DS was hit in the face by a child at school

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AIBU to be feeling quite upset about this? 😢
There was an incident at school where DS (7) and some other children followed a year 6 child to an area of the school field where the year 6 child had gone ‘to cool down’ due to feeling overwhelmed and over stimulated.
DS and others have gone over to see if he’s ok, and this boy has lashed out at DS who was in the firing line and hit him twice across the face.
School rang me and informed me of the incident and said he was ok but quite upset so sat with a teacher. The head was aware and the boy in question is being ‘dealt with’.

Im quite upset by this, Do I just accept this happened and let it go?
WWYD?

Why on earth is a woman following her distressed husband around? We DONT know the full facts of why he abused her

100%. Expecting a 7yo to have the nuance of understanding individual ND children is bonkers.

I also think it’s sad that people are doubting the 7yo’s intentions. My son is a nice boy with nice friends and they’d 100% check to see if someone was ok. In the absence of psychic powers, they would not expect to be hit

I think they might! They’re determined to ignore that they’re children.

Because the OP does need to get to the bottom of it.

Hitting is not ok behaviour.

Winding a child up whose gone away alone to cool down, is not ok behaviour.

I'm not sure where you got that he might've deserved to be hit.

He's a 7 year old child for goodness sake.

You would teach your 7 year old to get into a fight with an 11 year old?

Would you say a woman who was hit by her husband was at fault because she persisted in asking if he was OK and thumped her?

it’s staggering how many children do not understand boundaries

Is hitting someone on the face not a boundary that’s being crossed?

Oh for fuck sake give over.

I'd keep them both in at break time and move their names down on the class behaviour chart.

God, it's like the thread is under siege 😬

Well I think someone on this thread has won spam 🤖 of the year.

Nobody shad said that.

But why should a 7yo boy have to tolerate abuse when we’d never let grown women tolerate it?

Have you not read all the responses? People are blaming the 7yo or saying it’s a “lesson”. Would we say that to an abused woman?

Who said anything about police? I’m asking if a woman hit by her DH would ever be told on MN she’s to blame and that it’s a lesson learnt?

@APATEKPHILLIPEWATCH nobody said it should be tolerated. Thats the thing. You just started posting random stuff about assaults on women. They just said the school should deal with it and maybe the children should be told to leave someone in distress and get help from an adult.

If a woman was punched by her DH because he wanted to cool down and she followed him would you tell her she “learnt a swift lesson”?

Don’t we?! I do. I don’t expect kids to tolerate abuse, or violence.

Women aren't young children.

Both are humans - is there a sliding scale for humans who deserve to not be victims of violence?

But often, children with additional needs are harassed or provoked by other groups of children at school.

Ate the rules different for those children in terms of hitting?

Would it have been different if there were females?

Im trying to figure out why people think a 7yo boy is to blame for violence against him but a grown woman wouldn’t be

Why do children have fewer protections in your book? You may ignore abuse against children but I certainly don’t.

Yes a 7yo child - and it’s completely unreasonable to expect to know the nuances of how other children behave, or what pushes their buttons.

No I won’t give over. Nobody has answered me properly yet.

I don’t think jokes about DV are v funny

Arguably the following the other vulnerable child and no doubt provoking them was somewhat abusive.

The 10yr old kid has literally done what’s been asked of him and the 7 year olds have sought him out to no doubt wind him up (being nobheads as many 7 year olds like to be)

I would be furious with my kid and have little sympathy. The only thing I might take up with the school is why this other kid wasn't being watched over at the time.