To NOT want people to inform me I’ve dropped something?

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I know - they’re being helpful.

But … today in the supermarket; toddler DD being whingey and difficult at the checkout. I dropped my phone out of my pocket as I was struggling with child, groceries and everything else. It’s right in front of me. But three people immediately shout over to me YOU’VE DROPPED YOUR PHONE. Meaning I felt obliged to pick it up immediately when actually I could have done with just leaving it for thirty seconds

I know I’ll get roasted for not being duly appreciative to my fellow citizens and I appreciate they mean to be helpful but seriously … I couldn’t have missed that I dropped it!

Yabu of course but only because at the time you were stressed and wrangling children at the supermarket isn’t a fun time!

I'm with you OP! This happens to me all the time. I'm juggling things, I drop something but it's not the most important priority to pick up that thing straight away. But then people around me seem to REALLY want me to pick it up, so I have to even though it makes doing the other stuff much harder.

Similar is when I am at restaurant and I put something like my phone under my chair. I actually had someone from another table gesturing at me madly to tell me my phone CHARGER was under my chair. I thought he wanted to use my charger! But no he just wanted to tell me my charger was on the floor under my chair. Which was where I had put it.

The other day I was driving out of the supermarket car park and a man, also coming out of the supermarket but with arms full of shopping (no bag), crossed the zebra crossing in front of me. He dropped a big sharing bag of crisps in the middle of the road.

I beeped my horn hoping he’d turn around and see his crisps. He didn’t.

So we drove along beside him and I put the window down and dd and I both tried to get his attention and shouted that he’d dropped his crisps. He gave me the finger and told me to f&@k off! 🤣 Jokes on him though. I hope he made it all the way home before he realised and had to eat a sad crisp-less lunch.

I feel I never want to help ungrateful people again

This exact thing also happens to me

I must have been told 30 times my bag is open

Yes I know!! It doesn't close. All my important stuff is in my pockets. It's so annoying

I honestly think people enjoy pointing out a fault because it makes them feel superior. It doesn't feel like they are being helpful

I wasn’t suffering. I was aware I’d dropped my phone and was going to pick it up once I’d settled the toddler which would have taken seconds.

It is a bit of an added pressure I guess, it’s not a massive deal, to be honest a lot of the replies to the thread seem more angry about my post than I was about the people who told me I dropped my phone.

"Oh, thank you!"

Yep. When op drops her phone next time and nobody tells her, she'll change her mind then. Some people are literally happy to make everything an issue 🤣

While other distracted parents wouldn't notice so would be grateful

You're a charmer

Do you mean this is what I should have said?

I did. I’m honestly wondering what people think I did! An internal mild annoyance doesn’t mean I started ranting and raving.

Because the passers by weren't psychic and you're ungrateful

Then you'd have been better off keeping it to yourself going by the views on here

People are bloody exasperating and some are determined to be right when they are clearly wrong. Don't drag me out of this burning building, I like the warmth.

This.

Maybe that's because you came across as ungrateful

You’re just being unpleasant for the sake of it. That sarcastic ‘you’re a charmer’ because I was slightly internally exasperated at numerous people shouting at something I already knew?

I mean, what have I actually done wrong here apart from post on here about it (and I honestly really can’t say how much I wish I hadn’t, I thought it would be a lighthearted sort of thread where you know you’re being a bit unreasonable but the general public can still be a bit annoying.) I wasn’t prepared for the personal attacks and even though I know they’re nonsense it’s still surprisingly upsetting.

Why would I, when I said ‘oh thanks’?

Oh absolutely I would. We can agree on that.

I understand your feeling, becuase you know you dropped it and didn't need someone pointing it out.
However, consider if you didn't realise you dropped it. You would be extremely grateful they pointed it out.
They didn't know you knew you dropped it, so were just being helpful. No harm done.

Because your post and subsequent posts sounded ungrateful and snippy!

That’s me, snippy horrible nasty bitch.

Mumsnet is such a weird place. It’s given me an awful impression of the interior life of Brits that somewhat tracks with life experiences, too. I’m heartened by the responses, at least! 😀

Oh, for heaven' sake...

Exactly. That's all that was needed.

All right everyone got it now 👍🏻 Cunt of the highest order and I wish I was fucking dead and I hate myself so fucking much. Now leave me.