To be embarrassed my colleague announced my coat size to whole office

[howemb]

Bit embarrassing … or am I being over sensitive?

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

I had a colleague like that.* Unfortunately for me, I was her line manager. I was relieved when she retired.

*One time I was asked whether I had children. "Unfortunately, no." [DH had two adult children from his first marriage.]

Colleague: "Hee, hee! Was that DH's fault?"

Complete c*nt.

YANBU and your colleague is a twat!

🗣️ "Everyone! Hilda wants all of you to know my coat is size 22. Twenty-twooooo. Yes, that's right. I'm a bit fat."

"Anything else, Hilda? Did you want to go round to everyone and read out their coat sizes so we can all get back to work, or was it just mine you wanted to announce?"
😇

Did you post about that? I recall a thread about that!

I think you have every right to be furious with her - it's a horrible thing to to and say (about you and her mum to be honest). I think I'd have a meeting with her and tell her that you were upset and didn't find acceptable. Often these types play the "oh me and my big mouth ha ha" card - actually underneath they are bitches but just act jolly to see what they can get away with. Have a meeting with her and call her out on it - you often find bullies melt away when cornered and there is no one around to give them bravado.

I am not worried about @howemb but I do fear for the mother of the obnoxious work colleague (OWC).

How old is the OWC? Just think her poor mother has been subjected to coat and size 22 analysis for X plus years. The mother's self esteem must be at rock bottom.

Some thoughts were to bring a gift in ( some cake?) for OWC's mother or to ask for her email address so you can send her details of local counsellors who specialise in mother and daughter relationships.

On a serious note, I would be tempted to say something to a manager to see if they can have a quiet word if OWC has form for this - some of your work colleagues may have not had your courage to subject themselves to Mnetters and really taken the comment to heart.

Awful! Done to fat shame and only a bitch would do that.

Why? Because I know a large size? Doesn’t mean I would announce it or even look to be honest. People’s size is, shockingly, something you cannot hide. But that doesn’t alter that big is big.

No, I didn't. Someone else had that happen to them?!

yeah that's rude, plain rude.

Yes! There was a post, she was a manager, a long time employee reported to her and was very rude and insulting to her.

It’s quite clearly rude.

I initially assumed someone had said something innocuous like ‘whose is this coat - m&s size 14’ or the like.

Our one seemed fine until she got the permanent contract. It also turned out that she was the school fridge thief.

When challenged by the owner of the satsumas she'd polished off, she responded "Oh, I thought that they were mine!"

"How could you think that they were yours if you didn't bring any into work with you?"

I honestly thought that she might have dementia, but I saw her at a former colleague's funeral a couple of months ago and she's still on the go, many years after retiring.

It was a very rude and bitchy thing to say, sorry you had that happen OP.

Do we know any more about the unusually large pelvis? @OldCottageGreenhouse

Shame, you could have put together a quick PowerPoint to inform us all.

In the spirit of the thread can I announce that apparently I have a very shy cervix as told to me by my midwife. Something to do with it tilting backward and slightly to one side?

No because you think 14 is a large size and continue to double down on that. Unless by some chance you are from the US where their sizing is different and a 14 there is like an 18 here a 14 is by no means a large size. And your continual insistence it is makes you as unpleasant as the woman the OP has to put up with at work.

Well she was a total ass. Did she at least look embarrassed after she did it

OK, thats really fucking mannerless. She was clearly say9ng it in a judging/mocking way, would be rude whatever your size.

'Hey, who's coat is this, it's a black size xx' could have been said without any judgement or Ill intent so fine, even though I'd have felt awkward if it was me.
Context is everything!

It doesn’t matter what size is “large” @Spirallingdownwards, @Ritzybitzy .

What matters is that the colleagues comment was inappropriate and almost certainly intended to embarrass the op.

That is poor and something that should, in the first instance, be raised with the relevant line manager to deal with. People who make these sorts of comments do so because they are allowed to. What is allowed, will continue.

do you think so?

I don't think a size 14 coat is big. Coats are designed to go over layers.

I don't even think size 14 clothes are big. I like my clothes roomie. I hate anything clinging so most of my clothes are a size 22 and I think my coat is probably a 24 to allow for several winter layers and not feel trussed up.

I'm overweight, but it's not the most important thing about me. I don't care if Colin and accounts knows I wear a size 22 or 24 coat., I don't know what I would've felt like when I was young & less self assured. But I was quite slim before I had health issues in fact until I was mid 20s and got really sick. I wore a lot of children's teenagers clothing because it fit me better.

I wasn't a better person in those days, my weight doesn't define me.

@howemb try not to let it get to you, carry on being your absolutely fabulous self your size definitely doesn't define you!!

we aren’t all 5ft petite women
size 14 is great for me at 5ft 10 with broad shoulders. I haven’t been able to get into a size 10 or 12 coat since before my teens because my shoulders don’t fit in it
people commenting how BIG (tall, broad, NOT fat) I was gave me disordered eating

Size 14 for a coat is totally average.

Not least because loads of people size up so they can get a suit for example under it.

14 is absolutely large. And indicates at a minimum overweight unless you’re 6’2. You can kid yourself it’s not but that doesn’t alter that it is.

Sizing up to wear a load of clothes underneath isn’t the same as being a size 14.