To be jealous of everyone getting slim in weight loss jabs while I get fatter !

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Okay - lighthearted ? Maybe.

I’ve been lucky to grow up and be a size 10 . Had a baby at 27. Lost all the weight but my body changed. Baby 2 , again gained 4 stone but I’ve always kept the last stone. I am now 12/14 uk.

I work full time and have two children . I eat healthy for the most part and walk and exercise. When I am super strict which feels so much harder at 40 I am a size 12 but unlike in my 30s it seems so much harder to lose weight now . I feel crap in my clothes and I wish and dream of being a size 10. Call me pathetic !

My brother and his wife , twos sisters and their husbands , work colleagues and a few of my good friends who were never obese but had a few stone to lose are all taking weight loss jabs. They have all lost around 2/3/4 stone and are all now looking fab . All the women are now in size 8 jeans and I am jealous. I sound pathetic . None of these ladies were any bigger than a 14/16 to start with.

I totally understand these jabs are so life changing for so many people who need them but it seems in my life everyone has taken them and gone from a 14/16 to a size 8/6 size Uk and I can’t help but feel like if I just bloody jump on the bandwagon I will feel good, feel happy and be slim.

Now everyone around me is so slim I feel ever more aware of my size .

I want to state I exercise and do eat a healthy diet . I have just found after two babies and getting older unless I basically stick to 1200 calories a day I can’t maintain a size 12.
Ahhhhhh. Sorry for sounding so so so vain.

Yeah same here. My DP likes food but he has a normal amount and then is fine. If I have something vaguely “unhealthy” I feel an overwhelming compulsion to eat it until I am totally stuffed. I also have a compulsion to carry on binge eating all of that day as the day is already ruined.

For context, this isn’t just excessive snacking - it’s eating huge amounts. On a binge day this is what my diet would typically look like (and it’s quite clear it was not normal):
4 pastries (croissants or similar)
4-6 slices of toast with butter
a whole packet of cold meats like salami
2 bags of haribos or other jelly sweets
a whole packet of biscuits
a whole takeaway pizza
2 bottles of fizzy drink
1 huge plate of pasta with cheese
1 whole packet of crackers or cheese twists

I would eat throughout the day and would spend most of it napping or sitting on the sofa and was extremely unproductive. This sort of day would occur minimum once a week, often more and sometimes would go on for three days in a row. Usually when my DP was away as it was very secretive.

i wanted nothing more than to stop but felt completely unable to do so. It was as if something was taking over my body - i remember standing at the tesco checkout and saying to myself “I haven’t eaten anything yet - I could put it all back” but something stopped me. Since starting Mounjaro I have not binged once for six weeks, nor felt the urge to. I eat very healthily- the same as I always did on my non-binge days.

I think you have falsely framed this thread.
It sounds like people’s use of these jabs and their weight loss has re-triggered your eating disorder feelings.
You should visit your GP for support with that.

Good luck! x

So for you Mounjaro has absolutely been worth it and the benefits will almost 100% outweigh any potential risks ( that will probably never affect you anyway).

Do you feel there was a psychological element to your binge eating or do you think it was entirely physiological?

You're tempting me! I was also thin until traumatic events in mid twenties, mainly caring for and death of my dad who died of heart failure having been very overweight for many years, same symptoms as your dad. Really awful way to die I'm sorry you went through this too.

I don't want to put my children through what I went through. I'm not as big as my dad by any means but very gradually gained for several years and want to reverse the trend!

Did you have any side effects?

I'm also a size 22! I'm 6ft so I my ideal size is a 14.

True, I'm 6ft and busty and at a 16 I was not obese .

Same op. Tempted to get something cheaper that may suppress my appetite. I never had much of an appetite until I had kids and now I'm starving 😫

4 pastries (croissants or similar)
4-6 slices of toast with butter
a whole packet of cold meats like salami
2 bags of haribos or other jelly sweets
a whole packet of biscuits
a whole takeaway pizza
2 bottles of fizzy drink
1 huge plate of pasta with cheese
1 whole packet of crackers or cheese twists

I admire your honest, but that's a lot of food for one person, obsessively eating, sleeping a lot too, of course it will make you obese and sluggish.

Thats an interesting question. I have had trauma in my childhood and have suffered on off from depression in my life, so yes there probably was/is a psychological element to it deep down. I have had a lot of counselling but unfortunately it just doesn’t have a big impact for me and doesn’t help very much. I have tried stuff like hypnosis as well as well as a slew of self help books. So I have resigned myself to the fact that it’s a physical thing even if its cause was psychological.
I think that many people have the idea that “you just need to fix the mental issue” but I have tried for many years and it doesn’t seem to work - I’ve also taken antidepressants.

My sister has ADHD and a symptom of that is binge eating. I don’t think I have ADHD but there are symptoms of it that I recognise in myself so I’m not sure. Or it could be a simple hormonal imbalance in my body that the GLP-1 medication fixes. I take a microdose I should have said - about three quarters of the lowest dose available. I don’t have suppressed hunger but I am now in control of food and don’t feel any urge to binge.

Errr yes I know. I wanted to put it out there so that people could see that it’s not just pure greed and laziness and wanting a quick fix so that I could have a couple of more biscuits. It’s around three times what a normal person needs calorie-wise. It fills me with shame and I’d never admit to anyone IRL that I ate like that. If anything I’m probably lucky I didn’t gain more weight from it.
But I wanted to show my lack of control over it, the fact that I knew it was too much and was disgusted by it, yet I still did it.

I think the poster probably knows that it’s a lot of food and also that it’s the cause of obesity. The problem is how to stop doing it.

