Is this rude if you were a guest?

[Britishsummertime22]

If you were a guest in someone's house and they went up to bed without saying goodnight or telling you they were going to bed/not coming back downstairs would you think that was rude?

I would just say I didn't realise that you'd gone to bed last night as you didn't say anything when you left the room.
It is most odd for both the hosts to leave like that and not say anything. Even if exhausted they could just say that and that they are going to bed, it just takes a second. Hope you find out why they did that.

Aw, thank you.

Just catching up on your thread. Will read on.

You could just report instead of making a song and dance about it and indulging in persistent troll hunting.

You started this post at 11.30ish at night. If you'd been invited to stay at my house I'd have been pretty fed up with you for keeping me up chatting till nearly midnight. I'd have been making 'its bedtime' noises about 10.30, some people go to bed early - you were rude for not taking their hints on board and going off yourself.
I would definitely have gone to bed (though I would have said goodnight) and left you as you obviously hadn't picked up the signals that it was long past my bedtime.
ASK them what time they go to bed and avoid the same situation tonight.

"you were rude for not taking their hints on board and going off yourself."

Ridiculous. She's not a child, she goes to bed when she's tired. As do you!

Do you get jokes in real life?

Only an idiot would think that was a serious suggestion.

What's an "it's bedtime" noise? Just say you're going to bed for goodness sake.

They got tired and went to bed. Nothing to see here

OP said they'd vanished a good hour before she started the thread.
She's their guest, they were rude to just vanish. They're adults with tongues in their heads, saying "i really need to get to bed now, see you in the morning" isn't hard.

I'd be interested to know what time this was. How long did you visit for? did you have dinner with them?

My guess is they'd given @OP clues they were tired or wanted to go to bed but OP didnt take any of the hints and frustration they went to bed.

But 'smelling funny' is a very subjective thing. And you can't always jump to the conclusion just because of apparent inconsistency between threads that a poster is a troll. OP has explained the childcare thing.

What signals? It doesn't sound like there were any. And 11.30 isn't late for everyone, nor is 10.30 'bedtime' for everyone (especially not grown adults on a Friday night). If the hosts needed to go to bed they should have used their words and said so instead of making a guest feel so uncomfortable. So rude and I think they're crap hosts for doing this.

And it's pretty normal to say something!
'Right, it's lovely to have you here but it's getting past our bedtime. Do you have everything you need? See you in the morning'

Silence? Rude

I’d wonder if they had been tired and just followed their normal routine (especially if older / set in their ways) and that they might kick themselves in the morning if they realised they made their guest feel bad.
It is still kinda rude, but I could see it happening.

@ilovesooty

2 posts, one saying I was interested in why OP is childless but said she needed childcare, and another saying I reported the thread is hardly a "song and dance" or persistent.

Suggesting publicly that someone is a troll breaches the guidelines.

@darknagic @LadeOde she had been there for only a few hours and she is meant to stay 3 nights total, so 2 more nights.

He's high functioning. It's me that knows he has it. He's less aware. (No benefit for him to get diagnosed now)

Asperger's is an old term for HFA where the intelligence is average to above average and no deficit in ability to live independently etc, doesn't need obvious "support".

It's a whole other thread for me to tell you how I know he has it and I'll be gaslighted into thinking I'm making false arm chair diagnoses so I'd rather leave it there.

What is the relationship between you and these hosts OP?

It's bizarre for both of them to do this, leaving you alone.

Maybe you don’t know them very well, but that’s just the way they are. It’s not being rude.

Just casually strolling by ,stopping to tie up my shoelace and possibly find out what happened this morning.

Had they been dropping massive hints they were tired and you were just sitting there watching a film or something?

My partner does this and I find it so rude, he continues to even though I’ve asked him to just say good night, very odd behaviour and such a shame that you’re now thinking what you may have done when it’s them in the wrong, are you close enough to ask them?

Oh.