To not tell partner about daughter's a&e attendance

[FedUp120028]

As the title says really.

D is an adult, he expects me to tell him if she attends but as per patient confidentiality, given she's an adult I should not. Only when NOK contact is necessary which is her mother should I contact a parent, otherwise it would breach confidentiality unless she explicitly tells me to.

Yes, he's never been like this with anything else. It's like he's put out and offended by people wanting to keep stuff from him?

He's usually so so lovely! I was surprised!

Yes I know this, but in those special circumstances he wouldn't be the first to know, he seems to expect it!

He knows the legal procedures. He's just thinks that the morally right thing to do would be to inform him the 🙄

🤣🤣 Bless his little cottons. At this point it's entirely possible he's realised he's being stupid but can't admit to it. If I were you I'd stop discussing it with him - tell him in that case he should tell his DD that he feels morally entitled to be listed as her NOK and see how far that gets him, you won't be having any more conversations about it.

What's more important is the daughter's right to privacy!

How does he not realise this. Her attending a&e is not his business unless she wants to tell him.

It's none of his business.

It's none of your business either.

She's an adult.

Tell him to direct all his questions to her.

She can then decide.

I'd just say I don't know.

He really is showing an utter lack of respect or regard to any of you.

I'm quite surprised you didn't laugh in his face if I'm honest.

Do you really think showing him a thread full of people confirming he is absolutely wrong is going to change anything?

Because I think you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

Even If he wants to know if you see her in Tesco it’s none of his business and you aren’t his spy

Yep he’s just one of those people who can’t admit they are wrong- was married to one for far too long

I hope it is just that he can’t admit he was wrong becuase his attitude to his moral right to information about his adult daughter is awful and really doesn’t sit right with me