Would you judge a 26 year old (mum of 2) who casually sleeps with someone who is 18?

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Would really appreciate people’s opinions on this, thank you

Perhaps you should walk in another person’s shoes before making such an unempathetic comment.

Would you think the same if the poster’s 35 year old father had moved his 17 year old girlfriend in with them?

He could be a mature 18 year old. Aaron Taylor Johnson was a similar age when he first got with his then 40 plus wife. Still together 15 years on he is 35 and she is 58.

And no I wouldn't judge. Not anybody's business what consenting adults do.

Nobody else's business. Dated a 28 year old at 19 and still together married with a child 27 years later.

Yes. Desperate

Yeah maybe don’t do that.

No, no problem at all with me.

No. If it's purely casual sex between two consenting adults, then why should an age gap matter? Could be 18 and 80, but if they're both physically enjoying each other sexually then that's all that matters. (Obviously it's pretty unlikely with that example, but each to their own)

No 😏
Nobody's business but theirs 🤷🏻‍♀️

If it was a 26yo male and and 18yo female it would be called creepy and a power imbalance because she would not know her own mind

Yes!

There is no rule. Not everything somebody says on TikTok has the force of law.

No.

Yep. I'd be absolutely disgusted in her.

Yes.

No. If they had fun all good.

Or an 80 year old with someone, who’s 47, which is just yuk. But nice to know by that calculation I can date my dd’s mates some time in the distant future. 😱

I was with much older men at 16-19. Looking back it was grim. The age gap between these two is big. But the life experience is even bigger so it’s just too much.

I remember years and years ago watching a documentary about a woman dating her ds’s 16 yo mate. He had moved in. She had no issue with it at all. Even then, years before I had kids so I didn’t really understand the difference in dynamic between having children and not having children, it seemed so wrong. I have a natural desire to want to care for and protect my dd’s friends. I couldn’t see how that could translate into having sex with them.

Women tend to go for relationships rather than sex plus the fertility window, which I think it is why the other way round is less common. I mean what does she have in common with him?

Sex. That's what she has in common with him. They may not need to have anything else in common.

Can't judge a relationship on age when they're both adults. You can quietly pass judgement on a number of factors if you know the people involved but it's still usually none of your business.

Same uniform as rest of the high school where I am in Scotland.

Not by me it wouldnt

The 'brain not developed' thing is constantly misrepresented on here, it doesnt mean his brain is not fully developed.

Brains are more adaptable, elastic and flexible in the young, which is as it should be because its an evolutionary strategy for humans which allows for those who are the most physically capable (the young) to take more risk taking actions, more thinking outside the box, be more changeable, make faster decisions.
You wouldnt know it from this site.

Yes. Even if you haven't mentioned the sex of the 18 year old, which I think everyone is assuming to be male.
Same if roles were reversed, but somehow, women preying on younger men/women is more disgusting.

No, both adults and if it was the other way around I would not judge either.

If it was my child or relative I would only be concerned about the relationship if I was worried about the character/personality of either

Yes I'd definitely judge. I'd also be very concerned if it was my son who was the 18 year old, in case he ended up as father to the woman's third child.

Yes massively

Nope. And to some people living sheltered lives who posted earlier, it’s very possible that a 26 year old can move in the sane circles as an 18 year old. I’m 49 and have friends in my 20s - shock horror!