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Lodger entering my room

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rockchic65 · 13/03/2025 12:01

Hi I've had a lodger for 2 months now and have caught him coming out of my bedroom his excuse was to check on my cat.my cats not well and he sleeps in my bedroom.my point is this is not the first time he been in my room and I have told him before it's my room please don't go in my room you don't have permission. The other day I came back from work and caught him coming out of my room again I was fuming and told him 1 more time and your out I have installed a camera today and I'm not telling him.if he did it again can I evict him same day or do I hsve to give him 28 days notice.i don't think he's all there. There was a time I was getting undressed and he poked his head around the door because he wasn't sure if I was in or not but my room is my privacy and he seems to forget what I told him

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RoastDinnerSmellsNice · 15/03/2025 13:13

Has he gone yet OP?

Snakebite61 · 15/03/2025 18:23

rockchic65 · 13/03/2025 12:01

Hi I've had a lodger for 2 months now and have caught him coming out of my bedroom his excuse was to check on my cat.my cats not well and he sleeps in my bedroom.my point is this is not the first time he been in my room and I have told him before it's my room please don't go in my room you don't have permission. The other day I came back from work and caught him coming out of my room again I was fuming and told him 1 more time and your out I have installed a camera today and I'm not telling him.if he did it again can I evict him same day or do I hsve to give him 28 days notice.i don't think he's all there. There was a time I was getting undressed and he poked his head around the door because he wasn't sure if I was in or not but my room is my privacy and he seems to forget what I told him

Get him out!!!

TwinklySquid · 15/03/2025 19:37

I’d check he’s not put a camera somewhere- it could explain the going in and out to get a memory card.

EmpressaurusKitty · 15/03/2025 20:19

Hopefully the OP’s celebrating his departure.

Ilovecleaning · 15/03/2025 20:28

Fuck him off ASAP

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rockchic65 · 15/03/2025 22:20

Hi yes he's gone at last he went just after 9 am this morning.i was going to message on here after he went but had to go hospital I fell down the stairs luckily no bones broken just bruised only just got back
Thankyou all for your help and advice and my cats getting better😊

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knephew · 15/03/2025 22:20

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rockchic65 · 15/03/2025 22:24

Ive checked my room no other camera to be seen only mine.i feel so much better he's gone thow. my knephews staying till Wednesday

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rockchic65 · 15/03/2025 22:32

I only drink on special occasions but not allowed to now as on medication

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LavendersBlueeee · 15/03/2025 22:50

They Knephew is still there? I was worried OP might’ve read PPs and demoted him to demoted to nephew. Phew!

daleylama · 15/03/2025 22:58

ReadingSoManyThreads · 14/03/2025 21:07

Legally, he has no rights and you do not need to give notice, so you've done nothing wrong by telling him to be out the next morning. Glad you had your nephew to be there with you.

You MUST change the locks, he might have cut a spare.

Actually he does have rights assumng she had a written agreement with him. If she didn't she'd have even more potential problems locking him out. However his actions would probably invalidate that. But Lodgers do have rights. Usually, as much notice as their frequency of rent payment.

Bepo77 · 15/03/2025 23:47

I’m starting to doubt this thread given you’re still saying “knephew” after multiple posts about the correct spelling of the word

ReadingSoManyThreads · 16/03/2025 00:03

daleylama · 15/03/2025 22:58

Actually he does have rights assumng she had a written agreement with him. If she didn't she'd have even more potential problems locking him out. However his actions would probably invalidate that. But Lodgers do have rights. Usually, as much notice as their frequency of rent payment.

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No, lodgers have no rights and although it's polite to give notice in accordance with their payment frequency, a home owner absolutely CAN legally give no notice if they feel threatened or scared etc. in their own home because of them. They can even call the police to immediately remove them. A lodger is very different to a tenant.

daleylama · 16/03/2025 00:20

ReadingSoManyThreads · 16/03/2025 00:03

No, lodgers have no rights and although it's polite to give notice in accordance with their payment frequency, a home owner absolutely CAN legally give no notice if they feel threatened or scared etc. in their own home because of them. They can even call the police to immediately remove them. A lodger is very different to a tenant.

