To take away dd(13)s en-suite?

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Dd(13) has bedroom with an ensuite, 3 year old is at the moment in a tiny room that basically just fits a bed and wardrobe.

We want to combine dd’s en-suite and DH’s office to make decent size bedroom for 3 year old.

Up until dd(13) was 11 and we moved to a bigger house she always had to share with either younger brother or older step sister.

She thinks as she had to share until she was 11, that younger siblings should share until then or be lucky and get tiny room of their own. And that by the time toddler is that age she will move out and she can have her room.

Is it unreasonable to take away her en-suite?

I disagree. Good sized bedrooms are more of a draw, than tiny bedrooms and en-suites

I wouldn’t remove an en-suite from the house, it will significantly reduce the value of the home. En-suites are also brilliant for teenagers when they need more privacy and take forever to get ready!

Agreed, Im not a fan of ensuites, exactly for this reason, OP seems to have a poor layout in favour of a ton of bloody bathrooms/ensuites/toilets/sinks or whatever they are.

Ensuites put me off a property, I realise not everyone feels that way but people dont like small rooms either

We didn't loose value taking out ensuite
It gave us an extra bedroom,much more valuable.
And there is a bathroom on every floor ..so still 3 bathrooms to clean
Op has plenty of bathrooms
Definitely bedroom is more valuable

I agree, I saw a thread on here where the OP couldn't sell her house. It was a new build house where every room had an en suite, but there was no room in any of the bedrooms for wardrobes!

I think everyone is confused!
Presumably 3 en suites? The op described the room at the top of the house as a bathroom which it clearly isn't - just a toilet and sink.

I will, I thought it would be confusing and unnecessary too .

DSD (15) has attic room on top floor, there is a toilet and sink up there also.

DH and I have master bedroom with en-suite

DD(13) has bedroom with en-suite.

DS(9) and DS(5) just have normal sized rooms

DD(3) is in a box room, there is also an almost equal sized box room that is used as an office at the moment

@thatsfunnybecause Can you put your older son in the attic room. and give step daughter the wee bedroom if she is not there all the time. my grandaughter has an ensuite in my house and it is a necessity in the teen years. they spend half their life in the shower.

Impossible to tell that she is being treated the same as other kids or that it is truly a matter of practicality as the OP has given too little detail.

What little detail we have shows other kids being treated better than she was:

A slightly older step daughter has an entire floor to herself.
A younger brother has his own room a full 8 years before she did and has a dedicated playroom downstairs.

How old is the step sister, how often does she stay?
Move the teenager upstairs - has a private loo and basin
Step sister has a smaller room

this doesn't have to happen right now, can wait until the toddler is older - but when he wants a room he can play and study in, not 11 just because stroppy teenager deems it appropriate.

Where are the other bathrooms? Is this one of those town houses with several floors?

This is solid advice

How many other bathrooms do you have? I don't think any 13 year old needs an ensuit personally, unless maybe it means everyone using a single family bathroom. Bit I'm assuming you didn't give her the only one so presumably you have one, plus a family bathroom?
Imo modern house waste space on too many toilets/bathrooms per bedroom that would be better used for living space

I've got a family member in a 2 bed new build with more toilets than beds.

Children have a very literal sense of fairness and expect things to be exactly fair and exactly the same.

I remember starting secondary school and, with an early September birthday, getting a lot of school equipment for my birthday presents that year: tennis racquet, hockey stick etc. Then when my sister started secondary school she just got given all that stuff and by the time her Spring birthday came around got a lot of birthday presents as well. So unfair!

You need to help DD understand that life changes, circumstances change and siblings don’t always have the exact same experience of childhood. She had to share a bedroom until a certain age. DS3 won’t. But other things will fall in her favour at times. So it goes.

Is it a half sibling? I think that makes a difference?

KnickerFolder
presumably 3 en suites

Clearly not.

I wouldn’t change anything OP. Your 3yo doesn’t need a bigger room until he is older. As a pp said, the downstairs playroom with family bathroom can become a bedroom when you don’t need a playroom for more than one child.

Move the older DS down there when he is starting secondary school in a couple of years, then the 3yo who will be primary age (5) can move into a regular bedroom.

By the time it’s relevant to your youngest someone older will have moved out.

Your DD will value that bathroom and will remember that it was taken away.

@WeeOrcadian Think you need to re-read the OP before you make any inferences.

There is both a DD and a step daughter.

There will always be an excuse why the now 3yo can't move into a bigger bedroom.

The only way to manage the situation is to create a bigger bedroom.

Only sick people really need en suite. Cut everyone else it’s just luxury

Why can’t your youngest just have the office room and have 2 rooms?

I would at least try that for the next couple of years and then reevaluate.

Let her keep it. She’s entering the years where she will value that additional privacy

All the other bathrooms will have locks, plus she has her own bedroom. She has privacy.

I think you need to move house OP! A house with 7 double bedrooms, all with en suite!

I would leave you DD with an ensuite.

Your 3 yo has access to a playroom or can play in the the main room. It sounds like they have plenty of space.

Maybe later on you can switch bedrooms? One of the older ones might like the box room and the office space for studying or gaming?