DS was hit in the face by a child at school

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AIBU to be feeling quite upset about this? 😢
There was an incident at school where DS (7) and some other children followed a year 6 child to an area of the school field where the year 6 child had gone ‘to cool down’ due to feeling overwhelmed and over stimulated.
DS and others have gone over to see if he’s ok, and this boy has lashed out at DS who was in the firing line and hit him twice across the face.
School rang me and informed me of the incident and said he was ok but quite upset so sat with a teacher. The head was aware and the boy in question is being ‘dealt with’.

Im quite upset by this, Do I just accept this happened and let it go?
WWYD?

Whole heartedly agree!

My children are taught to hit back and not be victims - end of

Is it a small primary school where all years mix together outside? Very odd that a 7 year old would be anywhere near a pupil in Year 6. Why would your child be concerned about a pupil in Year 6? Usually each year group stick with their own peers.

This is really unkind. It is not an ND child versus NT child situation here. Pitting kids against each other is a bit pathetic.

The children need to be taught to give space to someone showing distress if they have already turned down their help. It is sad because they may have been trying to help, but if this country is so determined to integrate ND children into mainstream and not provide more SS places, they need to make sure the other children understand how ND affects these children.

Sounds like yet another thread created for a bit of ND child bashing.

This thread is about primary school children 🤔

What a weird tangent.

What a strange question to ask, of course not 😳

I do hope you're not serious?

He's 7 years old for goodness sake. Do YOU think he deserved to be punch?

Shameful if you do.

Who knows the truth of what happened? I would be inclined to let the school deal
with it and advise your son not to get involved in things that are none of his business. This is an older child but he sounds vulnerable and there is a world in which your son and his friends are the aggressors. Probably it’s somewhere in between what your son is telling you (we followed him to help) and what the older child felt (cornered and angry). If there are repeat incidents or if the school don’t deal with this to your satisfaction I’d then call a meeting.

Should women give space to angry men lest they risk being punched? Should we teach women that? It would be unkind on the poor man not to!

A PP put it perfectly - NT children are not punching bags for ND children. I’m not sure justifying it even helps ND children does it?

Exactly. So if it isn’t ok for women to tolerate why should a 7yo have to tolerate it? Why is it different?

You will find though that it will always turn into a debate about men being aggressors towards women and whether the child should have the police called on them, even though it has nothing to do with violence against women and the police are unlikely to respond to an incident like this. Then you will get the "why can't they just lock ND kids away" lot jumping in to take the thread on another tedious self interested tangent.

And MN will do fuck all about the ableist comments.

Don't think anyone's suggested a 7yo tolerates anything have they?

Obviously not. But I wonder why you have said “I think you need to get to the bottom of whether they genuinely went to see if this child was ok, or to gawp/wind him up further.” If not to justify or excuse it.

If a man punched his wife because he needed to cool down and saw her as an aggressor, would he be right?

Agree

But would you hit them if they did?

@APATEKPHILLIPEWATCH if a 10yo hit their 7yo sibling in the face would you call the police?

Yes. A family member. Tormented for over 2 years. Even followed him to the family home and hit the elderly father. Family member got cornered by the group one night. One dickhead thought he was the dogs bollocks and punched said family member. Family member punched back. Dickhead stumbled back and fractured his leg. Family member charged and ended up with a suspended sentence for GBH. Just for 1 retaliation punch.

If YOU were punched in the face would you “love the suggestion of a police report”?

If a woman trailed after her husband when he wanted to be left alone what would you say if she was punched in the face?

Sounds like your son has learned a swift life lesson 🤷‍♀️

No but these are children and so we don’t hold them to the same standards as adults.

If a woman got punched in the face for not leaving her DH alone would you say “lesson learnt”

And ye aim going to persist with these questions because it’s fucking atrocious that less protection is expected of a little year 2 boy than it is of a woman experiencing DV.

That's a really odd and unrelated comparison to make. Women aren't young children.

Is it ok for a child to to hit another child? No.
Even if they feel threatened or are very upset? No.
But does it happen sometimes? Yes.

It may be that the OP's child is completely blameless and was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. But often, children with additional needs are harassed or provoked by other groups of children at school.

“No man should hit a woman but equally no man should be pushed by a woman so that he hits her”.

Is that an OK statement?

@APATEKPHILLIPEWATCH That's a very assumptive post about ND behaviour and why are you trying to turn this into an argument about violence against women? There were no females involved. These are children and the school need to deal with it. You weren't even bloody there.

You are being very overbearing, derailing the thread so the OP is not getting any advice, and possibly offending women who have been genuine victims of violence themselves. For goodness sake, have a break and get yourself a 🍸