DP refuses to acknowledge my birthday on social media

[BrightLJ]

It was my birthday yesterday - me and my DP officially got together around this time last year so this was the first birthday he was properly ‘with’ me for for.

He made the day really special, thoughtful presents, a nice day out with a lunch somewhere I have always wanted to go to.

For DP’s birthday a few months ago I did a big post on my insta grid, with photos of us and a loving caption.

I thought DP would have done the same for
me yesterday. It got to early evening and I still
hadn’t been tagged by him or noticed anything on his profile so I asked him if he was planning on doing this.

He said no, that he has wished me happy birthday in person and that he didn’t see the point in posting something publicly when he’d spent all day with me. I said it would mean a lot to me if he did but he again said no and that he isn’t really a social media type of person and always felt these sort of posts were unnecessary unless the two people were apart.

I was admittedly a bit frosty with him after this and the evening didn’t really go as planned, he was meant to stay over at mine but said he wasn’t feeling great and went home.

I’ve messaged him today to say I was a bit hurt by him not posting and that it felt as though he wasn’t proud of us. He’s basically replied to say again he’s not that type of man and it isn’t something he will ever do.

Am I unreasonable to ask for this, it’s a minimum expectation in this day and age surely?

This whole post is bonkers.

Yes, thank him and apologise for the way you acted.

You even contemplating ignoring him after ruining your own birthday evening, then him doing the apologising, is insane. He deserves better.

Yes you reply, and you fucking apologise for being a shallow, vacuous, dickhead!

Why in the world wouldn't you? Your petulance paid off.

Awkwardly forced social media posts are the foundations of many a long lasting relationship 😆

😂😂😂 brilliant OP - this is hilarious- is it a joke post?! Your partner made a real life effort but not on socials- 😂😂😂 cracking post

She doesn't care.

No they really aren't.
In fact time will teach you that the people who fawn over each other on socials are often in really bad relationships and those who do it privately like your DP did, often last the distance.

No he did not😂I don't believe it for a minute.

It just baffles me why it has only become clear to him today!! It was so nearly the perfect birthday

I wonder why we all bother with men sometimes 😂

I'm thinking it must be a joke post to rile people up. No one reaching nearly 30 acts this way. I feel a bit silly now believing it 😂

Socials are not a part of relationships for the majority of 20 somethings I know, including my kids, much less essential. There's a huge move away from them, especially the ones owned by Musk and Zuckerberg.

As for demanding certain standards from your men, give me a fucking break. Posting on SM isn't a standard except maybe for poseurs who are behind the times.

You seem awfully controlling about what your BF is to do and not do on SM.

Now you're jumping the shark. Nice run, though.

Behave.

This cannot be real - no-one is that shallow or stupid.

This just keeps getting better. “Standards” 😂😂😂

Oh this is classic mumsnet 🤣

OP: AIBU?

3,300 people: Yes, you really are.

OP: Well, 100 people say I’m not so I’m just going to ignore you all and listen to them. See ya!

This is one of the many way in which social media has ruined so many things! You do realise people don’t read the post and think Ahhh what a guy, they are so happy. They look and think urgh bit gross, OTT, try hard. It’s terrible that we’ve been made to want these things now. It’s all so contrived and horrible.

This has to be fake

If not what fucking hope in the world have our children if this is how adults measure being loved and relationships, by what’s posted about them on Facebook. Sickening.

MN: you don't deserve him, he's too good for you

OP: you're right, I don't know why we bother with men.

I’m just going to go and stick pins in my eye …..

I honestly feel sorry for the bloke. I'm not men's biggest fan either but for once I'm on his side! Give the lad a break and text him back and have a think about what you are doing to him, all in the name of saving face to all your 'mates' on social media. You'll get older and realise most people could not give a flying fuck about other people, they are too busy stuck in their own heads worrying what other people think of them just like you are now. Noone cares! Get a bit older and you'll not give a shit what anyone thinks about you period.

No they really do because her friend rang her to see if her relationship was OK as he hadn't wished her happy birthday remember!

Are you sure you are in your late 20s? Hopefully you are just a very bored and immature teenager making a hilarious joke.
If not, apologise to him for being sulky, shallow and immature.
I can't see him putting up with this kind of behaviour much longer.

Nothing to do with things back in the day. My children are quite a bit younger than you but would never behave like this.

As my SIL in Mississippi would say "Aw, bless your heart."