To NOT want people to inform me I’ve dropped something?

[chocolategift]

I know - they’re being helpful.

But … today in the supermarket; toddler DD being whingey and difficult at the checkout. I dropped my phone out of my pocket as I was struggling with child, groceries and everything else. It’s right in front of me. But three people immediately shout over to me YOU’VE DROPPED YOUR PHONE. Meaning I felt obliged to pick it up immediately when actually I could have done with just leaving it for thirty seconds

I know I’ll get roasted for not being duly appreciative to my fellow citizens and I appreciate they mean to be helpful but seriously … I couldn’t have missed that I dropped it!

Don’t be a dick then.

@mindutopia
It's because we've become a society in which our first instinct is we're being attacked, so we must attack.
The crisp dropper (I kinda like that) may have thought you were beeping because he was in the road, for ex.

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I get it. Sometimes people being helpful is the last thing you need. Unreasonable would be to be rude to them openly but just thinking i wish they wouldn't is not being unreasonable to anyone.

Having lost my phone while out with 2 toddlers, I would have loved someone to have given me a heads up when I dropped it.

I hear you. I’d step away from this thread now and try to have a good evening. Kids to bed early and some brain-rotting drivel on TV.

Slight irritation versus losing a device worth hundreds of pounds with all your passwords saved on it, that it’s basically impossible to function without…

You sound like you’re on knife edge OP

Are you being serious? Surely not.

People are trying to be kind.

There's a high-value item that is lying at your feet. People don't want you to not realise, or step on it. What you going to do? Scream at them, "DON'T TELL ME!!!"
Bizarre.

Goodness, what a silly drama llama 😁

YABU, just appreciate when people are trying to help.

Story -I was standing in the queue at our local co-op. Older guy (60's not elderly) in front of me pulled his phone out of his back pocket and out tumbled a pile of £20 notes. I did the whole 'excuse me, pointing' thing but he didn't seem to understand, was too busy poking his phone...so in the end, ,I picked it up and handed it to him and explained it had fell out his pocket. He was furious, God knows why, started ranting and making out I was stealing his cash. Ended up having to tell him to stop being a prick and he should be thanking me and it isnt my fault he doesn't pay attention.

Oh well maybe one day you'll drop your phone and no one will tell you, maybe then you'll be happier.

@chocolategift I get it, sometimes when I need to carry my son I've shoved my phone in my back pocket and people have often told me my phone is there and that they can see it and that it might get stolen. Honestly I'd hope I'd notice if someone removed it but even if not my hands were full of toddler, who I am not going to get to hold it or put it in my hoodie's pocket so it digs into his legs, no other pockets on some jeans, stupid design, teach me for buying online. I made a New Year's resolution to start using a handbag but it's because of these comments but honestly where should I put my phone if I have no other option. I shouldn't be forced to carry a handbag because modern phones are so long, modern pockets are so small and in short supply on women's trousers and strangers can't handle me keeping my phone there in case it's nicked. If I don't care neither should strangers. This is why women end up carrying their phone in their bra and get all sorts of issues as a result.

You shouldn’t post if you can’t handle the responses.

Still reading the thread… but why do you feel you can’t say ‘yep thanks just need a minute and I’ll be ok’

Reminds me of a time I was in a small open kayak/canoe waiting to board a larger boat. I was handing a line up and tipped. I was literally right in front of the ladder, in a life jacket, it was the slowest tip in history so was totally prepared for it, and there were 2 rowboats and a paddle board surrounding me. It was the safest tip in history. However the water was cold ~12 degrees. Enough to make you initially seize from the shock and take your breath away.

I was pondering my life choices and grabbing paddles and line while everyone around me was yelling for me to climb the ladder. I just carried on with what I was doing in order to give my body time to adjust so I could breathe and haul myself up the ladder.

I’m sure everyone thought I was an idiot for not scrambling onto the boat but I didn’t care. I just carried on and did it at my own speed. I was super happy for the one person who thought ahead to have the warm water deck shower ready to spray me off when I got aboard.

You could have done similar when you fell and given yourself a chance to regroup and wince when you fell or say ‘yep, thanks I’ll get the phone’ when you were ready.

If I had to guess you’re more annoyed at your reaction rather than their help.

This is such an unnecessary arsehole attitude and statement. Jeezus.

Yes OP I totally get this and it would irritate me too. People stating the obvious while my hands are tied for the moment.

To me, the people replying to you on here are the arseholes and not you.

Hardly. @MarchingintoSpring is right.

You are in the wrong, but I am exactly the same.

Anything like you've dropped x, your lace is undone, your shirts untucked etc etc

Like, 99.9 percent of the time I am already aware of this. And it's only affecting me. It doesn't inconvenience anyone. Can't I simply exist however I choose?

See also cars waving me across a road I wasn't ready to cross. Etc etc.

I know people are being helpful. I really do. I know it's crazy to get annoyed, but I always do.

OP: AIBU
MNetters: Yes.
OP: No, I'm not! 🤬🤬🤬

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They don’t know if you know or not If you’ve dropped it, they’re being kind. Imagine if no one told you and you didn’t know, your post would be “dropped phone in supermarket in front of people and not one person let me know!”
If it wasn’t convenient to pick it up immediately just say thanks I’ll grab it in a second. You never know someone might even pick it up for you

I once told a teenage girl she had water leaking out of her backpack. I assumed she hadn't put the lid back on her bottle properly or something. She turned round and said "yeah I know" and carried on soaking her arse as she walked off

Perhaps that teenager
was the OP!

I think when people see someone struggling they have the urge to help, but there's no consensus for how to do this in many places. Especially when kids are involved - it's a landmine. So when something happened that universally can be helped with, without offense (or so it seems), they've all thought 'oh thank fuck, something we can do for the lass' - which is why 3 jumped in at once. Of course you can be irritated by it, but there's more at work here. It's not about you, basically.

I think I meant minefield. I'm full of cold and I keep doing word things. 😆

Broadly, or specifically, then?
I disagree, though.