Megan's naive belief she could somehow emancipate him is so fucking ridiculous but also understandable.
This is exactly the kind of misplaced narrative that fuels so much of the never-ending vitriol against Meghan - people refusing to actually listen to what she has said, and what Harry himself has said, repeatedly. Harry had long wanted out (see multiple interviews and articles from well before Meghan). It was his idea to push for a hybrid royal role, and his decision to leave entirely when that failed—driven by his own fears and experiences.
And yet, despite Harry being vocal about his unhappiness in royal life for years (even before Meghan), she was still framed as the mastermind who “trapped” him. When they left the UK, Harry explicitly said it was his decision - but Meghan still gets the blame.
Meghan really tried to make it work, but she was about:blank always scrutinised and found wanting. She was constantly accused in the press and here in many deleted threads of breaking protocol (nail polish, crossing her legs), of being too ambitious and outshining senior royals (see Together cookbook and Smart Works). She and Harry said they wanted privacy, but people twisted that to mean they wanted total invisibility - even as other royals manage their own boundaries without the same kind of backlash (there are some grumblings in the press about the limits the Wales' set on them and the children but there is nothing like the same sustained attacks on the Sussexes).
She wore nice clothes and was slammed for the cost; she wore affordable clothes and was mocked for trying too hard. She held her baby bump too much, ate avocados that were somehow linked to terrorism, held Archie the ‘wrong’ way. If she was warm and affectionate, she was too Hollywood. If she smiled too much, she was fake and smug. If she didn’t, she was cold and calculating.
Stories of Harry and Meghan's lives were used as fodder for the press - see The Princes and the Press , Byline Times, Jasmine Dotiwala and Carole Malone (long long long before they left) are on video discussing the reciprocal nature and leaks from Kensington palace - even Camilla Tominey herself (in the doucmentary linked to above) has said as much.
And yet, despite all of this it’s still Meghan's fault - because why did she not speaking up sooner about racism and struggles inside the palace. But when she did speak out (e.g., Oprah interview, podcast, or Netflix series), she was then whining, attention-seeking, and playing the victim.
Meghan was found wanting not because she actually did anything terrible, but because people decided they didn't want to accept her, no matter what she did.