Feeling very uncomfortable and almost violated after visit today by BT Engineer

[DontGoChasinWaterfalls]

I need a sense check and to realise I'm not overreacting.
BT engineer came today to upgrade my service to fibre optic broadband. He was late first of all which could've been accepted if he acknowledged he was late and apologised. He stepped into my house with his work boots on and I asked if he would mind wearing shoe covers as I have grey carpets. I'd never ask workmen to take shoes off and I provide the blue shoe coverings. He huffed and said he has to go in and out my house. Immediately I felt uncomfortable but explained I have a small child who sits and crawls on the carpet. He reluctantly agreed.
He somehow managed to jam the lock on my porch door by trying to leave it on the latch. After 15 minutes I managed to release it. He then tells me he needs a colleague to come to do something outside with the plyons and phrased it as "if it's after 2pm they won't bother coming". He eventually starts work after 40 minutes after faffing and I go upstairs to do some work.
5 minutes later I hear a panicked call asking if he could use my bathroom. Before I could say anything he was half way up the stairs. I froze and he directed himself to the bathroom. He was in there for 20 minutes and I was now downstairs feeling quite upset. Eventually he comes downstairs and doesn't say anything. I went upstairs to survey the damage and it was horrendous to say the least. To make things worse he rooted through my wardrobe to find the toilet paper.
I feel disgusted and sick..but feel like I'm overreacting as I don't know if he was unwell or has a medical condition.
He's got to come back tomorrow and I don't want him here.
aibu to call OpenReach to request another engineer???

I’m guess these people have never ever ever used a public toilet in their lives - restaurants, coffee shops, events etc.

I think their staff are a bit dodgy. I had one st roking my arm and asking for a date!

He wasn't "rifling", "rummaging" or "poking" round her wardrobe! He'd obviously seen the toilet roll as he passed, which was fully on display by the sound of it! He probably took one, in case the OP hadn't any spare on display in the bathroom and he didn't know how much there was in there, and/or to prevent having to look through cupboards!
Why MNetters start embellishing and fabricating facts when it comes to incidents like this absolutely baffles me!

Would you do this in someone else's house?
Go into their bedroom and get a toilet roll, in case there wasn't enough in the bathroom?

WTF has this got to do with a workman coming into someone's private bathroom, shitting all over the toilet, not cleaning up, and rummaging through someone's bedroom?

If I was a workman and knew that the owner of the house was so unreasonable and territorial over the use of a toilet I would not take on a job there. Imagine if they all did that then what would you do?

If i was a workman in someone else's house i would not spend 20 mins having a shit

Exactly this. Oh come in Mr Workman, drag mud all over my carpet, shit all over my toilet, and don't clean it off, spend 20 minutes in there, and make sure you go into my bedroom and rifle through my wardrobe. Oh make sure you turn my bathroom into a dump, and maybe go and have a piss in my garden on the way back to the van too. 😂

Seriously, some people on here have seriously low standards!

As a previous posters said, if he HAS got some kind of medical condition, that means he needs to go (for a shit) at a minute's notice, either don't work in a job where you are in other peoples houses all day, or take a portaloo with you.

Seriously. Some people need to raise their bar! 😆

You do not go in to someone’s bedroom to get toilet roll from their wardrobe ‘just in case’ there’s not enough in the bathroom. It’s a complete invasion of privacy. OP could have been changing in there. There could have been valuables left out.

She wasn’t territorial- she let him use the toilet. She’s upset at the state he left it in and that he went in the her bedroom when there was plenty of loo roll in the bathroom..

This, to me, is the weirdest thing in a weird thread. How do you clean your toilet without a toilet brush. I'm not being sarcastic. I seriously don't understand. So you pour bleach down it and then what? Stare at it? I mean if you wait a day or so and cover every square inch of your toilet bowl then it might be ok tomorrow.

I do not know a single person who does not have a toilet brush next to their loo. Lots of public places have them too. How do you scrub under the waterline of your toilet bowl? I'm assuming you use your hand and paper for above the water line? I am totally flummoxed.
Or do all the non toilet brush owning people just have permanent skid marks in their loos? I'm off to google.

Absolutely losing it at the OP demanding that shoe covers are worn because of her 6 yo ( who obviously must never venture outdoors) but is horrified at the though of being accussed of owning a loo brush!!! 😂

Why ever not?

I think you're being unreasonable.
if someone needs the toilet they need the toilet. It's a human right to be able to go to the toilet and not to leave toilet paper out in a BATHROOM is ridiculous. Yes he shouldn't have got to your wardrobe to get the paper but if it was visable from the bathroom what was he meant to do? If he's just gone for a shit I doubt he'd say to you 'can I have some big roll please I've just done a twirl of shame in your toilet and need to wipe my arse.'

the door lock is a non-event. He put it on the latch as he was in and out.
tradies need to go in and out, if I know one is coming I put covers down on the floor or I don't bother and clean up any mess afterwards. It's dry in the UK not wet atm.
you moaned that he was late so going out to a public bathroom would've made him even more late. What was he meant to do?
you're overreacting imo. Yes he wasn't great my any means but I think it's really nasty not to want to let someone use a toilet. A toilet is for shit and piss. It's what it's there for.

OP said there was plenty of toilet paper in the bathroom.

And it's perfectly reasonable to ask for toilet paper if there isn't any or isn't enough. Would you not do that if you were in someone's house?

Or do you think he did his shit, realised there wasn't enough paper and then headed to the bedroom with his pants down?

I have no issue with a tradesman using my loo, we all need to go, but I would be upset if he didn't clean up after himself.

I know what it's like to live with incontinence (both kinds) OAB and IBS, the difference is I would clean up after myself.

going into the bedroom though, that is a boundary violation, and I would go ballistic on the dude, frankly.

What's he supposed to do...pack up all his gear and troll round looking for one,? Not as if there's one on every corner..be realistic

I know … around 10 yrs ago this was a private joke in our house - random I know

medlobath
"This, to me, is the weirdest thing in a weird thread. How do you clean your toilet without a toilet brush. I'm not being sarcastic. I seriously don't understand."

I don't understand either. I always use a toilet brush to clean the toilet.

@DontGoChasinWaterfalls did you call and complain and say not to send the same man .
He has overstepped and dis respected your home!
He has shown the kind of human he is and I wouldn’t want to be around that .
He will Have had training and applied none of it as he is a dis respectful pig .

Obviously not just a toilet brush- bleach and toilet duck or whatever it's called as well.

We have no idea of the actual circumstances here, we only have OPs word, but if I was in a panic, then maybe, yes! There is nothing worse than getting to the loo in a total panic, then realising there isn't enough loo roll! And as it was on display, ie the door being open, I doubt very much that the OP would be getting changed!!! Who starts getting dressed and undressed when there are workmen in the house?! This thread gets weirder!

So it’s ok to go in to her bedroom then? It’s just not. It’s a complete invasion of privacy.

Many times I’ve had to get changed when workmen are here if they’re here for a while. I’d obviously shut the door but still. He should not have gone in to her bedroom.

He sounds absolutely rancid. Ask for someone else OP @DontGoChasinWaterfalls

@neilyoungismyhero

fine for him to have a shit in a customers bathroom. Not fine to then leave that bathroom in a state.

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