Page 19 | First Mother’s Day - DH didn’t put anything on socials

Genie98 · 2025-03-31T12:20:57+00:00

AIBU to be a bit gutted that my DH didn’t put a post up on socials yesterday to mark my first Mother’s Day? My feeds were full of other posts celebrating their Mum’s and I was hoping DH would have done something to mark the occasion. He has done the odd birthday post in the past and posted about our engagement/wedding etc so it’s not that he has never used it. Just feeling a bit deflated and a bit jealous of my mum friends who had lovely messages and photo’s from their OH’s.

alwaysdeleteyourcookies · 31/03/2025 22:13

An adult conversation and no falling out - nothing wrong with demanding certain standards from our men.

Zero chance you're not the birthday whinger.

Pricelessadvice · 31/03/2025 22:16

Stop the world, I want to get off!

And these people are raising children… good god.

Butchyrestingface · 31/03/2025 22:17

Pricelessadvice · 31/03/2025 22:16

Stop the world, I want to get off!

And these people are raising children… good god.

Possibly not.

Last week she and the boyf had only been seeing each other a year. They've worked quickly to fit in a wedding and baby in the last 10 days or so.

Waffle19 · 31/03/2025 22:23

My BIL did a gushing post yesterday but didn’t even see the mum of his kids, let alone spoil her. I got a lie in, chocolates, a thoughtful gift and no gushing social media post. I know which I prefer.

BurglarAndSwag · 31/03/2025 22:24

To be honest (which I'm not!), I much prefer things to be 'low key' and not broadcast to everybody and his (police) dog.

Where would I be if everybody knew my business? In bleedin' prison, that's where!

No, social media is a mug's game and should be left well alone. Well done DH, I say.

proximalhumerous · 31/03/2025 22:30

Genie98 · 31/03/2025 13:41

Yeah I did put most of that on my stories

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How about focusing on your actual husband and your actual children that many women would give their eye teeth to have instead of watering mother's day curating your bloody "stories"? JFC.

BelloItalia · 31/03/2025 22:36

Genie98 · 31/03/2025 21:00

Well I’ve spoke to DH and he was understanding - infact he said it was something he had thought about but time just got away from him in the end and he didn’t just want to post something for the sake of it. I said he could have drafted something in advance, which I think he will do next year.

An adult conversation and no falling out - nothing wrong with demanding certain standards from our men.

This is absolutely the same poster. The birthday one also ended with some driven about standards expected in “our men”

load of shite

She/he will be back at Easter complaining that the DH hasn’t posted on “the socials” to wish her a happy Easter - despite buying her a £40 Easter egg or something as equally daft

friendlycat · 31/03/2025 22:39

alwaysdeleteyourcookies · 31/03/2025 22:13

An adult conversation and no falling out - nothing wrong with demanding certain standards from our men.

Zero chance you're not the birthday whinger.

Exactly. I hope we don’t get another instalment.

MrsEverest · 31/03/2025 22:42

Hollietree · 31/03/2025 13:28

My husband has never posted a smarmy message on SM about me on my birthday, Mother’s Day or any other occasion. And for that I am very glad. I can’t think of anything more cringe.

He did however help the kids make me breakfast in bed, gave me lovely cards and a bunch of flowers. A perfect and private celebration just for our family.

A private celebration you’ve just…….boasted about on social media.

I used to be judgy about people sharing grief on social media until an ICU social worker explained to me that introverts and extraverts handle this very differently and what seems intrusive and OTT public to one is normal and helpful to the other.

It’s ok to ask for the kind of recognition you need.

Crackanut · 31/03/2025 22:50

MrsEverest · 31/03/2025 22:42

A private celebration you’ve just…….boasted about on social media.

I used to be judgy about people sharing grief on social media until an ICU social worker explained to me that introverts and extraverts handle this very differently and what seems intrusive and OTT public to one is normal and helpful to the other.

It’s ok to ask for the kind of recognition you need.

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She's not "boasting on social media". It's an anonymous post.

Redglitter · 31/03/2025 22:50

Genie98 · 31/03/2025 21:00

Well I’ve spoke to DH and he was understanding - infact he said it was something he had thought about but time just got away from him in the end and he didn’t just want to post something for the sake of it. I said he could have drafted something in advance, which I think he will do next year.

An adult conversation and no falling out - nothing wrong with demanding certain standards from our men.

Awww you jumped the shark there. Exactly what the birthday girl said too.

