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To think the level of inconsideration around is staggering?

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CoralCrab · 21/03/2025 19:13

It feels like people have become more self-absorbed and less aware of how their actions affect others. Whether it’s blasting music in public, not cleaning up after themselves, ignoring basic etiquette, or just a general lack of courtesy, I’m constantly noticing behaviour that seems thoughtless at best and outright rude at worst.

I don’t know if this has always been the case and I’m just more aware of it now or if people really have become more inconsiderate over time. AIBU to think that basic respect and awareness of others are disappearing? Or is this just normal and I need to stop expecting better?

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User135644 · 29/03/2025 18:18

Cattery · 22/03/2025 16:48

People are basically selfish cunts. I’ve never known it so bad. Truly no one gives a shit. A bloke in a van parked outside my house. He was in the drivers seat eating chicken and chips and dropping the bones out of the window onto the pavement. When he’d finished he wiped his hands on the serviette and dropped that out of the window too. Then he drove off. People with fuck all to do drop their kids to play in our cul de sac. They then create noise and mess for everyone that lives here. They truly do not care less.

Is it a British thing? I've lived abroad and I've never known a place so selfish as this country. It didn't used to be as bad.

Neoliberalism mixed with 'no such thing as society' and smart phones.

OhamIreally · 30/03/2025 08:10

@taxguru not only do people not hold open the door but I held the door open for a woman a few days ago and she walked straight through without even acknowledging it. I felt like the bloody door attendant! Usually if someone is holding a door for you, you would “take” the door from them with a thank you, not sail through with nary a glance.

FortyTwoDegrees · 30/03/2025 08:45

I've been thinking about this recently, and observing. Have come to the conclusion that most people are the same as ever, but there is a sizeable minority who's behaviour has become worse, and so is more obvious.

OriginalUsername2 · 30/03/2025 19:51

Ddakji · 25/03/2025 20:45

There is a woman in my train having a shrieking row with someone on the phone, she’s a carriage down and I can still hear her. Why no one and the same carriage hadn’t asked her to shut the fuck up I don’t know.

It’s a gamble. I’ve done it once, before I knew it was coming out of my mouth and honestly I was terrified for a split second that I would get a punch in the face. Luckily, the woman looked mortified and apologised but I was lucky. I’d rather not do it than put myself at risk. People can be volatile.

User135644 · 31/03/2025 14:58

YourArtfulPlayer · 23/03/2025 18:53

Ironically, I was saying to someone today I’m more than happy just being in my little bubble, keeping away from things because you cannot guarantee you’ll enjoy doing anything anymore due to grade a entitled idiots.

I hate concerts/festivals as I don’t want to watch live music through someone’s camera.

Despise things like Harry Potter world as you cannot get near anything due to selfie takers and likely barged out the way if in shot.

Eating in restaurants you’ll either have a kid watching an IPad at full blast or a loud gaggle of chavs.

If you sit in a park, some melon will be taking a call on loud speaker or playing music.

Go to the cinema some douche canoe will chat all the way through it.

Even going to the supermarket, you’ll need to wade through 300 unruly children, people with no concept of personal space and someone who insists on leaving their trolley mid aisle.

It’s no wonder people are now introverts with anxiety issues.

And can't even get peace in my home to selfish noisy neighbours

User135644 · 31/03/2025 15:40

Ivesaidenough · 28/03/2025 23:02

I wrote a complaint to TFL about people playing their phones out loud. They wrote back with a lovely reply saying they'd ask the staff to keep reminding people not to do it. All very thoughtful and helpful.
Sadly nothing has changed.

All it would take is a bit of enforcement from the staff and visible signs on the trains and PA announcements.

Would remove the majority at source. When it becomes normalised it's learned behaviour and people don't know any better.

Dandeliontea123 · 05/04/2025 11:18

OhamIreally · 30/03/2025 08:10

@taxguru not only do people not hold open the door but I held the door open for a woman a few days ago and she walked straight through without even acknowledging it. I felt like the bloody door attendant! Usually if someone is holding a door for you, you would “take” the door from them with a thank you, not sail through with nary a glance.

I’ve shouted ‘You’re welcome’ after them when this happens.

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