Do you remind your partner about their own mother on mother's day?

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Or do you just leave them to it?

Do you actually buy the card for him?

Do you feel he should do more but you don't get involved?

Just interested 😊 In our case i remind him, but leave him to it AND think he should do more ...

I don't husbands job to sort, not my Circus not my monkeys

I might remind him a week or so out but usually leave him to it. If he seems under a lot of pressure/stress then I will offer to help by picking something up at the supermarket for such occasions as I am a SAHM and do the big shop.

What? No of course I don't. He's a grown man and I'm not his PA.

Not my circus… Why would anyone, surely our partners are grown ups….🤔

No, DH is well aware he has a mother, so I don't need to remind him.

No way would I remind him and certainly wouldn't buy anything.

No. Why should I ..he is a fully functioning adult who tbh is better organized than me. He often reminds me.

Of course not.

I reminded mine over text last night (we don't live together) and he was quite sarcastic - think I offended him!

Possibly fair enough. Won't be reminding him again, anyway.......

No! He’s perfectly capable.

Not usually but we were in a shop with cute 'mum' mugs and presents lately so I suggested he get something.

It’s a no from me.

Buying something is crazy

I tend to remind DH if something is coming up but then he sorts all the gifts etc for his own family for MD/FD/birthdays etc.

He works at sea for 6-8 weeks at a time so it’s usually “remember it’s X’s birthday just before you come home from next trip” so he’ll sort it all while he’s home.

I don’t, because not my circus and I do enough family admin. But I do feel bad because MIL is lovely and DH doesn’t do anything. So not sure what the answer is.

I remind my husband, for his mum and my brothers for our mum.

This is interesting. It's a bit like that here.

I remind everyone I know, where I suspect incompetence. So my brother, husband, son (for his girlfriends children not for me). I think they were all aware but why would I not do it when it costs me so little? I draw the line at actually buying the presents though.

No, because I married a capable adult.

Even if I hadn’t, I wouldn’t remind them. I wouldn’t wish to be complicit in encouraging their own incompetence.

I might mention it’s Mother’s Day or Father’s Day soon but that’s it. It’s not my job!

I remind everyone I know, where I suspect incompetence.

I love this phrase.

I do not. She’s been his mother for 44 years and the cards have been in shops since the day after Valentine’s Day.

He's more likely to remember than I am to be honest. But I wouldn't expect him to remind me any more than I'd expect to remind him

This thread made me sad...I love my MIL, she is a kind loving mam and a lovely Grandma to our children so I put thought into her gifts just as I do for my mam.
We are a team - Anything we can do to make the other person's life a little easier we do. This year I ordered all the gifts (my mam, MIL, his grandma and Aunt) DH went out and bought all the cards. I'm happy to be the gift organiser for both sides of the family as he does lots of things for me/my family too.

Thankfully she doesn’t believe in it as I wouldn’t remind DH anyone as she’s an old witch!