My neighbour has been annoying me for months and months

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I couldn’t take it any more today and snapped at her to just fuck off and leave us alone.

She moved in just over 2 years ago and was overly friendly from the start but I thought it was just her trying to be nice. About a year ago she seemed to be there every time either of us left the house.
She started asking could she add a few bits to our weekly grocery delivery and then didn’t pay us back so after 3 weeks I said sorry we won’t be doing that any more.
If dh goes in the garden she’s there asking for help with something, in spring and summer she wants him to cut her grass for her and when he said sorry he’s busy and doing ours then we have plans she text me to say I’m controlling not allowing him to help her ??

Knocking all the time asking to ‘borrow’ Dh for lifting something / fixing something / etc etc

Wanting to park on our drive often and when I say no she does it anyway ??

EVERY bloody weekday morning she’s there waiting by the car wanting a lift to school and sometimes dh drops me to work on the way and then there isn’t enough room for her and her dc and she will say that I should make my own way then storms off !

There’s more as well I can’t list it all but she’s suffocating and relentless and so so needy.

Today she has been texting asking can dh drop her to the out of hours as she hasn’t felt well. I said no we are busy she should get a taxi. She then came round to ask dh herself and when i said he was busy she said ‘you don’t own him !!’

I’ve told her to never contact us again that we find her exhausting and are considering moving . She told me she wouldn’t be so persistent if we were ‘better natured’ and ‘helped without pressure’ 😂😂 which was when I told her to FO and shut the door.

She text afterwards to tell me I’m very selfish and I don’t have a ‘village mindset’ !!

What happened in the end OP? Did she back off?

Have you posted about her before? If so, I remember thinking “I hope the OP tells this cheeky cow to fuck off” so I’m delighted you have!

She’s an entitled horror and also, I suspect, fancies your husband.

This is giving me Nighty Night vibes

It's all nuts. If you are a woman on your own as I am, you need to cut your own grass (or pay a gardener) and get yourself to places and buy your own loo roll etc. 6 fried eggs is incredible.

Be very careful as she will likely now escalate her behaviour having been given a boundary.

I had a similar nightmare neighbour many years ago and it was a living hell at the time. started with a small kindness and escalated to her being round all the time and making outrageous demands like for us to insure her on our car ‘it will be easier than me having to ask for lifts all the time’. She also was a single lady and not elderly just a deeply damaged person. We felt constantly harassed and spied on in our own home and could not get any peace. When I told her firmly in writing to stop she went even more crazy and did stuff like making silent phone calls from withheld numbers late at night, reporting us to social services and making complaints to my workplace!

You are not being unreasonable- someone who tries to exploit a sense of community like this just need to be avoided, she wants an lift and reckons you should make your own way? That sounds like massive mental health problems, especially backed up with her idea a sausage roll and 6 fried eggs constitutes a meal. Just calmly and firmly say no to any request or demand, don't make a big thing of it though- you still have to live next to her.

Lol like cadging Carol from the Royle family.
I also have one. She appears at the door and she doesn’t even say hello, she just says , ‘is Dave in’ to which I answer no, even if he is. Then I ask the problem and she’ll say oh I have a problem with my lawnmower/ bath taps or whatever and I give her a number for a repair man off google , the most expensive one I can find . Otherwise I offer my own services with the caveat that I know nothing about lawnmowers but then , neither does Dave 🤷‍♀️