Wanting to look good and be a 10/10 girl? Men specifically?

[ThisChic]

People always criticise others for caring about their looks, but let's face it, we all appreciate beauty and strive to look our best.

I feel as though most women can be seen as '10/10' if they have good hygiene and skin/make up, i.e the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts.

I feel like I have a few obvious flaws; small boobs is the main one, but also teeth and hair that could be 'glowed up'.

I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs. All different facial features, but heavily made up, thin and big boobs.

Am I being unreasonable to want to make myself look hotter by fixing my flaws?

I would make any decision for surgery for myself anyway, but I just wonder what peoples' thoughts are!

They don't say it aloud (they shouldn't), but I think pretty much all men think, if they see a woman they find very attractive, 'I'd like to sleep with her'. Men, especially young men, have high sex drives.

OP I think you need to get off social media and get some fresh air

Fixating over how men may rate you is a complete waste of time. Do whatever you want to your appearance, you don't need anyone's permission, but do it because you want to, not because you think men as a collective will like it

I don't disagree with you but there are plenty of people who go down the fake tan, lips, hair and fake everything much as possible, it looks terrible but lots do want to look like barbie

Oh no, objectively she's right. It is absolutely ridiculous. Really hoping a teenage boy wrote this dribble 😅

Seriously, get off the Insta, unless - as I am inclined to believe - you are a teenage boy doing a fantastic troll.

You will meet ZERO decent men who slabber after women on Insta. What a profoundly pathetic creep he would have to be. 😅

This is so sad .
How have we got to 2025 and women think like this .
You need to stay away from social media
Get therapy. Build up your self confidence.
Find your worth in something other then your appearance
And big boob's just equals back pain and trouble finding clothing that fits nicely

The vogue for the blow-up sex-doll look will pass, like the Victorian bustle or the heroin-chic aesthetic. It's just fashion. Even if you follow fashion, surgically altering your body to do it is just plain weird.

Everything, you can tell when it's fake. Boobs must've come a long way, because they've always been very obvious when they're fake.

This is a very confused and mixed-up topic and usually ends in a fight lol.

Of course women's appearance is often considered far more important than common sense dictates it should be. Etcetera. However, you seem to have a good grasp on it all.

I'm older and have had a bit of work done. I feel better, look better and am very glad I did it. It met my expectations. It is not my whole life. Etcetera. I won't have more done because I feel like while you can get away with a little bit, it's easy to overdo it and then you begin to just look strange.

If you want to improve your appearance, it's up to you to figure out what you want to do, why, how much is good vs. how much would be too much for you and so on.

Then please be sure to thoroughly research what you want to do and to get very well checked out medical help, if that's to be included. This is not something you want to jump into, go too far with, or go cheap on.

However, I think you are quite right that right or wrong, being more attractive can open more doors for you. It's your life. Live it the way that makes you happy. Best wishes.

You're only thinking of the surface appearence, not the inner confidence and depth. Without inner confidence to compliment looks, they fall flat. Imagine those '10/10' girls pulling faces of envy/disgust/greed/self pity do you they still score full marks?

People who radiate kindness, warmth, compassion usually seem most attractive to others. Nobody has the perfect face, body or features so you may as well forget about scoring points that way. Some people prefer small shapely boobs over big heavy ones, some admire big symmetrical bleached teeth to natural ones. Lots of men hate hair extensions as they shed, damage natural hair, come out in bed, snag or they just don't like lots of hair getting in the way, especially hair from another person or ironed plastic fibres.

The hourglass figure has been in and out of fashion for centuries, but you can't 'create' bone structure you don't have, or add height or change genetics.

Focus on being happy, grateful, healthy and you become far more attractive than if you injected your lips with silicone, your face with botox and spent your days peering at yourself in a mirror!

I still think there is nothing wrong with making the most of how you look, for yourself. Men will notice a lot of things. I recently lost 15 kg (just back to my normal weight after children, and took me ages) and noticed that different men noticed me in different ways at both weights and in between those weights. It is true that at a slim weight (size 6-8UK) that I probably get overall more male attention but it is often quite creepy and can be uncomfortable and not why I lost the weight anyway. Main thing is you being happy and feeling great about how you look and then the right person will come along....

I think good looks are something you are blessed with. Make up can enhance or change your appearance but I cannot make you a 10 10 girl. Most people are average in looks. There is nothing wrong with making the best of your looks but I think surgery is a bit extreme.

You don’t need opinions from MN to get a boob job- just get one.

Although, seeing you’ve asked I’ll give you mine. Spend the money you have saved for your boobs on therapy instead so you can work through why your happiness is so dependent on strangers finding you attractive.

