Wanting to look good and be a 10/10 girl? Men specifically?

[ThisChic]

People always criticise others for caring about their looks, but let's face it, we all appreciate beauty and strive to look our best.

I feel as though most women can be seen as '10/10' if they have good hygiene and skin/make up, i.e the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts.

I feel like I have a few obvious flaws; small boobs is the main one, but also teeth and hair that could be 'glowed up'.

I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs. All different facial features, but heavily made up, thin and big boobs.

Am I being unreasonable to want to make myself look hotter by fixing my flaws?

I would make any decision for surgery for myself anyway, but I just wonder what peoples' thoughts are!

DOn't get me wrong, I met and dated some wonderful men too. But, the ones who were all about my breasts were all not good people. Men who objectify women usually are. And believe me, being valued for your breasts, no matter how lovely or good the man may be, is still being objectified by them. Think yourself grateful not to know what it's like to be objectified.

As someone older than you, I think you're being an absolute short-sighted idiot about all of this. It's easy to think the grass is greener but it really isn't. Implants are implants. The feel like shit, even the really good ones. They will also sag and need replacing in every 10 years too.

You have a wonderful figure, and I say this as someone who was all front and no back. Any man will love your body how it is now. You don't need to alter yourself to look sexy for a man who loves you and find YOU attractive.

But, I appreciate I and others words are all falling on dead ears. You know best. You want implants. You want to be a 10/10 girl, something I've never heard of before and am thankful for it. God only knows why you've started this thread given you know you're right.

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You shouldn’t have to modify your body to ‘look’ sexy. You should be intrinsically sexy because a) you feel sexy and lovable in and of yourself and b) because your partner loves you and finds you sexy as you are (the whole physical and non-physical sum of who you are - your humour, intelligence, kindness, caring etc). Sexiness isn’t the first glance attraction, it’s the quirks, the way we laugh or eat, the way you respond to his touch and kisses, the way you get his jokes.

That you have reduced it to ‘I need to have bigger boobs’, shows that you have neither a real understanding of men, and what they find attractive, nor any insight into what constitutes the basis for a meaningful relationship. I find this desperately sad, really, as I am sure you have a hell of a lot to offer a good, kind, loving man. Fake boobs will just attract the Andrew Tates of this world.

But can you say exactly why this particular ‘look’ is a good look?

OP I have read this with such sadness for you. You have consumed way too much social media content and have lost touch with reality.

You are lying to yourself if you think all aspects of your life are great, aside from your looks. If everything else was great, you wouldn’t be having these thoughts. I am wondering if your post is even real and I hope it isn’t.

Right, anyway. Looks fade. And quicker than you think. Menopause symptoms will hit you in your 40s or 50s and maybe even in your late 30s.

The fact that you would let a surgeon cut into your boobs to please/attract a man is sickening. Any man who doesn’t want you as you are is not worth having. I can understand people getting boob jobs if they are seriously impacted on an everyday basis and feeling very unconfident to the point of it impacting their happiness. But that doesn’t apply to you I don’t think.

I mean this kindly, but your life must be quite empty to think like this. It would be wiser to better yourself by gaining skills, qualifications or experiences - life experiences or work, whatever. And to engage with nature - hiking, dog, whatever.

Ive met plenty of men, my husband included, who want to go out and do stuff, not sit around whilst their partner wastes excessive time on appearance. Instead of spending a load of time with makeup, hair, image - get your hair in a pony tail and go out and actually do something fun.

And plenty of them don’t like fakery

You seem to be basing a singular idea of beauty on what creepy men post on TikTok thirst traps. Surely you're old enough to realise how silly that is.

Most men I know IRL prefer women with pretty faces.

Looks aside, what do you enjoy in life? What's your outlook? What kind of person are you? What are your interests and hobbies? What makes you tick?

It’s overwhelmingly obvious that OP is a man pretending to be a woman. Why tf are people going along with this? 🤨

Social media posts sometimes have filters and photo shopping.
I am at an age where i do not give a flying fig what “men” think. I am not slim, do not have large boobs, only use a little Johnsons holiday skin product (to avoid the goth look 😂) do not have hair extensions or filler etc BUT I am kind, smart and (I think) funny. I wear classic clothes, make up that suits my skin tones and (hopefully) smell nice. That is all I care about. Other peoples views on my body are not my concern. However that said if you really want to do that “look” then crack on as its nobody elses business really.

You won't get any say in the types of men your fake tits would allure, unfortunately.

