To report my son as missing?

[stucky]

Wondering when to start panicking? DS 22, hasn't been home since Friday day time. He usually lets me know what's going on. It's not unusual for him to spend time at a friends for a day or two, however I've messaged his closest friends, no one's seen him since Friday. His phone been dead since Saturday morning. I know he's not a child, but he's my son and I'm concerned about his wellbeing. Should I report him as a missing person? Or am I overreacting? I just don't know what to do.

Please be kind, I am currently feel very fragile.

Be kind.

He's probably shacked up with a girl he met, but if definitely report it. Most likely he'll come home five minutes after you do, but far better than the alternative.

Hope you hear something soon ❤️ and definitely ring the police xx

Young men and women are at risk these days. Not only in asssaults/robberies, but for human trafficking, organ trafficking, sex trafficking, etc. CALL NOW IF YOU HAVE NOT ALREADY. The worst that can happen is that he was on a bender somewhere and is just embarrassed.

I'd report when his phone dead and be ringing around his friends to find out who saw him last.

You must be frantic. Hoping he turns up soon.

Yes report. 100% report

Omg OP I’d be beside myself.

please call the police asap.

Praying your son is on 🙏

Sorry everyone,thanks for all the responses. I didn't over the weekend because he does sometimes stay at his friends. His best friends share a house and he crashes there sometimes so it's not unusual for him to be gone till Sunday. I only became alarmed when his close knit group of friends said they hadn't seen him since Friday and he hadn't been to work when I called. I found these things out today when I started to become increasingly alarmed and did some sleuthing. As others have said it's hard to know when it's okay to breach your adult child's privacy and what consitutes reasonable contact with friends. Some of whom I've met, and many I haven't that I contact via multiple platforms to ascertain if he was alright.

I haven't spoken to him, I messaged everyone I could think of to get information before i called the police and someone said he's at a friends with a dead phone. I am both furious and incredibly relieved. Planning to attempt to sleep once the adrenaline wears off.

thanks for all the support. I know it seemed odd to post on here I just needed some perspective from people outside the situation who weren't bias.

I can fully understand your panic. I’m assuming you have tried his mobile, if he has one.
I think that this is a long time to be uncontactable when it’s unusual and, given his age, (and you don’t mention any mental issues), I would be worried too. Before calling the police, i would try ringing local hospitals, in case he has been hurt or taken ill. If he doesn’t show up there, then I would certainly call the Police. I hope it all turns out to have a good outcome. 🍀❤️

Sorry, just noticed that you said his phone was dead. Apologies.

So pleased he's OK. I'm amazed he hasn't charged his phone.

You must be really relieved.

Another voice saying report. It's really scary when your child (no matter their age) goes missing, particularly if it's out of character.
Hopefully he's just been at a mate's house or something and will turn up soon.

Edited to say: just read your update- that's fantastic news, what a relief

Glad he's safe. You must be relieved. Was he meant to be in work? If so is it strange he's not charged his phone or gone to work?

That will make his poor mum feel SO much better! Well done!

They will. I agree it seems odd but I tracked my elderly aunt down by tuning a number of hospitals.

Yes all quite out of character hence the worry. Hoping he comes home soon. For no other reason than to know he's okay.

Do they know this for sure?

it seems unusual in this day and age to go for days without charging your phone. Make sure your intel/info is good on this and he’s definitely at his friends

You and all these others berating the mum for not reporting it earlier should be ashamed of yourselves! Don’t you think she feels bad enough? Please be kind (as she requested, bless her)

Have you read the message???

Totally agree. This poster isn’t the only one either!

Hopefully you get hold of him soon, definitely report it.

@stucky So glad all is ok. It seems this parenting becomes tougher the older they become. At least you will rest easy tonight.

Very unusual. My boys go for about 10 mins and they’re looking for a charger. Also very odd why he didn’t go to work. Did he ring in sick? I’d definitely be snooping some more.

I’d also be phoning the friend he is allegedly with and asking to speak to him.