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Had an argument with my boyfriend this morning

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pinkgin1994 · 05/03/2025 07:48

Am I being a complete bitch here? It is my time
of the month so it may be me…

Our alarm went off and we were cuddling/snoozing as normal. At one point I told him to look at me because something funny had happened with my
hair.

About 10 minutes later he seemed annoyed, I asked him what was wrong and he said “I didn’t want to open my eyes” he said he wants to wake up on his terms and that he wanted an extra 10 minutes.

We always cuddle/snooze and his comment about waking up on his own terms just made me feel
annoying and like I can’t do anything right. I now feel like I can’t do anything in case it wakes him up. He said that everything else is fine.
He explained it but wasn’t exactly loving when I seemed upset. So I was still upset.

I told him this and he flipped. He said he already explained, and I’m dragging it around in circles.
I said I just needed reassurance and a hug and a bit of love, but he said he’d already reassured me and said he loved me.

he then got annoyed and said I “do this every time” and that he would be “wasting his time” because reassuring me never helps, and that he’s just repeating himself. He kept emphasising the fact that it’s a waste of time.
I asked if he thinks it’s a waste of time reassuring and cheering up his own girlfriend, and he said “well it never does that anyway”.

He then was a bit late for work and said I make him late a lot.

Im in tears now and I don’t really know why

OP posts:
PlumpHobbit · 05/03/2025 21:41

I'm fairly needy and admit it, but if husband asked me to wake up just to look at his hair (nothing important) when I was trying to snooze, I would be RAGING

I am NOT a morning person, he knows I'm usually monosyllabic in the morning! I also wouldn't ask him to wake up/stop snoozing just to look at something trivial, and he is a morning person!

Obviously an emergency is completely different

BunnyLake · 05/03/2025 22:57

ShaunaSadeki · 05/03/2025 11:05

@pinkgin1994 Did you post recently about a shopping trip when he was feeling ill?

Yeah is this the shopping centre one where she needed to cuddled and her hair played with for reassurance? The vibe and immaturity seem exactly the same. The man must have the patience of a saint.

Pinkelephant66 · 05/03/2025 22:59

Sounds utterly exhausting

BunnyLake · 05/03/2025 23:00

HolySchmokes · 05/03/2025 12:06

How old are you?

In their 30s if I recall. Whatever age, I was surprised they were older than fourteen.

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