Same here. As I sit here riddled in rashes and blisters, exhausted from my immunosuppressant and struggling to type with arthritis - I’d just like to feel a 5 out of 10 🤣

oh but I’ve had 3 kids so apparently I’m not worthy of rating anyway now I’m so past it 🙈

OP get off social media. What you see on there isn’t real and it seems to be affecting you and your personality. I think you’ve offended most of the women on the internet today. Work on you for a bit and remember ‘it’s what’s inside that counts’

But you don't need fake big breasts to look sexy for your future boyfriend/husband. You seem absolutely obsessed by imagining that every single wonderful man wants a woman with huge boobs when they absolutely don't! Vast numbers of men don't care what size breasts women have, anyway yours at a B cup aren't even that small, loads of men would find that very attractive.

But you've got to get away from obsessing about breasts, I can guarantee that no man ever fell in love with or married a woman simply because she had large breasts.

You need to meet some actual normal real men and get off looking at tiktok. You sound like you're far too obsessed with looks, maybe you should spend some time cultivating new interests and making your personality more interesting and less shallow. You sound shallow because you said you want to surgically change your body to get attention from many men, that seems extremely sad to be still wanting to validate yourself in that superficial way at 30.

Have you ever had any serious relationships with men? To me it seems like you can't have done because all this sounds so desperate. You also seem so immature, because by 30 most people have realised that finding a loving partner isn't about the size of your tits and how white your teeth are. I really do think that you would benefit from spending your money on some therapy to talk about your view of yourself, men and relationships. I have children your sort of age and I'd feel so sad if my daughter felt the same as you do about herself and her value.

OMG go and throw your phone into the sea you silly girl

Well OP you've convinced me, I'm off to research implants so men find me worthy of their attentions.

And as the OP does seem to be a man, hope I can land a chap as witty as he is.

I’m going to ask my partner what he sees in me and just cross my fingers he says “tits,” otherwise I’m doing having boobs wrong.

Indeed. Was slow on the uptake. Wondering whether male or trans identifying male as the latter seem to be far more obsessed with pornified, fake representations of womanhood than any man or woman I’ve ever met.

I've found that having smaller boobs has been a particularly useful filter for precisely tge kind of dickhead bloke the look you describe would attract!

Are you a man, just out of interest?

I agree that not every man has the exact same 10/10, but there probably is a degree of consensus in our culture/society at the moment, or a more 'popular' type of 10/10 with men.

Did you see the post of @User789956 pages ago? He basically says that multi millionaire/billionaire's wife "don't come close" to TikTok 'influencers' in terms of looks, as if these influencers are some sort of goddesses, when all their content is edited 😂Even though I can accept that a lot of men think they are 'WOW, so hot', I still find it laughable that a man can only assume that, purely in terms of looks, a billionaire surely agrees with him that these social media women are objectively perfect...🙄

I can see what you mean, but I would still like to be seen as sexy, by the right men. With big boobs, it's about how you dress them. I know it's harder to look 'modest' with them, but not impossible.

I'd still like to have big boobs that I can hide and show in the right context as I please.

No, I am not a man. I don't know how I can prove that on an online forum, or why you think it's so bizarre that a young woman would want to look hot?

Someone asked me to post a photo of myself on here because of my job, it's best to remain private.

Where to start…

Not scoring yourself like a trip adviser review would be one thing. You are a human being ffs

@ThisChic I think your idea of the right men may well be the issue here

You seem looks obsessed and very shallow indeed. Why? You’re only going to attract really sleazy, shallow men. Unless what others say is correct and you are actually a really sleazy shallow man. Which would make sense as I know zero women that think like you. None whatsoever. Thank goodness everyone I know has a modicum of self respect.

@doublec I'm not really disagreeing with anything you say, but use the term 'objectifying' a lot and I think there's a difference between lust/finding attractive and objectifying. There must be, because just finding each other attractive as men and women isn't wrong. Objectifying is reducing the person just to their flesh. A man can really fancy a woman without reducing her to flesh in that way.

I just want to experience being desired and wanted, and not being (physically) a disappointment (to a nice man) because of my chest. Why does that make me vacuous?

About implants feeling rubbish....Apparently, the newer ones (gel ones) feel quite close to natural breast tissue, they do have a 'squish' to them, just a bit firmer. And they do move/jiggle! I probably wouldn't get them if they all looked like beach balls, but nowadays they don't.

Anyway, I do see where you were coming from with your post.

@Breezybetty No, I am not a man, and I don't see why everyone is assuming that. The type of sleazy man you're imagining would probably never set foot on Mumsnet..... They tend to populate Tiktok, Instagram...

"You seem looks obsessed and very shallow indeed. Why? You’re only going to attract really sleazy, shallow men."

Women only attract sleazy men if they choose to present themselves in a sleazy way. I don't intend to dress like that. I'm not going to walk down the street with my new breasts in a low cut top in the middle of winter....