Mother's Day - should school do more?

[inquisitiveinga]

Disclaimer: I am absolutely not going to complain regarding this matter, I understand that teachers may have completely valid reasons for the below. My child's teacher is also FANTASTIC, she doesn't have children, and I can't help but think that due to this she perhaps doesn't understand the value of a handmade card?

My child has come home from school today and it's very clear that nothing has been prepared for Mother's Day, at least where their class is concerned. Usually a "beautiful" card comes home and it really makes my day.

Personally, I'm not bothered. I'm fortunate enough to have a husband who will not doubt ensure I have something from my 7 year old, and 1 year old (although I'm not really sure anything from her is warranted!). However, I can't help but think about single mothers in the class who may not receive anything (and who absolutely should).

AIBU to even be having this thought process?

Schools are there to educate children, not to provide you or anyone with greetings cards.
The curriculum is packed already without this kind of stuff.

Mine used to do this in reception and year 1, possibly year 2. I think once they get into KS2 there is a greater focus on learning.
There is also the possibility that they need to be considerate of some children's circumstances and whether making a mother's day card would be upsetting (yes they could make one for granny or someone else special to them, but maybe the teacher has information that isn't public about why this might not be suitable).

I don’t think it’s the job of school. My 5 yrs old came home with card but that’s because writing inside is a challenge and is part of learning to write. My 8 year old didn’t come home with a card but she is capable of making one herself at home.

Of course you're bothered. You've made a thread about it.

I have two young relatives who don’t have a mother anymore. I’m sure they are not alone. How would that make them feel.

You are being very, very unreasonable.

There are children in schools that don't have or live with mothers and the teachers need to think about those kinds of situations too.

It's nice if they do, but really how much value is there in a card your child was forced to make as part of a lesson anyway?

Personally, I'm not bothered

Clearly you are or you wouldn't have started a thread about it

It’s a minefield these days with so many different types of family. Best avoided in school.

Exactly. Dear god, damned if they do, damned if they don't.

Or she may be concentrating on teaching the children the actual curriculum. Jesus. I thought I’d heard all the parental complaints when I was teaching, but this is a new one. Pathetic.

What lesson do you think they should drop in order to make a card?

However, I can't help but think about single mothers in the class who may not receive anything (and who absolutely should).

If a kid's old enough to attend school, they're old enough to fold a bit of paper and colour it in at home.

Then she drops something to fit this in and gets complaints.

Are they in Y3? Lots of school only make Mother's Day cards in Reception, Y1 and Y2. YABU, although I agree they are lovely to receive.

Yes or the responsibility to remind / help these kids falls on someone else eg friends / family. NOT school. Bloody hell, ridiculous expectations.

My 8yo made a card at girls brigade and school. My 3yo made a card at nursery and had either managed to write her name or trace over it. I was very happy with these over shop ones. It's dh that never gets anything as they don't seem to bother for fathers day.

Edit: I do get him something and get them to do a card but I feel he's missing out slightly.

Year 2.

I think lots of angry women have just hopped into this post and been unnecessarily negative about a reasonable question.

Single mothers are everywhere and deserve recognition. Many don't get it, I was just thinking of them.

I hope you all have a splendid mother's day.

Don't forget to start a thread on that and complain to the school.

i think personally it’s your husbands job to get your child to draw or make you a card , but saying that some schools are different my 6 year old in year 1 came home with a card she made me were as 10 year old in year 6 didn’t come home with one :/ so really depends what age your child is as my older one was busy at school doing his mock tests so they clearly didn’t have free time to make a mother’s day card x

As a beaver leader, I used to carefully vet the family situation of the current list of beavers, and look at what else we had on the program.

Program juggling issues, or anyone with any delicate ‘mother’ related situations and they were off the program. Slot needing filled and straight forward home set up - we did them.

This.

So just to clarify, none of you have received a mother's day card from your child whilst in year 2?

However, I can't help but think about single mothers in the class who may not receive anything (and who absolutely should).

And what about children who don't have a mother at home (death/SS/other). How will those children feel while all the kids are fabricating mother's day cards? Maybe that was the reason the teacher decided against it: she is aware of this being the case.
YABU