Wanting to look good and be a 10/10 girl? Men specifically?

[ThisChic]

People always criticise others for caring about their looks, but let's face it, we all appreciate beauty and strive to look our best.

I feel as though most women can be seen as '10/10' if they have good hygiene and skin/make up, i.e the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts.

I feel like I have a few obvious flaws; small boobs is the main one, but also teeth and hair that could be 'glowed up'.

I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs. All different facial features, but heavily made up, thin and big boobs.

Am I being unreasonable to want to make myself look hotter by fixing my flaws?

I would make any decision for surgery for myself anyway, but I just wonder what peoples' thoughts are!

You will be 10/10 to the right one.

Tell me you don't want to be wanted by a misogynistic , woman hating incel? Trust me, let them leer at other woman and leave you alone.
Have some respect for yourself and set your bar much much higher!

Incels rate women out of ten, some men do, women do not rate themselves out of ten. Because it’s extremely self-abasing. I’ve never heard a woman even with the lowest of self worth rank themselves out of ten.
If you are a woman, god help us all.

No i am not a man. It sounds like you have very little life experience for someone aged 30.
The type of men that comment on influencer videos on social media saying “wow 10/10” are exactly the type of men I’d want to avoid.

Er yeah, this really victim blamey and incely tbh. Women generally can’t help what size boobs they have so to put an additional burden on women who are bigger to make sure some prick doesn’t treat her like shit in the street is just foul tbh.

@pinkstripeycat One person (jealous work colleague) once said to me “Your boobs are really small aren’t they?”

Oh what a b!tch.... was she (or did she think) she was some kind of goddess? 😂I bet she wasn't.

I had a similar experience where a woman with big boobs, fairly slim not that much, was telling me how much she loves her boobs, and how she would 'get us to the front of the bar queue' with them, because 'obviously you can't'. I didn't say anything.

You posted on Mumsnet specifically for men’s opinions? 🤔

I am a woman. I would post a photo of myself but I don't want to (1) for my own safety and (2) for my job which is public sector.

Ok, well by 10/10 I am talking about how men think of women's looks. Even if they don't use the term '10/10', they still find some women more beautiful/sexier than others. They see certain features as flaws/disappointing and see women with those features as less (physically) attractive.

I didn't start the whole 'ratings out of 10' thing, I don't even like it or necessarily believe in it myself (that one person can objectively be more attractive than another because of this or that physical feature), but lots of men do apparently think that way. I don't mean objectifying, I just mean seeing as attractive or not.

Not just men's, but there are some men on here. And women share what men they know think, as some on here have.

You don’t like it or necessarily believe in it, you know only certain men subscribe to it and yet you are considering undergoing surgery to alter your body in an attempt to be seen as a “ten” on an arbitrary, subjective, bullshit scale created by morons?

I never said that women 'are asking for' harassment or that it's their fault for wearing whatever they wear.

I was being accused of looking for sleazy men's attention, so I replied by saying that, when I do get implants, I won't be showing them off because that isn't my real aim.

I did not say that women with big breasts who choose to wear low cut/revealing clothing (and they can wear whatever they like!) deserve letchy comments.

Not sure the likes of kate moss have ever had a problem attracting men

What is your 'real' aim

I am English. And no, not a troll.

Just to look attractive, for the right man/men.

No she hasn't, but the artsy, rock star type of men. But I don't think she is what most men would describe as their ideal woman. Most men will say people Scarlett Johansson, or Sydney Sweeney (sorry to be mentioning her again, she's just the 'it' actress at the moment).

@ThisChic what experience do you have with men in real life?

Because they're not just one homogeneous blob. Sure, the men you see commenting on TikTok posts of a certain female aesthetic may appear to want tiny bodies, big boobs, etc but this obviously isn't representative of all men and I would hazard a guess that those men aren't looking at those women with long term intentions. A woman of your age should understand that.

I think you need to stop visiting TikTok as it's clearly warping your grasp on reality.

You are right that is a 'bullshit scale created by morons', but I do think that most younger men agree with it on some level/see women's attractiveness in that way.

I just feel like I lack - physically, purely physically - in some way, and I could easily correct that with surgery.

@TwinklyDenimCat ...... that those men aren't looking at those women with long term intentions.

I know that, but they're still looking at those women and thinking of that as their physical ideal, and if they could get a long term girlfriend who looked like that, assuming she was nice to be around, that's what they'd want. I also assume - maybe, hopefully wrongly - that the vast majority of men prefer this look.

And to be honest, it really isn't hard to achieve that aesthetic. If you're already slim, all it takes it large boobs (implants for men because I have small ones), then I wouldn't be 'flawed'.

You think getting surgery on your breasts is an easy way to achieve this? Do you understand what’s involved in surgery? The risks?

I just don't feel like I can be found fully physically attractive by a man with the boobs that I have now.

Perhaps fix your own first it’s quite unpleasant 🙄

I do. The risks are very low with a good surgeon though.

Well, then what’s stopping you? Good luck with it.