To not tell partner about daughter's a&e attendance

[FedUp120028]

As the title says really.

D is an adult, he expects me to tell him if she attends but as per patient confidentiality, given she's an adult I should not. Only when NOK contact is necessary which is her mother should I contact a parent, otherwise it would breach confidentiality unless she explicitly tells me to.

I’m a bit confused, do you work at A and E or something?

Yes.

No you should not tell him. It’s breaking patient confidentiality.

It is worrying that you are posting on Mumsnet for this.
This situation is a basic one that anyone in healthcare should know the answer to.

No, you don’t tell him.

please ask your manager to send you on confidentiality training.
please ask a manager if you are ever unsure in a situation again.

Professional ethics trumps what he would 'like' you to do, I bet he wouldnt be happy if someone he knew made an exception to tell people about an embarassing medical complaint of his. Perhaps point out that breaching confidentiality could lose you your job?

Your daughter? His daughter? Joint daughter? Your situation isn’t very clear.

In which case I would bloodywell hope that you do not even entertain the idea of breaching her confidentiality. Because you'd be behaving unethically and unprofessionally.

Why haven't you explained to DP exactly that, in no uncertain terms?
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It's a bit concerning if you don't know this , of course you shouldn't tell him.

What the fuck.

Does she end up in a&e often??

No of course you can't tell him. Is it your dd too? He needs to make himself available to his daughter and she will tell him this information if she wants him to know.

It doesn't matter whose DD it is.

You need more training in protecting patient confidentiality if this is a real question for you.

His expectations are unethical for you.

It doesn't matter whose daughter. She has rights to patient confidentiality under law, these must be adhered to by HCPs.

I'm another wondering why you're posting this on Mnet @FedUp120028, surely the law and your training is very clear on this.

It doesn't. But blimey it's a confusing OP.

I know that I should not.

I'm asking to show him I am right because he just does not seem to understand.

Even posting this on Mumsnet is risking violating patient confidentiality.

Sounds like a pretty niche situation, with a lot of identifying information - adult daughter with separated parents, mother is NOK, father’s new partner works at A&E, sounds like the daughter likely has some ongoing addiction/mental health issues etc.

There must be people who could identify your step daughter from this.

I'm assuming there's some sort of mental health, or substance misuse issue going on here? However, she's legally entitled to her confidential medical information not being disclosed.

Which you already know OP.

So you work at an A&E and your partner expects you to tell him if his daughter turns up there? She is an adult and her mother is listed as her next of kin.

No. Absolutely not, you need to separate your home and your work life in this situation and if the daughter is ever there, you follow the rules of your job and don't break confidentiality.

He sounds controlling, and I think that you should explore that idea some more.

of course you can’t tell him then. You would lose your job.

Your daughter???

You don't have to show him anything. You know the law. You say nothing.

Oh come off it! That could practically anyone 😂

It's not like OP said "Katie Smith, with red hair, glasses, works in a school in reception, in county X, drives a blue mini".🫠

Wtf.
She is an adult, if she doesn't want him to know about her medical care then that is 100% her right.
If you were 'just' her step mum then you should respect her privacy in this matter, but if you only know because you work there then 100% absolutely you CANNOT tell him. It would be a massive breach of trust and could/should cost you your job.

Maybe your partner should focus his attention on why his relationship with his daughter is so poor that she isn't voluntarily sharing this information and work on improving that. I'd suggest a starting point would to be to be less of a controlling arse.

I don't really know which way to vote but your partner is both completely out of touch and disrespectful to be asking this. You would be putting your ethics, your job and his adult child's faith in the health care services on the line.

Does he want her NOT to trust hospitals to seek medical care when needed because she's learned someone might illegally blab on her?

Christ.