To not tell partner about daughter's a&e attendance

[FedUp120028]

As the title says really.

D is an adult, he expects me to tell him if she attends but as per patient confidentiality, given she's an adult I should not. Only when NOK contact is necessary which is her mother should I contact a parent, otherwise it would breach confidentiality unless she explicitly tells me to.

Not really sure what the problem is here, it’s pretty straightforward what the answer is

Dad: please contact me if DD attends.
you: oh I’m sure she will let you know if she feels the need to and of course we have her NoK details if we need to contact someone.

end of discussion surely? Doesn’t need to be confrontational just be nonchalent and shut it down. if he pushes just say she has her phone and will call who she wants to and then NOK can share information with other family if the patient and NOK feel they need to.

these kinds of situations come up often in hospitals. If you’re struggling speak to a member of staff for support.

Basic rules of confidentiality mean you can't tell him anything about anyone at all ever.... even DD
I find it hard to believe you work in A&E in any capacity

I would pay to see anyone try.

Area?
Trust?
My position?
Is SD really female?

It's hypothetical, you would be terrible detective. I hope you don't work for the police!

I am not asking for the rules. Thanks.

I think I would just say to him that if I had the opportunity to speak to his daughter in hospital I would ask her if she wanted him to know. I would then do whatever she wanted. If she is close to him then she may well want him to know anyway But it has to come from her. In the very unlikely event that she came in and wasn't conscious then I assume you would be telling her mother and would ask her mother whether her father should be told.

Can two people be next of kin?

Yep.
Depressing stuff.

Sorry but you sound really immature. I’m glad that you’re not looking after me. Try exercising your own judgement instead of using a random bunch of strangers for their opinion so you can back it up to some dickhead.

Yes, you'd like to think so. He expects me to blab?? Not going to happen.

Your posts are not particularly clear but for the DDs Father
" She is not allowed to tell you anything about anyone"

Just keep repeating the same phrase. As I said sir we will ensure your daughter has access to a phone to contact you if she wishes…

WELL. Again the friend question was either way to prove how wrong he was.

Have you the thread?

My stake says no.

That's a bit ridiculous. All we know is the OP works in A&E and has a stepdaughter. That could apply to hundreds, possibly thousands of people!

Ask him if he'd be okay with you calling HIS parents if he attended A&E for any reason and sharing his medical info?

"Well apparently he has all rights ever to know about his adult daughter."

You must know this is not true, and so should he.
How can you stay with someone so controlling?

Have you both had a few drinks tonight? It sounds like one of "those" kind of conversations 🥳

Really not, I can think of 3 people off the top of my head that this could relate to. Not multiply that by millions

Bingo!

He's actually really riled me.

Save him the trouble and tell him to piss off.

🤣🤣🤣

🤷‍♀️If you have to PROVE to him that it is unethical and need to ask random people to back you up says to me that you need to find a better partner
It is up to him to have the kind of relationship with his child that would have her wanting to share so he could support.
The fact that he'd expect you to put YOUR job and livelihood at risk because he doesn't really isn't a great sign.
Patient confidentiality is a crucial part of care and someone who doesn't understand that wouldn't be worth my time 🤷‍♀️

@FedUp120028 - well that's your cue to tell him it's over right now.
He's a control freak.
Does this piece of shit man bring you any joy at all? Have a hard think about that.

Oh, and please do show him this.

An adult female with a step parent who works in a medical facility and a dad who has no comprehension of privacy or his partner’s responsibilities with regard to confidentiality?

Oh yeah, I definitely know her!

Because it hasn’t actually happened. What’s the point in arguing about any hypothetical situation. If something really happens feelings will come in to it and that’s different. I work for the NHS and know what I should do and have never breached any IG rules but it it was family, I can’t 100% say what I would do and I don’t think anyone could really. We all know what we should do. So it just seems like making an argument over the cake of it.

Wtf are you doing with this dickhead? Why are you prolonging the inevitable?

Sorry OP, but I'm in a similar situation but don't work in a hospital. My DH who has a pretty good relationship with his parents in general has told me if he is ever taken off to hospital I am not to call them under any circumstances.
I feel dreadful about this because if it was my son I'd want to know straight away.
The reason is that a couple of years ago he was taken to hospital by ambulance for what is a very private reason. He said don't ring my mum she'll get upset. Speak to dad and then he can tell her. So I did.
Within 5 minutes she called me back and then said "I was just explaining it to Elsie ( her sister) and she said she knows a good doctor. I asked why she had told DH's aunt and she said "I didn't know it was a secret"!!!! How do you get to 77yo and not know that you dont talk about peoples personal health information without checking with them first.
I'm in a conundrum now. He is not in the greatest of health but if I ring and he's fine I will be the bad one. If I don't ring and it goes bad I will never be forgiven.
Sorry again OP for massive derail.

In your situation, don't disclose any info. Just say No.