Feeling very uncomfortable and almost violated after visit today by BT Engineer

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I need a sense check and to realise I'm not overreacting.
BT engineer came today to upgrade my service to fibre optic broadband. He was late first of all which could've been accepted if he acknowledged he was late and apologised. He stepped into my house with his work boots on and I asked if he would mind wearing shoe covers as I have grey carpets. I'd never ask workmen to take shoes off and I provide the blue shoe coverings. He huffed and said he has to go in and out my house. Immediately I felt uncomfortable but explained I have a small child who sits and crawls on the carpet. He reluctantly agreed.
He somehow managed to jam the lock on my porch door by trying to leave it on the latch. After 15 minutes I managed to release it. He then tells me he needs a colleague to come to do something outside with the plyons and phrased it as "if it's after 2pm they won't bother coming". He eventually starts work after 40 minutes after faffing and I go upstairs to do some work.
5 minutes later I hear a panicked call asking if he could use my bathroom. Before I could say anything he was half way up the stairs. I froze and he directed himself to the bathroom. He was in there for 20 minutes and I was now downstairs feeling quite upset. Eventually he comes downstairs and doesn't say anything. I went upstairs to survey the damage and it was horrendous to say the least. To make things worse he rooted through my wardrobe to find the toilet paper.
I feel disgusted and sick..but feel like I'm overreacting as I don't know if he was unwell or has a medical condition.
He's got to come back tomorrow and I don't want him here.
aibu to call OpenReach to request another engineer???

Not if you smudge poo everywhere 💩 !

Im here I'm here to protect the cats no cats where hurt in the making of this thread lol

The lack of compassion is staggering. I couldn’t look at somebody in distress and behave like that.

Fancy!

But heavily frowned upon

@Justhere65 But of course! I'll even drag people in off the street, whether they need to use it or not! But I'll be hovering on the landing, ready to shackle them to the wall while I inspect how they've left it, before I let them leave! And I'll have my bloody bedroom door shut!!! 🤣

@MyJoyousBiscuit Ooh, lager or bitter shandy?! Could just go one of those! Either will do!

Hey have you ever seen those friendship toilets in some pubs that have 2 toilets in 1 cubicle? Imagine how much fun that would be 😂

I couldn't imagine a world I'd hate more. Friendship cubicles my arse! Fetish cubicle for weirdo freaks that are 100 on lists or need their harddrive investigating now! If you poo Infront of people, you need help.

Lol. I will only poo Infront of the cat but to be fair she doesn't really give me a choice. I have weed in front of friends before but only when drunk and not in a friendship cubicle. I only seem to come across them sober.

No I was thinking more along the lines of how you would police pooing in a friendship toilets. Perhaps one could be for cherished guests and the other for riff raff. One with a gold plated seat and the other with no seat. That sort of thing

I once remember my friend years ago, telling me about a group night out she'd been on. The ladies loos were busy, so they shared a cubicle. My friend went first, had a wee. Her acquaintance, not even friend, turned round, took her turn and chatting away, had a shit!!! Who would even do that?! I'd have said, do you want to wait for me outside, I need more than a wee! Some people have no shame!

💩 smudging? Is this a thing now? Because smudging with sage is so last year? 😁😂

I have to be honest, my poo vocab might be way off 🤷🏻‍♀️

But he could have cleaned it up afterwards ? IBS doesn't stop you cleaning up after yourself . I have no issue with letting tradespeople use my loo at all, as long as they clean up any mess. I have disabling health issues and am often immobile and I would be very annoyed if a tradesperson had left the loo in a state for me to clean up.

I do know IBS is miserable as I've had it. I am sorry to hear about the guy who took his life due to bullying over his condition. I can't stand bullies.

Sure. But I don't feel the need to explain my past and personal circumstances to be "understood."
The same way you have all thought about that workspeople potentially having IBS and other things you should also think along the same lines for anything in life.

People can be fighting a battle you don't know about. And other similar quotes.

It says more about the posters attacking me than it does about me.

Interesting.

Unfortunately that wouldn't work for me. I've had OCD since age 4 and it's very severe at times but I'm glad it helped you.

Why are you continuing to bully and attack people?

Drip feed? It's not my thread. I was communicating with a poster who wasn't attacking me. I shouldn't have to delve into my personal circumstances for you to think beyond your own nose.

What I don't get is why this dude didn't ask for loo paper? Isn't that what any normal adult would have done ? @Pippyls67 IBS never stopped anyone from being an adult and using their words.

Exactly. And there was some right there in the bathroom!

And what if it's a plumber you have round? He'll say 'what's wrong with it, let me have a look and fix it'. After all, he's a plumber. So.....then what?

FFS read OP's posts, @Isxmasoveryet , she had toilet rolls IN the bathroom cabinet IN the bathroom where he was. He didn't even bother to look.

Sex. Not gender.