Some of my overeating may have been psychological, some may have been because my body doesn’t recognise when to stop and some is almost certainly sheer greed but how do you successfully unpack all that?

For me Mounjaro gives me the space to make those changes, to understand my relationship with food and to recognise what portion size looks like for me. I’ve had this space to think on low carb diets but weigh watchers etc throws me into panic mode and starts to make me obsess over food which then leads to me overeating again.

It’s not a magic wand. You still have to do the work yourself. It’s not cheating either. It’s just yet another aid for treating obesity.

I don't think it's "normal" to not think about food at all, particularly as a woman with the mental load of feeding the family.

For me, that's totally different. Yes sure, I will think about what to cook for DC, what I have in the fridge, do I need to drop by supermarket. But before, I would be imagining how I will be eating that food, and how much of it I can eat, and what will I then have later for a snack etc etc. Now I can think about dinner plans just like any other domestic task.

Wow, thanks for your insight, I'm sure it's super appreciated and helpful 🙄

I'm just like you. I also wouldn't and haven't shared IRL what my binges look like...the shame.
Just wanted to share an empathetic ear.

@DrunkOnYourAwe It was actually when I was looking at the WLI forums on here that I was finally tempted to take the leap, they have a monthly group where everyone starts at the same time and supports each other. I was very wary of side effects, but I just reached a point where I realised that I was kidding myself to keep trying the same thing and failing. I've been paying weight watchers since 2017! Also, I was sick of feeling anxious about fitting into plane seats, or whether I could fit on a roller coaster with my kids (at Alton Towers staff did need to shove me into a couple of rides which was mortifying).

I did have a few minor side effects at the start, although I got used to it within a few weeks. I would say I am pretty sensitive to it so I'm still only on a low dose of 5mg after 4 months and have great suppression. It took a bit to wrap my head round not feeling hungry or feeling full really quickly, that was emotionally odd. But now I'm into the swing it is all fine. I get slight burps the day after I jab, and if I have too much to drink or unhealthy/fatty food I get heart burn. But I don't really crave or miss those things now. Switching off the craving for booze was a revelation!

I do worry about what happens when I get to a healthy weight, but my weight loss is 1-2 lbs a week so I've got a good few months yet. A size 14 would suit me fine as I'm 5ft 10. Anything smaller and I look ill.

So as I'm on this for a while I'm trying really hard to retrain my eating habits, I have a PT and do strength work, and I'm trying to set myself up to be able to maintain when I get to the end.

But, if I have to go on a low dose to help me stay at a healthy weight then I will. The biggest thing was regulating the low blood sugar shakes, I don't have the blood sugar highs and lows, they are gone! I save more money on eating crap and drinking booze so it is worth it.

It's not for everyone, but it has been lifechanging for me. My husband is delighted that I am enjoying life again.

I'm 5'10'' a 16 and now classed as overweight.
I look ridiculous under a 14 as I am very busty. I also think at 59 I don't want a skinny bum. I'm all belly and boobs but I prefer it to a size 24 which I was.

Sadly I'm poorly at the moment so no dieting but I truly belive WLJ are a godsend particularly to those who would have had surgery. I know three people who have had baratric surgery, only one successfully.

In my 20s and even 30s I might have judged you.Now I am way older, I have realised that some people have really terrible childhoods, and that has a fall out.

I had pretty decent and loving parents, who cooked very healthy food. Beginning to realise now it was a privilege and that obesity is quite complex. Have changed my mind on many things.

I’m glad you’ve found something that works for you ❤️

I’m interested in the idea of micro dosing. Might try that myself in future as the full dose ( even the starting one) didn’t agree with me. At the moment I’m just dieting the traditional way but the weight is very slow to fall away (& so quick to regain going on previous experiences of diets).

I feel the same too! Most of my friends and naturally slim they must hardly eat and work out all the time! I’ve been going through a really hard time and it just hasn’t been a priority to me. I’m one of those people who gains weight if stressed etc. Love a takeaway and bottle of wine. I keep seeing scare stories of the weight loss jabs and it puts me off. Plus they are super expensive and I’d rather spend that money on my kids/ house. When they stop taking it they will gain the weight too! As long as you’re healthy that’s the main thing! It’s important to feel happy too and if you can chanel these feelings into motivation you may be able to hit your weight/ fitness goals naturally and that would be so so much better! Ps I even have a few friends who have had weight loss surgery and are wasting away!! It’s mad!

Having just been released from the hospital after nearly dying with Pancreatitis and complications from taking the weight loss jabs, I really don’t think people understand the serious side effects of these jabs on the body.

It was great to loose 4 stone that I really did need to loose and I would probably still be using them if not for the issues, however the pain and the fear of dying really has put my weight into perspective for me.

I will continue to try to loose weight, but it is no longer my main focus anymore. I would rather work on being healthy and being here for my family.

I am not attacking anyone on this thread. But I will always point out ignorance and lack of critical thinking when I see it. Especially when it manifests as potentially dangerous scaremongering.

It is heartbreaking that people who could benefit hugely from taking Mounjaro might be frightened off after reading the salacious tittle tattle on threads like these.

Yes surgery is more concerning to me than the possible side effects of weight loss drugs. It seems so extreme and the one person I knew who did it had terrible dietary habits afterwards so still wasn’t eating healthily. Plus had side effects even years later that weren’t nice. Appreciate that’s only one person though.

No judgement re people who undergo surgery but I agree WLIs are a better alternative for most very obese people.

I think it varies. I know what you mean about the initial loss requiring less restriction, and I agree it helps. Though insulin resistance can play havoc with that process, and other complications as you say.

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