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Fallen out with DP over comment made at Sunday lunch

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PopkinsBear · 03/03/2025 20:29

Opinions welcome as DP is adamant I am over-reacting. We went for a roast yesterday with a group of other couples (my friends and their OH’s). I have been going to the gym regularly since January and my friends complimented me on some changes in my figure. DP announced ‘the only problem is that with all the protein shakes, her farts take the paint off the walls’. Hardly anyone reacted and it went really awkward.

We had an argument about this when we arrived home and DP maintains I should lighten up. I feel like he embarrassed me for no reason and should apologise.

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Gtbb · 05/03/2025 10:43

He's her partner fortunately.
Thankfully not her husband.

pikkumyy77 · 05/03/2025 14:42

Are people hard of reading? Even if its in some sense “objectively true” that OP’s protein shakes make her fart, and that he is aware of this because they live together, how does that justify his bringing that up when her friends are praising her for her hard work at the gym?

If the position were reversed and the male partner were out with his buddies and they complimented him on his great football skills would it not be considered hostile for her to say “yeah but his crazy steroid use has given him a limp dick and he can no longer get it up.” I mean: thats just all in good fun, right?

LuckySantangelo35 · 05/03/2025 19:45

hangxiety · 03/03/2025 21:44

Sorry but I think what he said is hilarious 🤣 you sound uptight & no craic

@hangxiety

you sound quite immature

daleylama · 12/03/2025 04:37

Ratisshortforratthew · 03/03/2025 20:35

This is the kind of thing my partner and I would say and I’d have found it funny. So would my friends. You and they sound humorless and uptight to me

speaking of nasty..read your post.

daleylama · 12/03/2025 04:46

SummerFeverVenice · 04/03/2025 09:21

I’m sure we are like other girls. We can’t be the only 2 girls in existence that think alike or the only 2 girls in existence to have brothers.

It seems to be common sense, but maybe not. Women are not a monolith, we are individual humans with a diversity of opinions, interests, goals and outlooks on life, relationships and humour. Saying a woman “is not like other girls” in a derisory fashion is a subtle pressure tactic used to enforce gender conformity within women.

Edit:
And saying ‘what are you 12yrs old?’ Is more of the same pressuring by calling another woman’s opinion childish.

Posting derisory comments about the person is a great strategy to win enemies and lose friends.

If you are secure in your opinion, you should not feel the need to attack posters who have a different opinion. Perhaps today’s affirmation for you should be “I am good enough, my opinion is good enough, and I will not feel threatened by opinions that are not like mine”

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Hi pot, meet kettle😅

Ratisshortforratthew · 12/03/2025 21:51

pikkumyy77 · 05/03/2025 14:42

Are people hard of reading? Even if its in some sense “objectively true” that OP’s protein shakes make her fart, and that he is aware of this because they live together, how does that justify his bringing that up when her friends are praising her for her hard work at the gym?

If the position were reversed and the male partner were out with his buddies and they complimented him on his great football skills would it not be considered hostile for her to say “yeah but his crazy steroid use has given him a limp dick and he can no longer get it up.” I mean: thats just all in good fun, right?

I don’t think anabolic steroids are comparable to protein shakes but… yes, this is my kind of humour and the kind of thing I’d say.

pikkumyy77 · 12/03/2025 22:22

What a lovely partner you must be!

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