Husband getting married

[Grassisalotgreener]

Separated 13 years, no contact since children came of age, separated as a result of dv. I was informed today that he is getting Married next week .
Should i inform someone in authority?
Aibu if i report him, i was delighted when he moved on so not upset he is getting married,but im astounded because we are not divorced!

maybe he also assumes like a poster here that divorces happen automatically?

If you know where he is getting married, I would inform the venue / the person who will be marrying them.

Agreed. If you die now, he will get everything up to a certain threshold (£250k IIRC). Anything left after that goes to your kids.

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Assuming that you are both British nationals and were married in the UK…
Going by my own experience, I had to provide my decree absolute from my first marriage when booking the registrar for my second marriage.

I presume people who knowingly commit bigamy simply claim that they have never been married. If your husband has admitted to a registrar that he has been previously married, then they will ask for his degree absolute, so he cannot be of the opinion that he has been ‘automatically’ divorced due to length of separation.

Can I ask why you haven’t divorced?

Yes it’s not a “oops, sorry I forgot the form” type of crime, it’s a big deal.

So you turn up to the wedding with the kids, then when they ask the bit about "does anyone have any reason that Twat & new wife to be cannot get married, please speak now", you stand up and say yes, we are already married! Don't forget to film it and claim your £250 on you've been framed.

Or you just reply to his request about the kids attending saying that as he is already married, then you're a little confused about how he can be getting married again.

Was your first marriage a legal one? e.g. not a sharia law thing? Is this marriage actually a legal one? e.g. not just a blessing.

Your other option is to contact the registry office/church doing the marriage and point out that he is already married. There should be banns (church) or some sort of legal notice that has gone out at least 29 days before the ceremony in the registry office.

I would think also some kind of non-official ceremony and not marriage. But guess your kids will report back.

My understanding is that register office officials routinely carry out checks before marrying people - something might be flagged there. I don't know if it is the same in a Church setting. Odd that it all seems to be going ahead right now.

No crime has been committed yet. If the marriage goes ahead and it is ‘real marriage’ with an official registrar present as opposed to a making promises under a flowery arch in a field type thing then yes you should absolutely report it.

Your children can find out more on the day.
Until then there is nothing to report.

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I agree with this.
Also @Grassisalotgreener do you have a copy of your Marriage Certificate?

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If you are one for dramatics you could recreate the vicar of Dibley scene

'I object, the groom is already married... to me'

You can report bigamy to the police on the non emergency number as it is a crime
This is what I would do so he can't lie to his fiance when they turn up at his door asking questions.

https://www.westyorkshire.police.uk/ask-the-police/question/Q742#:~:text=If%20you%20suspect%20a%20person,non%2Demergency%20number%3A%20101.

Also, find out the venue and contact the registry office of that area & inform them that he is legally married.

I have it was the first thing i did after separation, it was very expensive to sort the trauma of the dv and raise my children. I prioritised and divorce was not an option at that time, cannot say too much but i am tied to him financially through some archaic rule and i didnt and dont have the funds to divorce him.

Do the children know that you are still married?

would wait and see what he does next.

I would wait until after the wedding. Get the details then report to the police.

Do your children know you’re still married?

Oh please do this. And then come back and update us 😂

If the kids know where he’s getting married then you should be able to easily find out if it’s approved for “proper” legal weddings or just some place with a celebrant giving some nice service but not a legal marriage.