AIBU to be disappointed and a bit upset about this?

[Upsetbetty]

Please go easy. I’m just a bit emotional and confused/sad/disappointed at my work colleagues. I have had a big birthday this week. And I know it’s only Thursday but I’m starting to feel upset that my work colleagues (who usually celebrate these things) have not done anything yet. Unless it happens tomorrow of course which is not impossible but I feel like it’s unlikely. Another colleague had a similar birthday before Christmas and they got a card/cash. I had an email today saying there were two cards in X persons drawer to sign for a person who is leaving and another for someone else who is celebrating a significant event. AIBU? Should I try to hold off my disappointment until tomorrow when I can actually say “oh they didn’t do anything 😔”
I know it’s not a given that these things happen…but I can’t help feeling the way I feel.

hugs. See what happens tomorrow.

Maybe they're planning something for tomorrow 😀

I'd say it will happen tomorrow.

I agree see what happens tomorrow. Have you mentioned it?

Are they aware it's your birthday? Do you have a shared calendar or similar?

Good god no because then I feel like I’m being a big baby 🤣😭 but they know it’s my birthday and have said happy birthday throughout the week when I’ve seen them

Yes they are aware.

That's rough, OP.

When was your birthday? ❤️

surely it will be tomorrow

I have heard of this happening often on here.

I wouldn’t be signing or contributing towards others if that’s the case. I don’t think I would bring it up though.

Maybe whoever is organising thought the other two were more significant since they’ve all came at once or they’ll give them all out together.

Monday 😔

Happy birthday upsetbetty 🎂
Hope you had a lovely time with your family and friends and tomorrow your work colleagues make a special fuss of you 🎊 xx

Yeah this is how I feel about the other cards now, but I don’t like to be mean either so it’s a real battle for me to not at least sign someones card.

YANBU and this is really rough and wrong, if other people's birthdays get acknowledged and yours hasn't.

It's your managers fault. Are they the type to normally forget?

Awaah thank you so much 🥹

No they’re not, but they are not usually the one to instigate it each time either, someone usually says oh I’ll sort it this time…

I’d be glad, I hate when anyone makes a fuss of me.

Not all birthdays are acknowledged as a group but definitely big ones do.

I’d like to be a bit more like you but unfortunately I can’t help how I feel, believe me I wish I could give less shits.

wait and see what happens.
If nothing, reply to the mail about signing the cards with "oh, i thought we weren't doing that now" - well, if you are a petty arse like me you can.

Otherwise do yuo have a close colleague you can express your disappointment to?

Yeah I do and I will say it in confidence to them. I’ve been holding it in all week to be honest. 😔

Happy belated birthday 🎁
I had this when I went on maternity leave. After contributing to engagements, going off travelling and god knows what else my team did nothing when I was actually having a baby.
On my last day some colleagues did pull me aside and gave me a card and a gift voucher though, but clearly just from them. I was gutted. Left shortly after my mat leave ended.

Then at my new workplace my team decorated my whole office when I turned 40 with a full table of presents. So I know it isn’t me! Some people are idiots. Don’t let them bring you down.

Would they definitely be aware it was a big birthday? Something similar happened to me when I turned 40. It was over the weekend and on Friday someone said oh have a lovely birthday and o replied that I couldn’t believe I was 40 already. On the Monday I was presented with a card and flowers which was lovely.

Have a great time celebrating with your family and friends and maybe your colleagues will come good. But do drop it into conversation if you get the chance. Sometimes these things get overlooked and that’s life.

This does sound unfair if it is the norm to celebrate birthdays in your workplace. Mine wouldn't necessarily know when my birthday is unless I broadcast it.
Do you normally give gifts each birthday or just significant ones? Might they not have realised it's a big birthday for you this year?

They are definitely definitely aware it’s a big one…😭