Mother's Day - should school do more?

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Disclaimer: I am absolutely not going to complain regarding this matter, I understand that teachers may have completely valid reasons for the below. My child's teacher is also FANTASTIC, she doesn't have children, and I can't help but think that due to this she perhaps doesn't understand the value of a handmade card?

My child has come home from school today and it's very clear that nothing has been prepared for Mother's Day, at least where their class is concerned. Usually a "beautiful" card comes home and it really makes my day.

Personally, I'm not bothered. I'm fortunate enough to have a husband who will not doubt ensure I have something from my 7 year old, and 1 year old (although I'm not really sure anything from her is warranted!). However, I can't help but think about single mothers in the class who may not receive anything (and who absolutely should).

AIBU to even be having this thought process?

Have they stopped making cards with a tea bag inside? Guess they probably don’t have the funding for the materials like they used to.

Who sits there on a Friday night and thinks up these ridiculous things?

You’re not bothered? Ok 🤔

Schools are there to educate. There are plenty of lessons around Mothering Sunday, caring and crafting skills.

My children’s schools only ever made cards to Year 2. I think that they could still be made through to Year 6

In my old school, reception and year 1 would make a card. Any child without a mother for example, would make a card for whoever they wanted to. Same for Easter and Fathers’s day and Christmas.

It hasn't occurred to me actually, but no, I haven't had a card through school or whatever since preschool. My youngest is in yr 2 now.

I think it should be every class in the school makes one or none of them do, but the teacher may have just forgotten.

Mummy’s who are not out to complain but are very concerned about all the other mummy wummy’s who are on their own and don’t have a husband to ensure they get the card they absolutely deserve.

Oh my goodness. Really insulting that because the teacher doesn’t have children maybe she doesn’t understand the value of a handmade card.

You have absolutely no idea about her personal life and whether she is ttc, has had miscarriages, doesn’t want children or whatever. You have no idea about her personal life at all and stupid comments like this are really upsetting.

So good of you to think of the single mothers because you “aren’t bothered”. So unbothered you made a thread about it.

I don’t think YABU - making a card is an educational thing to do. And also appreciating your mum is a good thing to focus on.

School shouldn’t only be about academic achievement.

And the focus the school thinks should be prioritised isn't the choice of the individual class teacher.

And what about the children without a mum - i think there are so many different shaped families that this is would be a minefield to navigate for a teacher - they may not be doing cards because someone in the class would be 'othered' perhaps

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Why would a single mother not get or do anything for mother s day? .if it is important she will be more than capable of having a nice day. she can say to her kids let s go for a lovely walk it is mother s day. If they old enough they might initiate wanting to make something like a card. If they involved in a church (which is where mothering Sunday comes from), I am sure the Sunday school will mark the day.
Single mothers do not need to buy into the commercial card element .
Are you saying that only a two parent family can mark mothers day because the other parent will arrange something?

I think that’s thoughtful.

In our school the PTA organised something. It didn’t disrupt the curriculum and I believe was done during break time. I did have to pay a small ‘ticket’ price and DD was very excited and didn’t let me see her bag today.

Did your child say that no one made one?
Maybe they did and DC forgot to bring it home? Or your DC did something else during that time.
I liked the little cards when they made them but like others I think it might have just been reception and Y1.

I teach year 2. We made cards this year but other years we haven’t. Depends on if we have any children where it could be upsetting and/or if we can fit it in. Same goes for Father’s Day!

OP you don't seem to have taken on board PP's suggestion that it could be due to sensitivity to children whose situation warrant it.

In each class, there may be a child/children who don’t have a mum anymore.
It’s not appropriate to do things like that in lessons. What should those children without mums do while everyone else is making cards for their mum?
Teachers can’t win. If they did do Mother’s Day cards, I’m pretty sure the guardian of the child without a mum would be on the phone complaining.

School is to educate children.

Agree.

I won’t bore you all but let’s say I’ve waited 20 years to have children.

I have two in school, two nursery. The school ones did a card for “mothers and others”. Both chose to make for their “aunty” who is my best friend and their god mum, who lost her mum suddenly at Christmas.

this would be my first Mother’s Day cards, I’m just filled with love that they are so, so kind.

Excellent post.

And let’s just let teachers… erm… teach?

I'd get rid of mother's day altogether, seems to be nothing but trouble judging by the threads on here. Besides, it's discriminatory to childless people, why should people get cards and presents just for procreating? If their kids want to do it off their own back then great but we don't need an allocated day for it.

If you care that your child hasn't made a card at school, your child is one of the lucky ones.

I don't think your original question was unreasonable OP by the way but this is!

They're just a minority according to the OP.