To take away dd(13)s en-suite?

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Dd(13) has bedroom with an ensuite, 3 year old is at the moment in a tiny room that basically just fits a bed and wardrobe.

We want to combine dd’s en-suite and DH’s office to make decent size bedroom for 3 year old.

Up until dd(13) was 11 and we moved to a bigger house she always had to share with either younger brother or older step sister.

She thinks as she had to share until she was 11, that younger siblings should share until then or be lucky and get tiny room of their own. And that by the time toddler is that age she will move out and she can have her room.

Is it unreasonable to take away her en-suite?

She doesn’t need to agree, she’s a child.

Sounds to me as if the childrn are more than comfortably housed, what a ridiculous thing to say

I would 100% do this.

I would keep things as they are for now, our youngest is slightly older than yours and is in the box room with just enough room for a bed, chest of drawers and they are fine.
I assume your 15 SD is with you full time or at least a large proportion of the time, once she has gone to Uni if she is going etc you can reshuffle.
Growing up, rooms were allocated in our family home based on age, we all had our own rooms. Once my eldest sister went to Uni the next oldest moved into the biggest room and we all reshuffled around. The smallest room became the eldest siblings room when they came back for holidays as it made no sense for the largest room to remain empty for large amounts of time.
If you did the same your 13 year old would move up to the attic, your next oldest would move into the en-suite room and then your youngest would move out of the box room.
The box room would then become the Step daughters room to return to and she could also use the home office as her small sitting room/chill out space.

Would not recommend removing a bathroom from a home. More bathrooms is better for house value.

Not how things work in my household, we’re all equally entitled to a voice, to share our feelings and have them respected.

And she can be 'legitimately pissed off', doesnt mean that dictates what the adults decide.

If ever there was a thread that demonstrates why children are overburdened and riddled with adult issues, anxiety, distress, offence, a grandiose sense of self and self absorption, this is it (the replies not the OP)

Perhaps it would be better to wait until she is 15/16, and the 3 year old as completely outgrown that room and do it then, be even worse then

Yes, everyone is entitled to an opinion in my house too. Those opinions can be taken into consideration. However, children are not the decision makers, ultimately.

They've got 6!

You could try asking the 13yi hiw they would make a suitable sized bedroom for their sibling.

Why ask her that?

How about you swap with DD 13 and you can have a room without a bathroom. Am envious of your multiple toilets as I live in a 3 bed terrace with DH and DS (22) with just one bathroom downstairs!

Is she studying architecture or project management?

Because teenagers know everything?

Or because she's currently just thinking of herself and it might make her think of everyone. Or even come up with a better solution. Maybe losing a bit of bedroom but keeping the ensuite for example.

She wouldn’t make one.
She would keep her in the box room or put her in with older brother.

Toddler's room becomes an en-suite to one of the other children's rooms. Dd moves into that. The expelled child moves into dd's old room. DD's old en-suite combines with office to become toddler's new room.

OP, do you want your thirteen year old to hate or resent their younger sibling? Because that’s what is in danger of happening if you take away her en-suite in favour of a three year old.

Ignore these posters - as if life doesn’t change and parents can’t shuffle things around.

i shared with 2 siblings until I was 12 then had a box room that could only fit my bed until I left home at 18.

Your family are very lucky to have all the bedrooms and bathrooms you do and your daughter is privileged to have her own bedroom, ensuite or not.

An ensuite is such a privilege I can’t believe how out of touch it is that some posters are suggesting there would be any unfairness in taking an ensuite away from a teenager whilst still leaving her with two shared bathrooms to choose from.

We make decisions as a family, (unless it’s life or death or something) everyone needs to be on board.

We had considered that but I think the master bedroom that would then be the only room with an ensuite has to go to parents. It wouldn’t be fair to give it to one child also we let all children in our room and use the ensuite.

Most teenagers don’t have en suites. You do what’s best for your family and should not be dictated to by a 13 year old

Removed because question answered.

@thatsfunnybecause why not put the older boy in the large attic room and give his normal size bedroom to the 3 year old. the step daughter who does not live there full time could have the small bedroom

If that’s how she would react then she needs the ensuite taken away as a teaching moment because that would be an outrageously spoilt reaction, and selfish.

I imagine though most teenagers wouldn’t react that that, would understand if explained to them, and you are just projecting on to OPs child.

For goodness sake! There are ample bathrooms in the house for the number of people in the house. It’s fine to do as you planned OP, but good luck in talking your DD round.