To NOT want people to inform me I’ve dropped something?

[chocolategift]

I know - they’re being helpful.

But … today in the supermarket; toddler DD being whingey and difficult at the checkout. I dropped my phone out of my pocket as I was struggling with child, groceries and everything else. It’s right in front of me. But three people immediately shout over to me YOU’VE DROPPED YOUR PHONE. Meaning I felt obliged to pick it up immediately when actually I could have done with just leaving it for thirty seconds

I know I’ll get roasted for not being duly appreciative to my fellow citizens and I appreciate they mean to be helpful but seriously … I couldn’t have missed that I dropped it!

Projection and displacement OP. You're stressed at shopping with a whinging toddler and annoyed it's caused you to drop things. These people have done nothing wrong.

Fucking hell, get a bloody grip!

Living in a world where people are saying everyone is getting worse but when they try to step in and help they get a response like this.

You must have some steam to burn off if you’re this wound up about it that it warranted a ranting thread.

WTAF? 😂 You are complaining because someone has informed you that you have dropped your phone? Are you taking the piss?! 😆They are being helpful and doing NOTHING wrong.

YABVU. Maybe you're over tired!

Yabu. A dropped phone in a supermarket is either going to get trodden, rolled on or stolen. Just pick it up. Honestly.

You should shop online, so that people can avoid you.

They are just trying to be helpful.

You're very narrow minded if you think that what's obvious to you is also obvious to others... 🤦🏻‍♀️ They can't read your mind so don't expect them to.

@chocolategift obviously YABU.

A woman dropped her phone in a furniture store a couple of weeks ago and I'm sure she'd noticed. I was about 10 metres away. Then she walked off leaving it on the floor!

I picked it up and walked it over to her, and she was actually oblivious she had dropped it and so grateful I'd noticed and brought it to her!

No need for that, just log it with 111.

What do people think I did? I’m a bit baffled with these responses; all I did was say thanks and pick it up. But it was literally in front of me, I couldn’t have missed it and unless someone’s the size of Ben Elf they aren’t going to steal it. But because I think to myself it’s a bit stressful and annoying being told something I already know I should stay home forevermore so people can avoid … umm, what? My thank you?

I kind of get it OP, but you have to take the times it's not helpful graciously, because a couple of times it will be helpful!

There should have been you’re a bit of an idiot option on the voting options.
I kind of apologise for being so rude, but I was thankful when someone pointed out to me, my dropped phone, when I’d heard a thud, but not realised I’d dropped it.

FFS Why does anyone bother to try to help anyone else when they might get a short shrift or in my case once a mouthful. I offered my seat on the bus to an older person with a walking stick and she tore me off a strip about how she wasn't disabled blah, blah. I just stared and thought fuck you.
The bus was full and a bit jolty, lot of potholes where I live, and the silly cow fell and hit the deck. I just ignored her. Someone helped her up, she was swearing and mouthing off because noone had offered her a seat. When the helper, who had been standing pointed out I had, she mouthed off at him too shouting and swearing.
Totally bat shit.

I agree op, people, bless em, think they're being helpful but they're just stating the bleedin obvious

Wait until you lose one/have one stolen!

You’d complain if someone wiped it…

I know what you mean but you could have just said "I know thanks I'll get it in a sec"

I know what you mean because I often travel on the tube and train into and my bag sometimes won't zip up fully sometimes if I have a lunchbox, water bottle, and umbrella along with my heavy laptop and people constantly stop me to say 'EXCUSE ME, YOUR BAG IS OPEN!'

Sometimes it can be like 4 or 5 times in the space of a ten minute journey.

I get they are trying to be helpful but people seem to think it's some sort of HUGE risk to have an open bag, when I already know full well that my keys, phone and purse are in my coat pocket, so unless they want a dirty lunchbox, thieves are not going to get anything. PLUS, I'm aware it's open so I'm aware of anyone who might be close to me/touching it.

It forces me to carry my rucksack in my hand as opposed to on my back because I'm fed up of being stopped all the time.

I can empathise, OP. Your attention was on several different things at once and having something obvious pointed out by no less than 3 people in quick succession, just adds to the overwhelm!

Of course they were trying to be kind - which is why you said thank you!

Your only mistake was posting in AIBU 😂

@chocolategift Genuine question but what kind of responses were you anticipating/hoping for?

I did this today when the person in front of me dropped their AirPods case. It made a sound when it dropped but I told the person because I was trying to be helpful. Luckily the person said thanks which is what I would have said if I was the one who dropped it.

In the nicest possible way do u think you're just a bit stressed and over tired, I'm sure everything will feel better after a (hopefully) good night's sleep!!!
I know the stress of flapping and dropping stuff everywhere at the tills whilst wrangling a toddler and a baby. I normally give a manic running commentary, that with my dishevelled appearance means people probably are too scared to say something to me, apart from the other parents who Get It 😂

People tried to help me. I didn't want them to, I prefer to suffer. AiBU?

Really!!!