Most ridiculous things you’ve been criticised for on mumsnet

[Peacepleaselouise]

Lighthearted…
What’s been the most silly things you’ve been heavily criticised for on mumsnet?

That I was being sexist by using the term of endearment “love”

I once commented that i tended not to buy sweets/chocolates except for treats at the weekend as i would eat them and got roundly bollocked for having no self control and should work on myself 🙁

Oh and years ago I was criticised for using a toilet brush to get my toilet clean and I still don't know the alternative for getting limescale out below the waterline.

completely off topic but I tried scrubbing it away with a cheap descaler tablet recently and it works amazingly!

For having the audacity to give my child with multiple food allergies McDonalds which I knew was reliably allergen-free.

Naturally pointing out that McDonalds was healthier than facial swelling and a week of diarrhea was poo-pooed as a defence

He's a typical MN long, lean teenager now so clearly not too broken by his early nutritional complexities.

If I was hoovering up toddlers then you'd have a point but it's a spider so I'm not apologising

I said a brand of makeup made me look awful, and was told in no uncertain terms that I was wrong. I hadn't posted a picture.

Also been called a men's rights activist .... yup, when not posting on MN about secondary schools and Vinted bargains, I'm down in Parliament square waving placards for Fathers 4 Justice ....

Jam jars! I disagreed with the vast majority of posters over a SIL who gave home made jam as gifts and wanted the jar back. I pointed out that new jars are expensive so I didn't think it was an unreasonable request. Most people thought SIL was bonkers. That was all fine, I just expressed a different opinion, but the vitriolic responses from people who thought I was wrong were incredible.

I got criticised for leaving my toddler asleep, in the pushchair next to the open back door in the back garden while I sat in the kitchen watching Doctors. (near to the open back door, child in full view).

I was lazy for not bringing the child inside to either put in their cot or wake up and why was I watching TV in the daytime anyway???

For saying lightheartedly that I had forgotten how much work catering for visitors was after a long break for lockdown. We had friends round for a big football match and I had made a curry from scratch. Apparently I should have just shoved some frozen pizza in the oven.

Stating, correctly, that lockdown was causing my child’s mental health difficulties. Apparently their kids loved being cut off from all human contact for months on end and if mine didn’t it was my fault for projecting my anxiety onto her.

My DH and 18yo DS had a fight (which nearly became physical before I intervened) about the cat being in or out one night. I was criticised for being worried about DH and DS relationship rather than being worried for the poor cat. I was apparently a terrible pet owner and this was what was most important. (The cat was out pretty much every night anyway as he preferred it and would wake DH up to let him out in the early hours, hence the issue).

Offering an opinion that differs from modern "right think" (then the oh so liberal ones shouting and name calling - because they're allowed) and basically being bullied off of a thread.

Sorry, not exactly lighthearted!

I was ridiculed for admitting I bring fruit on car journeys as a snack for my children. Alongside crisps etc. Apparently saying i brought 'car fruit' makes me some kind of superiority complex snob.

I was slated once for letting two twelve year olds walk to the chip shop two streets away at around 5pm.

One poster couldn’t believe that people ‘lived like this’ and others were shocked by how late I allowed DS and his friend go outside.

It was summer, the area is very safe. There was one very quiet road.

It was batshit.

Letting Dd, then age 14 dye her hair.
I was told I'm irresponsible, her hair will fall out and it will burn her skin.
Ten years on, she still dyes her full head of hair and does not resemble Freddie Krueger.

I said David Bowie was a sexual abuser because of his well-known links with the Baby Groupies, and well-documented sexual contact with under-age girls.

Posters began throwing epic amounts of what-aboutery, minimisation, victim-blaming and exceptionalism. To say it didn't go down well when I took exception to this is an understatement.

😬😬😬

To be fair, you must have psychopathic leanings, you monster

Putting a bit of blusher and mascara on before some friends (including some of the male variety) came over so that I didn’t look like death warmed up.

Apparently makes me “desperate” and “a bit pathetic”. The misogyny is real here.

No comment 🤣🤣🤣

Not allowing my 4 year old (at the time, now 13) to eat yoghurt in bed!

I got called "batshit" for suggesting that clapping for the NHS was like a modern form of prayer but it didn't mean the hospital gods (the doctors) would be able to save you.

I stand by this observation. It was a psychological reaction, clearly. People just aren't that intellectual here sometimes.

There was a recent thread where expecting a secondary school child to walk to school all year round... including when it might be dark... was child abuse.

In a similar vein I was told I only should have had one child so I could always guarantee I could pick them up (so again they wouldn't need to walk in the dark).

I didntvrealise children disintegrated in the dark!

I would have said that the not buying them in to tempt yourself with was excellent self control!!

I got told I sounded "high maintenance", "ungrateful", and "like an absolute cow" because I wanted my MIL to stop taking my (usually sleeping / breastfeeding) newborn out of my arms without asking!

Oh I saw that thread it was mad wasn't it ?

I am friendly with a women who makes jam and pickles I save all my jars for her, I dishwash them but she boils them too so perfectly clean and sterile.