DP refuses to acknowledge my birthday on social media

[BrightLJ]

It was my birthday yesterday - me and my DP officially got together around this time last year so this was the first birthday he was properly ‘with’ me for for.

He made the day really special, thoughtful presents, a nice day out with a lunch somewhere I have always wanted to go to.

For DP’s birthday a few months ago I did a big post on my insta grid, with photos of us and a loving caption.

I thought DP would have done the same for
me yesterday. It got to early evening and I still
hadn’t been tagged by him or noticed anything on his profile so I asked him if he was planning on doing this.

He said no, that he has wished me happy birthday in person and that he didn’t see the point in posting something publicly when he’d spent all day with me. I said it would mean a lot to me if he did but he again said no and that he isn’t really a social media type of person and always felt these sort of posts were unnecessary unless the two people were apart.

I was admittedly a bit frosty with him after this and the evening didn’t really go as planned, he was meant to stay over at mine but said he wasn’t feeling great and went home.

I’ve messaged him today to say I was a bit hurt by him not posting and that it felt as though he wasn’t proud of us. He’s basically replied to say again he’s not that type of man and it isn’t something he will ever do.

Am I unreasonable to ask for this, it’s a minimum expectation in this day and age surely?

This is a wind up post surely

I can’t even put into words are ridiculous you are.

Fucking hell the more you write the worse you sound. I can't believe he's grovelling to you and you're still going to punish him. Grow the fuck up.

Poor guy - he should run for the hills as quick as he can - you are batshit.

Why should he be forced to do social media?

Nothing some flowers and chocolate, (plus a tonne of social media posts about how he chose the flowers and chocolates, how he sent the flowers and chocolates, what the flowers and chocolates looked like, how I reacted when I received the flowers and chocolates.......), can't sort!

😂

Yep. Yawn.

I am amazed how many people put their birthday on social media. I see it as a security issue. The people who know me and see me regularly remember my birthday and wish me happy birthday in person/ via a message email/ card/ phone. We don’t do gushy public stuff for show.

Thank God I'm old.

Presumably you didn't see him/her on your birthday. I would prefer a card than a social media post. If you've been together a year, I assume you would talk on your birthday so need to wish you happy birthday online.

Actually just re-read. Skim read first time. You did see him/her.

Poor bloke. He did nice things in person. In person, not on an app.

I do hope others are right and this isn't real.

I don’t think you expected your post to backfire so spectacularly. It’s a shame that you have no doubt tainted your otherwise lovely birthday. I would apologise profusely to your bf and please don’t let SM dictate your life so much. I hope you both get back on track.

Op, the problem is instead of flowers and chocolates you are now more likely to get a grovelling apology on social media and this
-> 🌸🍫

If he has any sense, he'll reserve the flowers and chocolates for someone who won't complain that they're not showy enough for Instagram!

Indeed. Can't believe I was taken in.

you sound like a right madam, poor guy

So he made your day really special with thoughtful presents and lunch somewhere you’ve always wanted to go to… and in return you were ‘frosty’ with him because he doesn’t post on social media?! Oh, grow up.

The silent treatment/sulking is abusive.

He deserves better than you.

Unless you are the Obama’s it is cringe. He is a good guy- why do you need that publicity

You sound like hard work and extremely childish.

You should be apologizing to HIM in return for sulking about a bloody social media post when he'd made a nice effort for your birthday, and for effectively emotionally blackmailing him into posting on social. Poor guy.

I actually feel sorry for him. And you are on a hiding to nothing thinking what other people think is more important than what your partner thinks.

Ah, so you ARE 14 years old, you must be, right?

if you’re being serious, I honestly hope he gets rid of you in favour of someone who acts like an adult

I agree - really pathetic
No one is surely so shallow.
I think Op is a troll and wind up merchant as can’t believe she’s so pathetic

^^ This

Sounds like he put a lot of effort into a lovely day and you're really ungrateful. Why do you want to show off?

A “mix of views” is an interesting way to describe a poll which is currently going 99% against you.

DW has made it clear she would hate me to post anything about her on her birthday, and I’m the same. Life is much more than a social media timeline, and so I go along with the majority view. And the idea that he should delete his Insta account if he doesn’t intend to go all lovey-dovey on your birthday is ridiculous.