Lodger entering my room

[rockchic65]

Hi I've had a lodger for 2 months now and have caught him coming out of my bedroom his excuse was to check on my cat.my cats not well and he sleeps in my bedroom.my point is this is not the first time he been in my room and I have told him before it's my room please don't go in my room you don't have permission. The other day I came back from work and caught him coming out of my room again I was fuming and told him 1 more time and your out I have installed a camera today and I'm not telling him.if he did it again can I evict him same day or do I hsve to give him 28 days notice.i don't think he's all there. There was a time I was getting undressed and he poked his head around the door because he wasn't sure if I was in or not but my room is my privacy and he seems to forget what I told him

Yuck, you need to get rid asap op, this guy is not forgetful, he’s a creep.

YABU for not asking him to leave already

Red flags everywhere!!!

He would have been gone the same day I caught him doing that in the first place op, he needs to go, no more warnings or third chances.
What kind of checks have you been doing for prospective lodgers?

Not that you should have to but could you put a lock on your bedroom door?
also I’d just give him notice to leave, the arrangement isn’t working out for you. What a prat.

You’re being much more casual about this than I would be! I’d have given him notice the first time. I couldn’t possibly relax knowing he might walk in. Can you lock your door when you go to sleep?

I'd give him 24 hours to leave, i wouldn't feel safe.
If you have shared living space then he has very few rights of notice.

You need to check he's not pit a camera in your room or bathroom

I would put a simple latch on the inside of the door and lock it when I was in there and I'd evict him.

That's grim. Give him a month's written notice, or two weeks if you don't want to be too nice.

There's absolutely no reason why he should go in there. I don't even go in other people's rooms who live in my own house! Unless invited.
He must be either stealing or perving. There's no excuse whatsoever.

Put a lock on the door and say he's breached his tenancy by entering areas not for his use.
All lodgers know not to go into their landlords bedroom?! You'd hope.

What a fucking wrong un.

Yes this sadly. It's starting to become horribly common.

I've stopped having male lodgers they are so much fucking trouble it's unbelievable. Rude, pushy, demanding, entitled, Let them all live together in filth and get yourself a nice lady lodger.

No you dont have to give lodgers any notice legally as theyre there on license, not under a tenancy. Morally I'd give someone at least a months notice though, unless they were doing something awful (and tbf going in your room like this is pretty awful). Also be aware about recording without peoples knowledge can be tricky legally, I think from memory if theres expectation of privacy you need to notify them youre recording. So maybe just have the cam in your room!

If I was the OP I’d be quite worried about giving him a long notice period. She’s got to spend that time sharing the house with him or leaving him alone in it.

Even if he was genuine about worrying v about the cat he has completely crossed a line by entering your bedroom.

To do it again after being specially told he must not go in your bedroom shows he has no respect and you need to get him out now.,

Get him out, get a female in.

Check for cameras and if anything is out of place your underwear drawer/clothes.

He is clearly not respecting your boundaries.

First of all it’s obvious your room is out of bounds.

Secondly, you have informed him to stay out!

He clearly doesn’t give a shit about your boundaries and is totally crossing the line.

Check your WiFi has no random things connected that you don’t recognise. He might have put a hidden device in your room.

Your camera is a good idea, so you can see what exactly it is he’s doing in there. After that I’d tell him, I don’t feel comfortable with him being there.

He needs to leave ASAP, he isn't accepting your boundaries and that makes him unsafe t tell him it isn't working out get a friend to sit in with you while you tell him.

I think you need to get him out as quick as possible. No months notice - if he knows he is leaving he will ramp up this behaviour. You need to think about your safety.

Good idea to have friend with you whilst you tell him.

Why in the name of sanity is he still in your house?

He is a prying peeping creep.

Were your clothes exactly as you'd left them after his visit/s?

I've put YABU - for him still being there after his first incident.

You need a lock on your door and then throw him out

JH Christ, are you kidding me?

Boot this guy out ASAP, no mucking about with notice periods! You're putting yourself at massive risk right now, in your own home. Particularly if you are alone there with this man.

Whether he's 'not all there', or whether he's a predatory creep is not the point - your safety is.

What would you say to a friend/sister/daughter if she told you that a strange man had repeatedly entered her bedroom, when he'd been expressly forbidden to do so? I'm hoping you'd tell her the same as I and PPs are trying to advise you.

Please look out for yourself, this is not a good situation.

Get him out. Invite a male relative / friend round and tell him to start packing. Prying, sneaking boundary-violating man. Who cares where he goes - not your problem. The first time was iffy enough but the second time was the moment he showed you that he definitely can’t be trusted in your home.

He needs to go, today, and I'd advise having someone with you when you tell him, who'll help supervise him packing and going. This guy can't be trusted in any way, shape or form. I'd also changed the locks once he's out. I'm pretty chill, but this bloke has weirdo written all over him.

Get him out ASAP!!! He's looking for stuff to steal and or he's creeping. Like another poster said, check your room for cameras and Wi-Fi to see if there's a device you don't recognize on it.