To be embarrassed my colleague announced my coat size to whole office

[howemb]

Bit embarrassing … or am I being over sensitive?

Why are you embarrassed when everyone can see you every time you walk in so know your size (ish?). I was a size 26 until recently, pretty obvious to anyone who saw me, I’d say.

Reminds me of this song video -

"Is it because you gained weight?'

That's terrible you should report it to HR!

If she said something like, anyone know whose coat this is? It’s from new look, size 22? Then fine.. it’s just factual and it’s not like people don’t have eyes and can already see you’re not a size 8. But to comment on it being particularly large is just rude.

Because this colleague was trying to shame op, by being a bitch to her, infront of the entire office. It is great that this wouldn't embarrass you, but we are all different; this behaviour is never okay, regardless of what size you look. It would be like saying, "God you have a huge nose" or "a massive arse" infront of a room full of people.

I also feel the same with people saying, "OMG, you're so skinny, you don't eat enough", etc. Just F* right off to these individuals with their body shaming, sugar-coated as compliments!

Next time turn around , smile and say, ODFOD. 😊
Then carry on.

That’s my point, the sizes are not accurate. I’m a pear, the sizes say I’m not!

We all have the same jackets with our uniform
staff off men and women all shapes and sizes

we do this without a second thought when we are trying to work out who’s is who’s when there all in a pile
but let’s be honest I think the overwhelming majority of of people could guess each others coat size

Did you look forward to out of the blue comments about your size by randos or colleagues? When you were trying to work? 🤔

Yes, it is bullying and harrassing. It is completely inappropriate to make personal comments like that at work regardless.

I work in an environment where you have to wear protective clothing in various areas. Protective clothing is hung on pegs by size and you go grab the one you need. If more than one person it's very common for the one by the peg to ask what you want and pass it to you.

So for me it's pretty normal to know what size people use and couldn't care less 🤣 some people (myself included) probably wear larger than needed as more comfortable round the hips as they're unisex.

She’s a dick and utterly insensitive for making that comment. So rude.

Also coat sizes are sometimes bought bigger to accommodate the layers worn beneath.
And... depending on the store you may will sometimes be a size 18.

But you're missing the point of the thread. This post isn't about people finding out your size in an organic way. It is about a woman shaming op infront of the entire office; there was absolutely no reason at all to announce her size. She wasn't ordering a uniform. This was targeted and a deliberate bitchy comment, aimed to shame/tear op down.

Thoughtless of her. Foot in mouth rather than aren't you fat? I have a tactless colleague. I generally feel sorry for her as most dislike her and she's no idea why.

People hiding behind the "oh, foot in mouth" trope are typically rude.

YANBU "wow, size 22!" is not the same as "whose is this? Size 22?". I can't understand how some PP can't see that. Unless they haven't read your update.

I honestly think that some of these people are less oblivious than some may think; they know what they're doing. Funnily enough, they don't have such thick skin the other way around.

This.

“That was a strange comment; what did you mean by that? 🙂”

Completely different to this situation.

Yes, that WAS incredibly rude of her.

I had wondered if it was just that someone had found your coat and was trying to find out whom it belonged to, so was giving all the details.

But this is different: a gratuitously rude comment.

I’ve heard of big bums, boobs or hips requiring a bigger size but not an unusually big pelvis not obvious to the naked eye. Does she have a defined thigh gap then ?

Yup that is rude. I’d have replied “Wow, that’s rude! At least my coat isn’t as big as your mouth”

And here we have it! This is most likely your colleague @howemb

Yanbu. It’s body shaming and I’d be tempted to raise it with HR so they stop having the food in their mouth and shaming others