He didn’t go to Tesco?

[purpleparroty]

I’ve been ill with the flu for the past few days and am in the worst of it, asked DH if he could pop to the shops and get some dinner in, and food for dc over the weekend, as we have nothing in and I thought he would stop at Tesco on his way home from work.

He decided to go to our village newsagents which sells no fresh food and spent 50 FUCKING QUID on crap. He got unbranded frozen ready meals which no one in our house would touch with a barge pole. The rest went on crisps / chocolate / ice cream / pot noodles. He didn’t even get bread (which they actually sell). Because i’ve not been happy about this he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again. AIBU to be psised off he didn’t go to tesco and get real food the kids actually eat and not just chocolate and crisps. And now he’s moaning saying he didn’t know he wasn’t ‘allowed’ to go to the village shop and that i should have told him. I shouldn’t fucking have to tell people to use their brain.

Less work to shop once a week

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no
Im saying

Each to their own
Vive la difference

Hip hip hooray!

How facile🙄.

As someone who has a husband who has taken over several times whilst I was suddenly hospitalised with pneumonia, I know it absolutely can be done..........even with 3 under 5, including a newborn breastfed baby that suddenly had a bottle shoved in its mouth.
Its called being an adult, and giving a damn about your wife and children.

Lots of men can and do, do it.
Unlike some, I neither excuse nor tolerate the wasters who cannot be arse to do the right thing by their family.

We all know that. I was just explaining why many people shop more than once a week as some posters seem to think that is inefficient.

On the contrary, I don’t hate men at all. I have a DH and 2 DS who I adore and are wonderful human beings. DH and I do work within the house to typical gender roles, I do the shopping and cooking, he does the garden and takes the bins out. However, he also does laundry, he cleans the house, he runs the vacuum round. And crucially if I was ill, he’d be able to go to the supermarket and sort everyone out for 2 days.
This thread is more like woman hating if you look into it - to the op, who is currently ill, there have been the following questions:

• why didn’t you organise an online shop
• Why didn’t you write him a list?
• why didn’t you do the shop properly so you weren’t running out of things by the weekend? When she’d actually explained that they stock up over 2 separate shops
• why don’t you keep a store cupboard of basics?

Completely putting the onus back onto the poorly woman because the incapable man tried his best but fell so short of the mark he couldn’t even see where it was. But somehow this is the fault of op because she didn’t suckle her DH while he did a task outside of his skill set. And I’m willing to bet if this was a single mum on benefits feeding her children crisps and chocolate for a weekend, she’d be absolutely annihilated on here.

‘Weaponised incompetence’?! He bought food that may not have been the best choice for a couple of meals. Such drama and hate.

He wasted the little money they had on overpriced crap and when pulled up on it had a tantrum and said ‘well I won’t be doing it again’. The excuses for men doing a shit job just so they won’t be expected to do it again is just as bad as the shit job they do of things.

Given that we are talking about a man who thinks that crisps and chocolate are suitable for his children’s meals for an entire weekend, what are the chances he’ll be able to knock up a weekend’s worth of meals from lentils?

I’m pretty sure he’d manage some pasta and a jar of sauce. And I bet if he’d cooked the ready meals the kids would eat them.

I don’t need to get a grip thanks. I’m sick of seeing posts defending these incompetent men. He tried FFS?!. give the man a medal.

Far from man hating what I have seen is complete misogyny... the OP should have...

Made a list

Titled it Tesco

Explained what exactly is meant by 'staples'

Shopped properly last week

Always have staples in

Ordered from Deliveroo

Sorted a Tesco shop to be delivered within the hour

Told him his children are 'fussy'

Not have fussy children

Be grateful for ready meals as then she doesn't need to spend too much time cooking.

Shouldn't live in a village if she doesn't always have stuff in 'just in case'

Laughed along with her 'At least he tried' DH.

Laughed when he bought £50 worth of crap

Should have bread in the fridge

Should have bread in the freezer

Not been ill

Isn't actually that ill if she can still post!

Unfortunately the OP is ill and her 'd'h has showed he won't step up and actually parent his own children.

How dare she be ill and worse, expect him to do a proper shop/ feed the family and worst, complain about the rubbish job he’s done!

Great free advertising for Tesco.😀

You’re in bed ill. He’s in charge. Why are you sticking your oar in?

Because he didn't buy food for her children, and unlike him she gives a shit?

Yeah! Dad’s in charge so we’ll get fed all the rubbish we love. 🙄

And just splurge on corner shop prices while at it.

Do you think this thread is really directing anyone to TESCO who already doesn’t shop there?

Apparently the op should be both fully on the ball and preemptively buy jars of sauce and lentils so her poor husband doesn’t have to ‘panic buy’ shit, whilst also being zen mum who doesn’t give a flying monkeys if her children are eating Z brand, unidentifiable ingredients, possibly eat-by date of when the Spice Girls were still popular corner shop ready meals (with a side of space raiders).

Be fully prepared and also don’t pay attention at all, and they say mums can’t do it all.

Yes, unreasonable. Here's my take. If there's a chore to be done and you ask someone to do it, then they get to do it their way. Not yours. Theirs.

Is it annoying? Yes. But we can't complain our guys don't do anything if we punish them. Also we can't let them weaponize incompetence. So I list and send him back because you and the kids nees some additional items.

Oh ok, so if you're asked to do the laundry, it's fine to throw the hairy dog bed in with the black work tops, white shirts and a random red sock right?

The person doing the laundry doesn't care about grey/pink whites and hairy work tops, so the other person just has to suck it up!

What a load of crap. Sure, they get to do the job their way but there still has to be a reasonable degree of competency here - buy the food wherever you like but make sure its a/food everyone will actually eat and b/sensible food that covers the necessary period, otherwise the job isn't actually done!

Well, Tesco food delivery came today so hopefully the husband can manage a decent meal and OP is on the mend now.

I know how she feels, when I was ill recently a friend told me to stay at his but I was really miserable at the food he had in. Similar, crisps and chocolate, although there was a bit of cheese and bread. He was trying to give me whisky! I only started to get better when I went home and started on healthy fluids first like hot lemon, turmeric and ginger then regained my appetite properly.

Not well enough to do an online shop but well enough to get riled up enough to come here and post and argue with strangers about it. I'd be cheesed off too but if you're THAT poorly I think you'd just be glad you didn't have to face Tesco on a Friday night after work.

When men stop acting like horrible, entitled, men babies, then we'll stop denigrating them. Waiting... 💅