Aibu No security at Daughters dance class

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My 8year old daughter has been attending the same dance class since she was 5. The teacher is lovely, but she is the only adult in the room (she does have a teenage helper). Since the tragic events at a holiday club in summer last year, I have been growing more anxious at the lack of security at the dance class.

The class is held in a local village club, where there are a few small social rooms and a bar. It is very open and people come and go quite easily. The children enter through an unlocked door and exit through the fire exit, although with the warmer weather returning I noticed she has taken to propping the fire exit door open throughout the class which makes me very uneasy.

Parents drop off and pick up for the session, although occasionally I will hang around outside because of my nervousness.

I don’t know how to approach the teacher with my concerns as don’t want to be seen as an overly anxious mother, but events in the news terrify me and it feels like she hasn’t considered how vulnerable the class could be. It is worth mentioning that 5 mins away there is a Psychiatric hospital and we often see patients out and about in the community, although not always appearing well. Although I’m not suggesting this is my only concern, I do worry how open and vulnerable the class appears.

AIBU to raise this concern with the teacher? There isn’t usually time for any interaction between classes so communication is via email.

Appreciate your thoughts on how to approach, but please be kind this is my first post.

Maybe people don’t disagree with this, but as a pp said, it’s reasonable to state that activities can’t have the same level of security as school. Most people on this thread haven’t logically pointed that out though, they’ve just told the op that her anxiety is out of control etc which isn’t fair or right. Op hasn’t done anything wrong by wondering why the door of her kids dance class is wide open. “Risk is low, risk is low” being told her time and time again doesn’t help and doesn’t address the wider issues of how security is tight in some areas but others. It’s not unreasonable to ponder that

I never demanded school style safety measures in activities. Just pointing out that the Risk is Low argument doesn’t really hold any water. It’s perfectly reasonable to feel weird about first taking your child to a Fort Knox nursery and then to a wide open activity later that day.

Because she’s talking about a dance lesson, NOT in school. Extra-curricular activities held by private individuals or companies cannot generally have school-level security. To be so worried about it would lead to your children doing nothing outside of home and school.

That’s not true.
She is worried about it and STILL sends her daughter there.

The abuse she’s received for this has been repulsive.

It’s perfectly reasonable to worry about your child’s safety where security is lax, especially when places offering similar environments have incredibly stringent security standards.

No one would allow their child to attend a school where random people could walk in whenever they wanted. In fact, the school would be closed down by OFSTED for safeguarding failings.

You seem to have locked into my responses, but I haven’t abused the OP. She asked if she IBU. I told her yes, and that her level of anxiety is over the top.
She is talking about contacting the dance teacher about security. What does she expect her to say? Dance classes can get very hot and unpleasantly muggy. It’s totally normal practice to open doors for fresh air. This should not generate Southport anxiety.
Opinion asked for. Opinion given.

I’m not “locked into” your responses.

I am replying to responses that are directly mentioning me.

So speaking to the dance teacher would be over the top? Just speaking to her? Really?

I’d expect the dance teacher to already have considered the safety and security of the children. To have some sort of contingency plan. Some sort of risk assessment.

If I spoke to an adult I was leaving my child/ren in the care of about how they plan to keep them safe and she had absolutely no clue, dismissed my concerns, or called me a “nut job” I’d definitely withdraw them from the class.