dread that he’s going to come to my house and going to want to sleep with me, the thought is filling me with dread…. I didn’t miss him in those 2 weeks and responding to his messages was more out of politeness.
You don't want to be with him, do you. You've got the ick, you're concerned about some of his behaviour AND you don't miss him when he's not there.
he tries to full on kiss me at the table, he strokes my face and hair, not a gentle stroke but it’s like a full hand sliding down my face and ruining my make up, it makes me physically recoil!
Physical dominance is something controllers do, especially when it's clearly unwelcome, disguising it as affectionate caring behaviour. He's showing you that it's not just the makeup on your face that he could ruin.
I said I was just going to get up to use the ladies half way through the film and he came with me and waited outside the toilets for me, I felt like a child.
You aren't allowed off by yourself - this is a forerunner of when you won't be allowed out with friends, family, go to work, go shopping without him ..
He stares at me out in public …
I also noticed in the cinema, that he wasn’t watching the film but just staring at me! … (Does he watch you while you sleep?)Yes!! I caught him doing it once in the middle of the night, stood next to the bed just staring at me!
Surveillance of his property. Admiring what he owns.
he wanted to walk me round the restaurant… it kind of felt like he was just walking me around to show me off … kind of a ‘she’s mine’ feeling … he got jealous over some PT sessions I was having with a guy, where he wanted me to drop into conversation things like ‘my boyfriend has those trainers, that watch’ kind of thing. I felt like he basically would like me to walk around with a t shirt saying I was taken.
And demonstrating to any other male that you have an owner and that you had better reinforce that fact.
Run, love. Run like the fucking wind.