As a side note- what looks ‘normal’ online looks terrible in real life.

@DeepRubySwan observes that women considered a 10/10 by men get a lot of unwanted attention or worse. Would you want that, regardless of it being unacceptable?

Men who are obsessed with looks often don’t have much else to their personality. You would be better off finding someone you have shared interests with rather than focusing on looks.

I think the type of men you will attact with the look you describe are not the type of men that you would want a long term relationship with.

Men are also all very different and some love small breasts. In my experience a lot of men appreciate natural beauty and don't want someone looks vastly different when their make up is removed.

Only the obviously fake ones look obviously fake. It’s always been that way.

Without even getting into whole self-esteem/validation thing....

OP from someone who is a bit older than you, I absolutely guarantee you that in the real, non-TikTok world....

Heterosexual men are not that picky.

I said big boobs, not fake ones, although because I was born with small ones, unfortunately, which I don't like, they stop me from looking sexy and I want to look sexy....So I want to get (quality) breast implants.

But regardless of quality, implants are implants are implants, they are still fake.

To be honest OP you can get the teeth, boobs, hair and some men might turn their head, it’s not all by the way, but it’s not you being attractive is it? There is a fair bit of fake going on here. Regardless of how natural it looks.

So it will never really be you, you will still be who you are now.

No woman has all men panting after her in real life. That’s not how attraction works.

Why don’t you go somewhere busy with young attractive people this weekend, big park, and observe. Notice who gets the looks and who doesn’t, look at how the in real life attractive women are. It’s not just looks in real life, it might be online because online that’s all there is to go off, but in real life, it’s smiles, laughter, how you carry yourself.

And most men in real life prefer not fake. Which you will never be if you stick silicone in yourself.

You will end up looking like a 30 year old who is trying too hard, it’s not a good look.

Talk to your friends, talk to your male friends, see what they say. You are making decisions based on a bed of social media sand and are prepared, desire, to chop your body up, add bits, bleach bits and I honestly don’t think you are going to get the effect from others you want. You would get more attention if you spent that money on getting a house deposit, or investing in some other way.

Because what comes after the hair, boobs, teeth, man, then you will want the perfect kitchen, car, holiday destinations, clothes, accessories, it’s what social media does, make people chase impossible dreams.

Look like this - get this
Have a house like this - be this
Go on holiday here - feel this

It’s all snake oil OP and you have fallen for it.

It’s so much better to be adored by one man for being you than admired by many being fake.

Not all men have the same tastes though! There's a lot of men who don't like big boobs because they prefer athletic figures or a 'handful', men who don't like fake tans because they prefer the pale peachy/rosey complexion and a lot of men like shorter hair on a woman as it's quirky/cool. Most women prefer a fuller woman to a skinny woman. If you change yourself to suit 'men' you could lose out on the right man because attractive is individual. Of course healthy hair, skin and being in shape is a good thing but don't radically alter yourself - because you don't know what an individual man will find attractive.

My exH's celeb crush was Natalie Portman and he also fancied Lorraine Pascale, DH's crush is Gillian Anderson (when she was Scully), an ex bf's celeb crush was Scarlett Johansson. All so different - give men more credit that they don't all want an assembly line woman. And the ones who do will trade you in for a younger model in time because they want an image not a person.

I think that’s totally subjective. My husband dislikes hair extensions, fake tan etc. He also prefers me pale to tanned, says it looks more natural on me. I do know he prefers me a touch slimmer though he’d never say that. He also is much more affectionate when I don’t wear makeup. He says I look cute and comfortable - plus it doesn’t get on his clothes lol. I am aware he is only one man but I’ve also learnt that lots of men don’t like bigger or smaller boobs.. it’s all about shape and proportion. The women men want to date are different from those they observe on social media for… well to perv on.

I’ve been called beautiful by many men in my life and almost always when I’m out without doing my hair and makeup etc. women are more likely to compliment me when I’m done up.

Men aren’t a homogenous mass. I think the only things one could say MOST (still not all) men prefer would be being a healthy weight (so not always model slim but still fit and agile), full hair (not always long but full) and, frankly, a beautiful symmetrical face - this ranges from cutesy to delicate to lucious in the features department.

Who has fake boobs these days? They are extremely unfashionable and cringe, Are you stuck in 2010?

This 😆

OP, you’re tying yourself up in knots here with your inconsistent information, take a step back, draft it all out first (much like a Mother’s Day insta post) and come back in a day or two for another go bless you. Or better still, start watching a box set.