To think it’s wrong to go on holiday without DC

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I keep seeing on Facebook women going on holiday multiple times a year, leaving their young DC at home, this isn’t just one person it’s multiple, as a mother I couldn’t stand the thought of being in a different country to my child, what if something happened? Is it just me? Is this the norm?

Not abroad (I should be so lucky!) but once a year I go away to a hotel for 3 nights on my own. My husband has a few days walking with friends without me at another time. We have a family holiday (again UK) with our youngest the over-18s no longer want to come along.

Upon my return from being away alone I feel rejuvenated, and the break makes me truly value my family and home life. I also think my youngest (who is autistic) coped especially well with Cub camp and then a trip abroad with school because they have grown up knowing people can spend time away from the family and everything is OK.

I can highly recommend it!

This site really gets on my nerves! Going through my previous posts have nothing to do with this thread. I hate people sometimes

🤣 it seems you hate people a lot of the time.

the whole purpose of your thread is to judgey women who go on holiday without their children! I don’t think you are in a position to judge anyone.

YABU. DH and I went for weekends away when we had kids under 6 even, with them staying with one or other of our parents.

I get some people can't bear to leave their kids, and that's fine, just as long as they don't judge other people for not doing the same.

DH and I go for a 3/4 day long weekend for our wedding anniversary ever year, usually a European city break or similar. We didn't until DS was 4, he stays with grandparents they keep him busy and this year took him away while we were. He loves his 'holiday' at granny and granddad's and he's got 3 abroad holidays booked with us between now and Feb half term 2026, the shortest of which is a week, were also planning a trip for may half term 26. He doesn't go without.

How rage-baitey can you be?

Oh, OP. Come on. Have a cup of tea and book a holiday.

Well, I've never asked, but I can't off the top of my head name one woman of my acquaintance who has long weekends away abroad with friends. (Incidentally what do you mean by "at the very least"? Do some of them visit the Space Station, or something?)

I do know of one friend who had a couple of work trips but that's hardly the same thing.

Mind you I'm obviously not your target demographic because the last time I went out of Britain was 1999 and that was Dublin. The last time I was on a plane was 1992.

We had a night away for H's sibling's child-free wedding when kids were 3 and 6 (they stayed with my family). Then 5 years later we had a night in London to watch a play for my birthday, and similar for our anniversary 6 years after that. Oh, and two occasions for colleagues' weddings - once dropped tweenagers with my sister, once Granny came to stay.

If we'd been in the habit of spending more, or had more accessible childcare, we might have done it more often. I remember the year we moved house and money was a bit tight my parents went away without us. It was Spain in November. Granny stayed at our house for a week and none of us (aged 2-14) had a problem with it. Even though we'd never been abroad ourselves at that point.

Seems people hate you too as you’re a judgey douche canoe…

I had a lovely 5 days in Lanzarote with friends (during the school term so super cheap) for my 40th. Dh is a loving capable dad to our 3dc ages 10-13 at the time. They seem to have survived with no lasting affects so I had a weekend in Dublin with friends in 2024 (when they were 14-16 at the time). Again, remarkably they’re okay.

the year I went to Lanzarote, we took dc to Orlando and Dublin year, we took dc to Gran Canaria. My dc are not missing out 😂 I’m raising strong, independent women who have a mum whose personality isn’t just being a mum.

Depends if the children are being adequately looked after by someone at home, I guess.

Me very happy, took our kids everywhere with us, wouldn't have it any other way, you happy, or another shit parent who dumps her kids on other people?

Not something I would do, but I don’t judge the parents who do. My sister went away with her husband for a week without their children, they enjoyed the time away and were recharged for coming back home.

Deep down, I envy people who can do it. I just know I’d spend the time stressing about how the kids were, if they needed me, if they were arguing etc 😂

I think you have misunderstood. The post was about women leaving the country without their children. No mention of whether they are doing so with a partner or not.

If you are trying to argue it’s fine for one parent to go on holiday as long as the other parent in present then we actually agree.

But I think you are just out for an argument and don’t actually care about properly reading or understand anyone else’s viewpoint!

But still…

your partner doesn’t want to join you and baby on holiday

and that will be driving your bitterness op

have a ciggie

Oh but it does when your last thread was about how pissed you were that your partner didn’t want to join you and your baby on holiday!!

Of course you are.

Stayed up well past your bedtime last night didn’t you? Your parents should monitor your internet usage much more closely.

Dumps their kids? Do you mean leaves them for a few days with their loving father or grandparents?

Why does it matter to you?

I'd rather someone have a well rounded outlook on life with good critical thinking skills who understands that all families are different without what they do necessarily being wrong as a parent, rather than a narrow minded idiot.

@Mush62 is a man

just for reference

👏 I actually think he was drunk last night and wanted a fight.

😂😂 calm down you silly child

@Mush62 is a man
Who cheated on his wife of 25 years
and lost his family as a result

he’s bitter and twisted

Even in the 1950s this wasn't unusual.

My parents used to go on holiday and leave my older siblings with Dad's parents, who were happy to have them (and my Nan would not have been backwards about saying if she took a dim view of it).