Wanting to look good and be a 10/10 girl? Men specifically?

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People always criticise others for caring about their looks, but let's face it, we all appreciate beauty and strive to look our best.

I feel as though most women can be seen as '10/10' if they have good hygiene and skin/make up, i.e the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts.

I feel like I have a few obvious flaws; small boobs is the main one, but also teeth and hair that could be 'glowed up'.

I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs. All different facial features, but heavily made up, thin and big boobs.

Am I being unreasonable to want to make myself look hotter by fixing my flaws?

I would make any decision for surgery for myself anyway, but I just wonder what peoples' thoughts are!

Men don't like/fancy Kate Moss though, men like Lads' mag type models, or today's equivalent, Instagram/Tiktok influencers.

Thanks for that. I’m going to weave that in at some point to my dd. Not now. She’s not even looking for a boyfriend.

I don't want inflated lips. I just want a natural looking breast augmentation (that is possible) and possibly some braces/teeth whitening. Not stupid Turkey teeth though!

All it proves is how gullible women are and points out the ones with little intelligence to be brutally honest, I genuinely can't imagine any man or woman that obsessed with looks that is intelligent and doesn't have deep mental health issues going on

@User789956 . To be perfectly honest, if it's solely for the male gaze, then 8/10 with a lot of personality or humour is what actually works best. 90% of the wives of millionaires are never 10/10. They are usually slim and conventionally attractive but nowhere close to those type of Tiktok models.

Are you a man? I find it funny that you put Tiktok models on such a pedestal...."nowhere close to those type of Tiktok models". It just proves my point... You seem to think that women's appearances can be rated objectively.

Those Tiktok models all edit their bodies in the videos too btw....

It's true that we all get old, but nothing wrong with wanting to make the most of our youth and look beautiful while we can.

god, don’t change who you are for men, you’re on a hiding to nothing and it won’t work. I’m a perimenopausal overweight woman who is definitely not a natural beauty but I work with what I have, I’m confident and I like myself. I don’t give a shit about what men want - although I get a few offers, more than I did in my youth.

This is my first thread on here? And possible my only one.

@Dervel Getting male attention is easy getting our curiosity is a lot harder. I’ve dated sone very conventionally beautiful women, and I’ve dated some less-conventionally attractive ones. It not always the beauties that stick in our heads.

But you're still seeing some of those women as beautiful, and some as less so.

I still don't think there's anything wrong in making myself conventionally beautiful (for me, the main change is my breasts really....).

I'd hate for a man who dated me to describe me as being 'less attractive' further down the line. I'd rather he never dated me in the first place. I want to be found beautiful.

I wouldn't aspire to be a 10/10, you either have it or you don't. Even with surgery the best you can hope for is a 8.5 if you aren't genetically blessed.

Utter nonsense. Fgs if nothing else before he became toxic and weird one of the most beautiful men on the planet dated Kate Moss.

Many men find the sort of fake, augmented beauty you are aspiring to deeply unattractive.

@CalleOcho I see what you meant by 'attitude' now.

As a fellow 30 year old woman with natural 32E’s and size 8/10- I can hand on heart say big boobs are nothing special and I get lots of unwanted unsolicited misogynistic comments from men - but so do my friends of all shapes and sizes.

I know those unsolicited comments are unwanted and not pleasant, but at least those men are saying you are desirable and sexy. Even if their behaviour is unacceptable.....

Those same men would be ridiculing women with small boobs.

Seriously you need therapy to work on your self esteem, not a boob job.

Are you a man?

What separates an 8.5 from a 10 exactly?

Because most of these influencers don't have classically really pretty faces, they have big noses, wide mouths (not that either of those are inherently bad, but not classically pretty perhaps), but they're all filtered anyway and men don't seem to care.

These influencers do all have the thin + busty body type though, which is sometimes with real breasts, sometimes not.

I just don't think surgically enhanced will ever look as someone who is naturally beautiful so don't think it's achievable with surgery

Try learning more languages and a musical instrument instead. Way more appealing. We’re not here to please men. Do things for yourself and don’t get distracted by all things superficial- it’s a waste of your life. Hopefully, you’ll live to be very old and wrinkly. With kindness, put Instagram down & pick up a book.x

I feel better with smaller boobs than bigger ones. My clothes hang better.

This surely can't be real? Despite the OP's protestations. I suppose I'm hoping it's not real.

Oh dear, your mistake is in being interested in beta simps, because those are literally the ONLY men who follow/like/subscribe to women they don't know. It is just the most genuinely pathetic and embarrassing and humiliating behaviour.

Yep, that includes any of your boyfriends/husbands. If you're reading this and getting upset for your Nigel you're just as sad as he is. 😆

Imagine a grown man sneaking around liking the posts of women he's never met and will never meet in the desperate hope she'll notice him and like him back 😅😂Utterly, completely and truly pathetic.

Women and men both like to look at attractive strangers. Nobody, except a beta simp or a teenage girl, thinks following/liking/subscribing to them to look at their pictures is normal, necessary or adult behaviour.

So if you want to attract pathetic, unmanly men (no matter how much testosterone they might be taking) keep worrying about what these clowns think.

These men do not even exist for me, let alone give a flying fart in a windstorm what they think of how I look 😅

You know what my DH and sons all say? Most women are attractive.

I don't want a man to look at me and think, "I'd like to sleep with her." That's objectifying and I'm a person, not meat.

Enhanced breasts or face? Breast implants are not as obvious as they used to be. Not if they are done well.

And for faces, there is a bit more subjectivity than bodies.

It is real. Whether you think it's ridiculous or not..

My DH is the same with me. He thinks I'm more attractive than ever, but that's because of our journey and relationship, not my body if you are going by the standards OP is.

If I make changes to the way I look, I do it for myself, not to please anyone else!