Wanting to look good and be a 10/10 girl? Men specifically?

[ThisChic]

People always criticise others for caring about their looks, but let's face it, we all appreciate beauty and strive to look our best.

I feel as though most women can be seen as '10/10' if they have good hygiene and skin/make up, i.e the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts.

I feel like I have a few obvious flaws; small boobs is the main one, but also teeth and hair that could be 'glowed up'.

I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs. All different facial features, but heavily made up, thin and big boobs.

Am I being unreasonable to want to make myself look hotter by fixing my flaws?

I would make any decision for surgery for myself anyway, but I just wonder what peoples' thoughts are!

And of course the only thing that matters in life is what the men think of women's bodies. FML this is such a depressing read.
Get your giant fake tits so you can be reborn as A Sexy Ten. Enjoy a world of being objectified, where men look at them before your face, where men shout comments about them at you on the street, where perfectly normal outfits look sexualised because of the way they fit.

You say statistically, but your statistics appear to be from Instagram. Instagram is not a reflection of all men. It is a reflection of the type of men that go around commenting on photos of women they don’t know on Instagram. They tend to be losers.

It sounds to me as if your beauty standards are based on what you think men want - and that is based on a very porn-addled set of standards.

If you want bigger boobs for yourself, then do it - but I think it is deeply sad that you just want them to be sexy for the men you date.

or as my granddad used to say "You don't look at the mantelpiece when you're poking the fire"

@Whooowhooohoo Yet your guy friends still think that physically some women are a ‘10’ and some aren’t. Do they think the TikTok type of women I describe in my OP are the 10s? 😂

There’s also the fact that an attractive girl can also be nice and be nice to be around.

That’s funny albeit quite misogynistic.

I see his point but pretty much all men are more turned on sleeping with a women they find attractive than one they find less so… And I’d much rather a guy found me hot…

So what do you want to change, Teeth, hair, and boobs? Do you think it'll end there?

Why is it ‘sad’ that I want to be sexy for the men that I date? People want to be desirable to their partners. Nobody - men nor women - like the idea of a partner not being ‘into’ them. I’d hate to think of a man settling and just using me, thinking, ‘meh she’s no beauty but she’ll do…’

Men also want to be sexy for women. It’s one of the reasons the gym goers/bodybuilders work out.

Just boobs and teeth. Only subtle teeth straightening and whitening because my Wisdom teeth came through and crowded my mouth.

And yes it does end there. I don’t think countless procedures and overdone procedures look good. There is such a thing as well done, realistic looking surgery.

Why would you be with someone who didn’t find you attractive to begin with?

You, in your natural/current form, are already somebody’s “type.” You don’t need to create some imaginary version of yourself to widen that pool, because if they weren’t interested in the “original” version… they’re not for you.

Yes, but they did then. She created a sensation. Of course there was a lot of hype and promotion, but she did create a sensation.

What exactly are you looking for on here? It looks like you've made up your mind already. Plenty of people have enhancements. All for different reasons.

@PinkArt I never said that mens’ opinions on women’s’ bodies are the only or most important thing.

I just said that I wanted to be found sexy which I don’t think is bad in and of itself.

I don’t want ‘giant’ tits. Just a nice ample cleavage, like Katy Perry, Kate Upton type of size. Not freakish.

Nice men also like to date women they find beautiful. They just don’t leer or make lewd comments. The idiots who harass women are not the only men who like ‘hot’ women.

I'm just so grateful my daughters don't think like you

Isn’t this about what you think is sexy though and that changes between people. Are you wanting to change the way you look because you don’t consider yourself to be it

different people have different ideas - DD loves a footballer who I know I would not have found attractive at that age (too short and curly blonde hair) and she cannot understand my love of keanu reeves (when young). Very few of us will have the same 10/10

@Illegally18 I’m sorry if some men have seen you as “just a pair of tits”, that obviously isn’t ethical.

But it is possible for a man find something - such as large breasts - attractive and still see women as people and not be sexist.

As an owner of small, 30B breasts, I’d much rather have big breasts and be seen as alluring by the right men.

The right man would like your 30Bs.

Spot on.

OP maybe aim for a fit and healthy look instead. But do it for you.

Maybe you could post a photo so we can stop wondering what you look like 😍

Speaking as a man I certainly wouldn't. What is it with this slapping a label onto a huge subset of the population?

@Tiswa Who is the footballer? I like a guy with curly hair 😂

And for straight people, the idea of sexy comes from the opposite sexes’ view of it. Or most of them, there can always be an outlier.

It’s like women wanting to be skinny and small breasted (I hate the term ‘flat chested’ to describe us!!) women because of fashion…. When most men don’t find that sexy, the majority find Sydney Sweeney type body hot.

Yes exactly. Men (and women) don’t just want to ‘f@ck anything’, unless they are really really desperate….

It doesn't necessarily work like that. If you had big breasts you might get seen as a sex object by many wrong men. There is way more to being alluring than characteristics of your body parts.

Look the best you can for you. Hairstyle, make the most of your features. Be fit and healthy.Etc etc. if you want surgery, maybe for something that makes you super self conscious, well I get that. But is it something can be addressed without? Is it something taking about can help with.
i think there is a danger that “the look” becomes exceptionally dull, totally fake, we develop prosopagnosia (facial blindness) and become just another clone. Celebrate and make the best of yourself. It’s very attractive.

Beauty ideals have always been pretty shallow but you entirely come across as not wanting to look good for yourself but to be considered "hot" by the sort of men who lech over women on Tiktok and Insta, to the point you'll have surgery to achieve it.

Don't expect other women to validate this.