My mum is withholding my inheritance from my grandfather because of ideological reasons

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None of this is confirmed, but I have strong suspicions.

my grandfather sadly passed away last year. He owned a very successful business, and was very generous with all his grand kids.

since he died, I have heard my mother (his daughter) and uncle having conversations about dealing with the inheritance from him. For context, I know that my uncle received enough to pay off all the mortgage on his new £1.2m house, so I know my mum likely received a similar amount.

My grandfather also told me before he passed a few times that I’d be receiving a good inheritance and shouldn’t waste it.

the issue is, my mother is very ideologically opposed to the idea of she or her kids inheriting money. She is very left wing, and believes that it is immoral for some people to receive inheritances when others don’t receive anything. Therefore, she has refused her portion of the inheritance.

it also means that I have no idea how much I have inherited. She is the executor of the will, and I have not seen it. I only ask as I’m saving up to buy a house, and it would be great to know whether I’m likely to receive any money to help with a deposit.

Every time I’ve asked her about my inheritance, she gets very angry and accuses me of not loving my grandfather and only caring about his money, which isn’t true.

how do I deal with this? I don’t want to fall out with my mum over this, and she is still very much grieving.

If you’ve inherited, you have a right to the money, whatever her views!

CN you contact the solicitors direct? If you ate named in the will the. She cannot withhold it surely?

Can you ask your uncle if he's aware of what the will said?

I am sure someone more knowledgeable will be along, but I think at some point the will has to be made public.

Also that if your mother refuses her share that it has to be redistributed (but she could of course take it and give it to charity).

If you are named in the will then you should be provided a copy of it.

Contact the solicitors doing rhe probabte and ask, she cannot stop you getting your inheritance regardless of her views and to do so is illegal.

It’s absolutely your right to receive your inheritance, that your grandfather loving planned and left for you.

It’s not unethical to take it either.

If your Mum disagrees with the law on inheritance tax that’s for her to take up with political representative and at the ballot box.

What does the will say? Who is the executor? Has anyone been in touch about the will. It’s available to see on line eventually. I’d start searching because you cannot be disinherited by executors or family. If you cannot find the info, see a solicitor. If there’s no will there’s probably no money for you.

If probate has been granted, you can get a copy online here: https://www.gov.uk/search-will-probate

Costs about £1.50-£2.

"Search probate records for documents and wills (England and Wales)" https://probatesearch.service.gov.uk/help

Do not discuss this with anyone. Get a copy of the will for your own records.

Are you sure that you're actually named in the will? Your mother has no right to stop you from having what has been left to you directly, but I guess it's possible that your grandfather may have thought you'd get your inheritance via your mum... and if he left it all to your mum and your uncle, then I'm afraid there's nothing you can do about it if she decides to give her share away!

I would order a copy of the will ASAP & in the meantime speak to a solictor because I'm not sure how you reclaim inheritance if your mum has already otherwise disposed of it.

I would order a copy, and if you’re in it, perhaps speak to your uncle before deciding a lawyer.

I’m not sure which solicitors are being used. How can I find out? And can I request the probate record without her being alerted?

thank you all

Look up the website of the Office of Probate to get information about the content of your Grandfather's will. It costs only a few pounds to receive a copy of a will, and once you have that you will be able to take things further.

All beneficiaries together have to agree to any variation of a will, so it's unlikely that your Mother could reject any inheritance on your behalf.

Is she aware that she could be committing a crime by not telling you? Are executors not bound to act according to the will?

Can you ask the other grandchildren about it and see if they have received their share?

Your uncle will know who the solicitors are, and your mum won't know if you get a cooy of the will from the probate office.

I hope you get this sorted, if your grandfather left you anything your mum has no right to withold it from you.

Yes do this.

BTW the linked page is the help page. To do the search click "menu" at the top right of page and click "search". Different if it's post-death but pre-probate, which the help page explains (then use www.gov.uk/find-persons-will). It may not give you the answer, but it's worth a shot at minimal cost. My understanding is that noone would be notified who requested it but you could always call or use the chat function to check this before requesting.

Sorry for your loss OP. I hope you get whatever your grandad wanted you to have x

You need to follow pp’s advice to check a copy of the will. It’s unclear if you have been left a specific inheritance or if it all went to your mum and uncle and your grandfather was just assuming she’d share it with you. If it’s the latter, there is no ‘your’ inheritance. If it’s the former, she can’t withhold it from you. So her ideology is neither here nor there. Get the facts and then you’ll know.

I've worked for charities who are notified by the probate office. That's how they know if they've received a legacy.

It's really simple to get a copy without alerting upsetting the family. You do need the facts.

If you request a copy of someone's will do the rest of the family get alerts? Sorry to jump on thread ...

Do all wills have to go through probate?

This previous post suggests not, but I can't see an 'official' answer on .gov etc.
OP if you've very worried about notification I would call the probate office and ask.
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/legal_matters/4736674-purchasing-probate-document-from-the-gov-site-how-confidential-is-it

No they don't

Sorry about the situation. This might help:
https://www.lawsociety.org.uk/membership/offers/national-will-register

not up to her if youre name in dg will

ask you uncle