonable to want to make myself look hotter by fixing my flaws?

I would make any decision for surgery for myself anyway, but I just wonder what peoples' thoughts are!

Phew, glad to hear it. I was hoping it was just a silly thing said flippantly rather than a real belief.

I really do think counselling could hugely benefit you OP.

And this is exactly why multiple posters are saying get therapy, not surgery.

This is an issue with your thinking, not your breasts, and therefore it can be addressed by changing your thinking, not by changing your breasts.

Stop giving a shit what men think.

I based it off pretty much everything I can see in culture from the past 60 years or so…. First it was Jayne Mansfield, Playboy, Hooters in the States, Page 3, lads’ mags, and now Tiktok/Instagram influencers….

Plus just all the fuss/lust/admiration for big boobs in films and music.

You're swayed by what involuntarily celibate men think?

I don’t think it’s more important, it’s just one thing I care about.

I want a man to find me sexy as well as nice. Otherwise you might as well just be friends.

I don’t want to read that Orangutan story, to be honest. That’s awful.

I agree with this…. I think my breasts would definitely be classed as small, not average, but your point stands.

I know some decent men and they really don't go for the Instagram influencer look. They would run a mile. They like outdoorsy, active girls. Probably slim yeah, but not fake looking, just like they care for themselves.

Make sure you're doing this for yourself above anything else, because if not you are just doing it for men who want to shag you and other women.

There are two type of alpha men that I suppose are attractive - ones who care for how they look, workout and have emblems of being macho about them, or men who look after their health and are capable, responsible parents, respectful and intelligent. I guess you could say the same for women too. I think there is more than one way to look attractive and well presented.

A B cup size, 'even' an A, is within the normal range, especially for someone who has a fairly slim build (assuming from the measurements you've given). Social media and image manipulation have skewed some people's perceptions of normal. If you want a breast enlargement, that's up to you, but the breasts you have are normal sized and having bigger breasts isn't going to make everything better. Don't change your body thinking it will change your mind or your feelings, because it won't.

Well , I looked at some data and studies for you so we can put this in numbers rather than wanking material.

The majority of men (48%) preferred a C cup, 20% a B cup, 18% a D cup , 7% a DD cup, 3.4% an A cup , 0.7 a DDD cup and an equal amount (0.8) preferred a E cup and an AA cup.

Men’s preferences are all over the place(as expected) , but contrary to your conviction, the vast majority do not prefer big boobs.

But a lot of posters have made the point that this isn’t actually about what men like or don’t like but about you and that this issue isn’t actually about the size but something much deeper that needs some proper therapy to unpick. And I suggest you do because I don’t think plastic surgery is going to fix this at all

No not really them, I just thought some of them might be saying what lots of other nicer men also think buy are too polite/socially aware to say…

Men notice beauty, they want to sleep with attractive women.

Men will sleep with women willing to sleep with them.

True. I’ve been told (laddish male friends from years ago) that they prefer ‘hot’ but will ´go for not if she’s up for it’.

Let’s put aside the madness of the level of external validation that you seem to crave, as you’re clearly not ready for that conversation.

Zendaya is a MUCH bigger star than Sydney Sweeney (as we’re talking Euphoria alums) and regularly tops lists of the most beautiful women on Earth. She’s got barely any boobs.

Audrey Hepburn and Grace Kelly were around at the same time as Jayne Mansfield, much more famous and considered earth shattering beauties. They did not have big breasts.

The women many of the richest, most ‘successful’ and ‘high calibre’ (in the conventional sense, I do t subscribe to that nonsense) men in the world are married to don’t look like your supposed big boobed ‘ideal’.

The women who men have stated they find the ‘hottest’ (from my previous comment that you didn’t engage with) mostly don’t look like your supposed big boobed ‘ideal’.

The overwhelming majority of women looks nothing like that, and lots are in perfectly happy relationships with men who find them attractive.

Despite ALL OF THIS, you are stubbornly clinging to a ridiculous ideal from your carefully curated section of the media and incels online. I echo the sentiments of many previous posters - take some of the money you’re saving for your new boobs and get some professional support for your mental health.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-14576837/Bikini-clad-Vogue-Williams-husband-Spencer-Matthews-displays-sunburnt-chest-St-Barts.html

<a class="break-all" href="https://www.google.com/url?q=www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-14531811/leonardo-dicaprio-girlfriend-vittoria-ceretti-reveals-intimate-details-relationship.html" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-14531811/amp/leonardo-dicaprio-girlfriend-vittoria-ceretti-reveals-intimate-details-relationship.html

Look at Vogue Williams. She's bagged herself a millionaire who could get almost any woman he wanted.

Look at Leonardo de Caprio's girlfriend. Scroll right down the page and you'll see her breasts are small, just like every other women he's been out with.

If you Google Anthony Kiedis with his various young girlfriends, they all have small breasts.

These are rich and famous men who could easily get big breasted women if they wanted to. Instead they always go for women with small breasts.

It's the same with many other rich and famous men - Johnny Depp with Vanessa Paradis for example.

I really think you're overestimating the allure of big breasts.

Mate, no one wants the Incels, it’s in the name so what they want is irrelevant. What they think has about as much in common to what other men think as the stuff in the kitchen drains. They also want bubble gum pink vulvas with a balanced PH. Do you also think that’s something other men desperately want but are too polite to say? Come on now..

It's this kind of thinking that's making posters say you need therapy.
You're somehow absolutely determined( wrongly) to make out that every man likes large breasts and all those who say they're not bothered or don't are somehow lying, or "settling" for women who don't have massive tits.
Your way of thinking is really really skewed and not normal. Counselling/therapy really would help you address your body image issues and help you feel better about yourself.
I suspect if you went ahead with surgery you're going to need therapy afterwards anyway, because you aren't suddenly going to find dozens of nice men wanting to be with you and have a relationship with you simply because your tits have increased in size.

@SallyWD Haha I love Spencer. I know some people find him annoying but…

@WhenYouSayNothingAtAll They also want bubble gum pink vulvas with a balanced PH.

Well I’ve never heard that before…. What the actual hell 😂

Yeah, that's the calibre of person you're allowing to influence your mental health by giving them space and time in your head.

Exactly my point. I doubt you’ll go round changing your vulva colour will you? So why listen to all the other bullshit? Just because it confirms your own view? That’s not a truth, that’s confirmation bias.

I've attached several "alpha" males (according to most norms) ....young, good-looking, very successful, multi millionaire, famous film stars/stars of massive franchises.

They could have their pick of women.
They could reasonably be said to be able to have anyone they wanted.
They live or at least spend a lot of their time in California - home of surgical "perfection" (and a magnet for natural good looks & bodies too).

These are the women they chose.

(Fair enough Jason Momoa and Lisa Bonet are now broken up - but ateotd be chose her at the pinnacle of his career, for ten or more years. He had two kids with her. She gets a divorce settlement out of him (on top of her previous settlement from Lenny Kravitz)).

Where are the big tits?

(As an aside, three of these woman are older than their husbands too).

The other thing with @StrawberryDream24 list is that I suspect there would be many different orderings of which one we thought was the most attractive - all of the objectively are but some of them do nothing for me at all!

and that is how attraction works