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They are different from an AST, and his actions very probably negate his rights - but -
You are obliged only to give your lodger reasonable notice to vacate the property, allowing sufficient time for him to find somewhere else to live. Without a written agreement, setting out the specific notice period you should give him at least 28 days notice of the date you require him to vacate. The notice should be clearly set out in a letter and a copy kept as evidence.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 16/03/2025 00:35

daleylama · 16/03/2025 00:20

They are different from an AST, and his actions very probably negate his rights - but -
You are obliged only to give your lodger reasonable notice to vacate the property, allowing sufficient time for him to find somewhere else to live. Without a written agreement, setting out the specific notice period you should give him at least 28 days notice of the date you require him to vacate. The notice should be clearly set out in a letter and a copy kept as evidence.

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You don't have to give them 28 days, even the GOV.UK website confirms that. And as I said before, they can be made to leave immediately when they do something that puts the owner at risk, such as going into their bedroom to sniff their dirty underwear

daleylama · 16/03/2025 00:43

ReadingSoManyThreads · 16/03/2025 00:35

You don't have to give them 28 days, even the GOV.UK website confirms that. And as I said before, they can be made to leave immediately when they do something that puts the owner at risk, such as going into their bedroom to sniff their dirty underwear

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I'm not disagreeing with you that his actions probably negate his rights, but notice to leave usually should equal payment terms..one week if they pay weekly, one month if monthly.. yes you can throw them out but be prepared for agrro and having to change your locks if you don't negotiate it nicely.

oakleaffy · 16/03/2025 01:05

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 13/03/2025 12:10

Yes this sadly. It's starting to become horribly common.

I've stopped having male lodgers they are so much fucking trouble it's unbelievable. Rude, pushy, demanding, entitled, Let them all live together in filth and get yourself a nice lady lodger.

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I had male student lodgers and two were lovely - but one took gross advantage, when son and I were away for four weeks in the school hols, he basically had his friends to stay...sleeping in my bed and son's bed..I noticed something was very amiss as I leave clean sheets on the bed for when we get home..and they were not clean!

@rockchic65 He's probably poking through your underwear drawers - get rid of the pervy creep.

RawBloomers · 16/03/2025 02:05

Glad you got him out OP. Hope you recover from the fall quickly, no broken bones is good but bruising can still hurt!

OldCottageGreenhouse · 16/03/2025 02:52

KenAdams · 16/03/2025 00:23

I can't stop thinking about this now

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🤣🤣🤣 Yeah I’ve never seen nephew spelt with a k before!

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 16/03/2025 09:06

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 13/03/2025 12:10

Yes this sadly. It's starting to become horribly common.

I've stopped having male lodgers they are so much fucking trouble it's unbelievable. Rude, pushy, demanding, entitled, Let them all live together in filth and get yourself a nice lady lodger.

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So true. Love the idea of them all living in filth 😅.

It's a shame how the disrespectful behaviour is now so common.

People used to be grateful to have somewhere to stay, respected the owner and the property and we're respected in return.

A male friend has also stopped having male logders as they behave appallingly.

Issue with a couple of female lodgers he's had has been their boyfriends coming over and treating him and the house with no respect.

I'd love to have a lodger as I know housing is a big problem for many but doesn't seem worth the trouble.

GrannyHelen1 · 16/03/2025 09:37

He needs to go. This is not a safe situation - in fact, I don't know how or why you've been patient this long. This guy is a creep, and this behaviour makes me really uneasy on your behalf. Is there anyone you can call on for support until he's gone, in case it gets nasty?

honeyrider · 16/03/2025 09:40

GrannyHelen1 · 16/03/2025 09:37

He needs to go. This is not a safe situation - in fact, I don't know how or why you've been patient this long. This guy is a creep, and this behaviour makes me really uneasy on your behalf. Is there anyone you can call on for support until he's gone, in case it gets nasty?

If you bothered to read the OP's posts you would have seen she's already thrown him out and he's gone plus her nephew is staying with her.

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 16/03/2025 10:01

blubberyboo · 14/03/2025 18:30

He's definitely going through your knickers drawers

Out!

Knicker sniffer.....

Dogsbreath7 · 16/03/2025 10:11

Give him notice now not another chance. Really as a single female don’t get a male lodger.

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