First Mother’s Day - DH didn’t put anything on socials

LittleBearPad · 31/03/2025 22:54

TwistedWonder · 31/03/2025 21:35

Shallower than a puddle after 30 seconds of rain

The strength of a wind up thread is knowing when to stop before the shark is well and truly jumped

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^^^ This

Harry9 · 31/03/2025 23:17

Redglitter · 31/03/2025 22:50

Awww you jumped the shark there. Exactly what the birthday girl said too.

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Comma splicing in both is a dead giveaway too.

saraclara · 31/03/2025 23:17

Redglitter · 31/03/2025 22:50

Awww you jumped the shark there. Exactly what the birthday girl said too.

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You beat me to it. I was just trying to find that same phrase in the other thread, to demonstrate that it was the same poster.

Another thread that's a waste of everyone's time

Mnetcurious · 31/03/2025 23:19

Genie98 · 31/03/2025 21:30

He gives us plenty of attention - I don’t need him to be talking to me 24/7. I’m a strong independent woman and can stand on my own two feet.

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I’m a strong independent woman except I need social media validation before I and can stand on my own two feet.

Fixed it for you.

LittleBearPad · 31/03/2025 23:22

Genie98 · 31/03/2025 21:00

Well I’ve spoke to DH and he was understanding - infact he said it was something he had thought about but time just got away from him in the end and he didn’t just want to post something for the sake of it. I said he could have drafted something in advance, which I think he will do next year.

An adult conversation and no falling out - nothing wrong with demanding certain standards from our men.

Drafted something! For social media ephemera

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 31/03/2025 23:26

Genie98 · 31/03/2025 17:21

Thanks everyone, appreciate the variety of opinions and would just stress again that I was really grateful for the day I had.

I think I’ll tell hubby later that it’s something which was important to me, but I’ll be careful to word it in a suitable way. He has photos of us on his grid so I’m sure people were a bit surprised not to see anything!

They were sitting there waiting for your DH to post were they? Scrolling through your feed looking for a post?

Sure Jan.

AllyDally · 31/03/2025 23:29

Genie98 · 31/03/2025 17:21

Thanks everyone, appreciate the variety of opinions and would just stress again that I was really grateful for the day I had.

I think I’ll tell hubby later that it’s something which was important to me, but I’ll be careful to word it in a suitable way. He has photos of us on his grid so I’m sure people were a bit surprised not to see anything!

I can guarantee not one person was surprised to not see a post from him 😂

RareAuldTimes · 31/03/2025 23:29

Maaate, be glad he didn’t! The evil eye/nazar is real and if you like your life how it is it’s best to keep it to yourself or very close family.

AllyDally · 31/03/2025 23:51

No grown up in real life would be remotely bothered about this, regardless of their age. Its just not true that it is an expectation of a certain generation. Although saying that I saw today that Gen Z have 'menu anxiety' before going out for dinner so maybe there are a few numpties that something like this would actually matter to

I saw a few posts and all bar one they were from men who literally hate their wives and its all for show. The other was from a friend of mine whose job involves them being away a lot of the year so did post something to say how amazing she is for running the fort alone so I kind of understood that one.

Bigearringsbigsmile · 01/04/2025 00:00

Anyone else picturing the op as Sonia from Gavin and Stacy????

JustSawJohnny · 01/04/2025 00:19

Who knew Mother's Day, which was celebrated for decades before social media was invented, is now only valid if it's slapped on Facebook with some flowery bollox words and a collage of pics?

Whatever will people THINK if there's not a POST??!!!!

Real life isn't sufficient unless seen by people from school/uni/old workplace you haven't set eyes on in 15 years!!!

Genuinely pathetic.

MakeYourOwnMusicStartYourOwnDance · 01/04/2025 00:28

Genie98 · 31/03/2025 13:24

I got a card, some flowers/chocolate etc and we went for a roast. I am really grateful for that and I know I sound entitled but I just felt a bit gutted that’s all

So he marked the day by getting you flowers and chocolates and went out for a meal and you're moaning because he didn't put it on social media to let everyone know how special it was?!
That's ridiculous, sorry. This coming from someone who likes to put stuff on FB etc!
Are you the same poster who went in a huff as her partner didn't do an "Instagram board" or whatever of her birthday?!
If not there's two of you 😳😂

MakeYourOwnMusicStartYourOwnDance · 01/04/2025 00:30

saraclara · 31/03/2025 23:17

You beat me to it. I was just trying to find that same phrase in the other thread, to demonstrate that it was the same poster.

Another thread that's a waste of everyone's time

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Oh FFS, should have known

2024riot · 01/04/2025 00:52

Is this some AI post because I don’t think anyone in real life is this ghastly, or cares so much about social media