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Is he a knobhead for not picking me up?

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WTF99 · 30/03/2025 00:00

Would you expect your DP to pick you up from the train station when you've been away for the weekend (with my, not our, daughter) and you've a mile to walk to get to his house where your car is parked

He said he was too busy WFH to take 15 mins out to pick me up.

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Dogsbreath7 · 31/03/2025 19:04

If you don’t like walking why didn’t you park your car at the station? How did you get there?

Icyboy · 31/03/2025 19:50

It's a mile, 1609 meters, you're being unreasonable.

Familysquabbles23 · 01/04/2025 10:27

WTF99 · 30/03/2025 00:54

I didn't ask, just to be clear @nadine90 and I wasn't helpless @TeapotTitties as I walked back very competently thank you
I left my DD in London, where she lives, and made the rest of the return home on my own.
I thought he might meet me, that's all.
I'd have met him....

Like maybe he'd missed you and wanted to be nice, but in reality he was ticked off bc you went away without him and so he cba/was being stroppy?

pollymere · 01/04/2025 12:17

I thought your DD was four from your reaction! I would always walk home from the station. My DH might pick me up if I had lots of heavy luggage or it was raining but if he was working probably suggest I get a taxi.

It's lovely to be picked up but YABU to be disappointed if you're not; especially as he was working at the time.

eastegg · 01/04/2025 14:06

steff13 · 30/03/2025 02:00

Sometimes. I'm sure it depends on the job. I conduct hearings as part of my job I can't have my appellant say oh hold on for 15 minutes while I go pick somebody up from the train station.

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Totally. I hate this idea that it’s all about meetings and managers. You didn’t have a meeting in the sense people normally mean (you had something more important!) nor I expect did you have a manager breathing down your neck, but you had important work that needed doing right then, as did everyone else in your hearing.

nomas · 01/04/2025 14:13

BatchCookBabe · 30/03/2025 08:22

Hard to say. Too many variables @WTF99 But my DH would very likely have dropped everything to come pick me up. Though if he wasn't expecting it, and he was in the middle of something, he'd probably whinge a bit. 😆 Then again, so would I. That said though, if it was only 1 mile, I would very likely just walk, unless it was dark, and/or a very lonely pathway back to my car. OR I had loads of shit to carry. Hope you're OK now! Smile

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Not everyone can drop work like that. What do I do when I’m chairing a meeting with 20 attendees, tell them they have to wait whilst I pick up my partner? I’d get sacked.

mydogfarts · 01/04/2025 14:14

Whatonearthdoiknow · 30/03/2025 00:57

Are people really so heavily monitored when WFH that they can’t nip out for 15 minutes? Everyone is legally entitled to a break, he couldn’t organise his day to collect you in that break? I wouldn’t think anything of it if any of my staff said “I’m nipping out for half a hour to collect whoever”.
So yes I think he was being a knob head. I would have collected my DH and he would have collected me.

I'm not remotely heavily monitored. I can work whatever pattern I like (hence taking a long lunch break today). But I still have important work that often has urgent deadlines. So some days it would be fine to nip out and pick someone up and other days it definitely wouldn't be

Everythingwillbeokay · 01/04/2025 16:17

I got home from a weekend today. I got a taxi the mile or so home. My DH was at home, not working today, but it wouldn't have occurred to me to ask.
My weekend was to see my Dad, he offered to get me from the station at his, to go the mile or so to his house. I declined, and walked.
I appear to have survived both.

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