To be embarrassed my colleague announced my coat size to whole office

[howemb]

Bit embarrassing … or am I being over sensitive?

Perhaps she also has an atypically dense sternum and a uniquely wide clavicle so needs the size 14 in order to button it up.

Your update !! Wow. YANBU.

In my workplace, the manager would be having a word with her. Seriously. That’s not alright.

Yes, this would be an apple shape, but I think the pp was meaning it is the clothes that are sized incorrectly, because she is a pear shape. I think she was highlighted how differing, and incorrect sizing can be.

She publicly fat shamed & mocked you. Yanbu!

@howemb

I tend to find people who are “famed for putting their foot in their mouth” are actually nasty pieces of work who soon learn to stop once they’re (professionally in this instance) called on it a few times. They do it because they get away with it, not because they’re a special breed of human who can’t engage their brain before speaking.

That’s not foot in mouth, that’s fucking rude and nasty. Not surprised you’re upset.

It's the colleague who should be embarrassed. Why would they do that? How unprofessional.

Yes she is saying that you are big and frumpy. Really mean

I've just laughed way too much at this 🤣

I honestly think that she is the one who embarrassed herself here. That was at best thoughtless and unprofessional and at worst really fucking mean.

[big smile, stand tall, tits out] Oh, i got it from [cool shop] - I can give you the details if your mum likes that sort of thing? I just love that nowadays it’s so easy to buy great clothes in my size, I’m not sure it would come in your size I’m afraid!’ [put coat on, sweep out of room OR engage entire office in spirited discussion about modern body positivity and how sad and old fashioned it is to be obsessed with body size]

This kind of person simply cannot compute that one might be fat, gorgeous, and confident. Next time respond as above and watch their brain overheat 😂

size 14 is big.

I can pretty .much guarantee that everyone who heard her come out with that one now knows she's a colossal bitch. Is she quite stupid and unpleasant generally?

You’d need to buy this I reckon

Urgh, links.

I would say it says an awful lot more about her than you. You could be any size or shape she’ll always be awful if she says stuff like that! 💐

Context is everything, did this colleague shout out "omg, I thought you were about a size 14 but i have just seen the label in your coat and realise you are a size 18". That is very different from having a two way chat about coats and sizes, for example I tend to size up in a winter coat so that I can get a thick jumper underneath. That aside I never ever comment on anyone's body shape or size, unless it is to say that they have lost weight and are looking good.

I don’t know why people bother starting threads like this without any context. Obviously it varies massively.

“SUSAN’S COAT IS A SIZE 22 GUYS!! CAN YOU BELIEVE IT?!” Yanbu

“Has anyone lost a black coat? It’s a size 14, I’m sure I’ve seen you in it before Susan? I think it’s yours” yabu.

I know it's too late now, but with these sorts of people I sometimes find it works to say "what do you mean?" or "sorry I don't understand" or "are you saying ...?" because then it makes them repeat what they've said so there's no mistake - you could then say "Why would you point out my coat size? What's the reason for doing that?" or maybe "that's a really rude and mean thing to say." or "have you never learned that it's rude to make personal comments?" You know best what sort of thing is more likely to work with her. It might be a good idea to have a few of these up your sleeve for the next time - and there will be a next time no doubt. What a nasty piece of work she sounds.

Sorry, did not see the OP update, that is a really spiteful thing to say. Sorry you have to work with someone like that

Wow that is completely unreasonable.

If someone said that in my work I would only think about how awful/stupid/mean/inappropriate the comment is than I would about the size.

If genuine faux pas how does that person have any friends. If deliberately then they don't deserve any friends.

Agreed. I also find saying, "What do you mean by that?" can leave the individual a little flustered, scrambling for words, which is quite entertaining to watch, especially infront of the room full of people they have been a tit infront of. 😂

Yes that's a good one @LiveinHarmony better than mine.

No this is awful.

I suffered from eating disorders and body dysmorphia and even at a size 10 this would have been awful for me.

FWIW no one actually cares what size you are.
The only time I’ve ever been surprised/shocked by someone’s clothes size is when it’s a much bigger size than they actually are or said they used to be a size X and are much smaller now.

She sounds like an absolute bitch.

Well, you can't tell. But I suspect that that's when you look at her from the side. Straight on, it must be obvious.

She must be a school crossing lady.

(Yes, happy to concede that I'm having much too much fun with this. My excuse is that I have a fuck of a lot of important and lucrative work to do, and we all know how that goes.)